Men' s dating stages in life 20's 30's 40's

angelbunnydarlinglibra

Eric J. Leech??There are several key stages in a??man??s life??that will drive his??passions, relationships, and fears. The three pivotal stages which will decide ultimately who he is and what he will accomplish will occur sometime between his early twenties and late forties.The Guy in His TwentiesThe man in his twenties is focused on leaving his mark. Men gauge much of their worth by their job performance, so it is not uncommon to find men of this age becoming workaholics. Beyond work, the younger man is busy discovering who he is and what he cares about. If he fails to find a stable partner, it may set the stage to enter his thirties in stagnation, self-absorbed and fearing commitment.A good woman can save him from this, but she will need to learn to communicate with him.If a woman wants to get something across, she has to come right out and say it in concrete terms. When a woman complains of being unhappy in terms like, ???Even when you??re here, you aren??t really here,?? he??s going to look at her like she??s speaking Dr. Seuss. Instead, she could say, ???When you come home from work, I understand that you may need time to unwind, but I really enjoy talking to you, and would like to do it more often.??A man in his twenties may doubt his ability to make a woman happy, compensating by dating as many women as he can. Younger men seek safety in numbers (of women), but what they fail to realize is that women hate the numbers game, and those numbers can dwindle quickly once one number starts talking to another. Use these five rules to get the younger man to commit to just you.
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The Guy in His Thirties

A guy in his thirties (depending on if he is married) may not feel much different from his twenties. He may be slightly irresponsible and selfish, but will soon realize that he is not as indestructible as he once thought. These are the years when he will realize his inevitable decline. This may benchmark a sadness over his lost youth, but can lead to a renewed drive to find a lasting love.

Working against his search for companionship will be the fact that he is becoming set in his ways as a single bachelor. This can bring about a lot of conflict in relationships, as while he may say he wants to be a team, he lacks the ability to think beyond himself. Getting a guy in his thirties to commit is a bit of a race against time. The longer he enjoys his bachelorhood, the more set in his ways he will become.

One of the first things a woman can do to ease a thirty-year-old into commitment is to understand his fears. One thing all men fear is failure. Failure at work, life, and in their relationships. Men like to be the hero, which means knowing he can please his partner, making her feel secure and loved. Men are more apt to listen and act upon relationship problems when criticisms are preceded by a compliment.
angelbunnydarlinglibra
The Guy in His Forties

Being comfortable and secure in life, family, friends, and career are what every man hopes to achieve by the time he is forty ??? but not every man does. Some men have no more understanding of who they are at forty than when they were twenty. A confused guy in his forties may wish he could start over, pulling away from his long-term partner, cheating on his wife, buying a red sports car, and partaking in what??s been described as a ???mid-life crisis.??

The unmarried forty-year-old has lived for himself for over twenty years. He has seen enough weary married men dragged through the mall behind their wives to believe that there isn??t always a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. He may fear commitment and marriage more than ever, and the chance that he will make a lifestyle change is slim. If he doesn??t want to get married (i.e., doesn??t want kids), take his word at face value. What you see/hear is generally what you get.

One of the biggest complaints for older men is that they are stuck in their glory days, wearing the same clothes, listening to the same music, and using the same pickup lines as they did in college. Women, however, embrace the new by keeping up on the latest music, fashions, and hip dialect. This may lead some women to date younger men, but with age comes benefits. The older man is generally more stable (emotionally and financially), a better listener, and in some ways a superior (more controlled) sex partner.

So ladies, when you cast your line out to the man-sea, know that there really is no way to gauge which ones to throw back by their age. All men mature differently, offering a different experience depending on the outcome of each stage. Ultimately, what you are looking for is a man who knows who he is, or is at least well on his way to making that discovery!

What??s your take on how men??mature??_ or don??t?
james tate
HUM
angelbunnydarlinglibra
right!my thoughts exactly you cookie monsters are nuts!
venusianbull
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.
james tate
watch it V/B watch it. Lets not go there.
venusianbull
Oh but I think we ought. In great detail.
james tate
BAD WOMAN, BAD WOMAN.
Becides I am in a commited relationship for awhile.
You know my friends keep telling me I'M not a kid at 43.
Could be my last chance you never know.
The question is, is it worth it?
angelbunnydarlinglibra
Posted by venusianbull
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.




totally true,but i think this is worth reading since its written by a dude...who knows
angelbunnydarlinglibra
Posted by venusianbull
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.


kinda like fonzie??
venusianbull
I am a GOOD WOMAN. And well you know it.
So you're not a kid, big deal. It's all on how you feel inside. The old adage holds true.
I scoff at the last chance bit, in life we are given many of them. It is up to us to grab hold of what we feel is right.
And absolutely it's worth it. Every maddening step of the way.
venusianbull
LOL angel, exactly like Fonzie. Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
james tate
Half 8 half drunk can't think so no argument tonight. Have a good trip lov talk again some day.
angelbunnydarlinglibra
Posted by VitasXisto
That's some good butter right there, and I agree with the article 100%. I also do agree with venusian, some men mature faster then others, some have their butter together early in life, however in my opinion some men don't wish to succeed early in life because they enjoy the liberties of not having strong responsibilities, a confident man knows when to pursuit, when to endure and when to engage a goal or task at full hand. Those who succeed early in life, would eventually have more challenges and battles to face, whether it'd be lost youth or sacrificing the times. One must know who he is before excelling in your profound passions or endeavors. Discipline of mind, discipline of body and discipline of emotions must be the priority of all men........
what do you mean by disipline of mind??do you guys brainwash yourselfs into thinking no emotions??what about all the good women in the world?are we to be left lonely ???just curious my ex seemed like he showed no emotion sometimes,i just dont want him to be old fat and bald one day wishing he woulda called me and fixed things,because if he did i'd be right there with him making him a chicken pot pie lol,but i guess not apparently,f~it who gives a butter anyway lol but please answer still hahaha
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