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doubleleo
4/28/2012 1:12:47 PM | IP
doubleleo

I'm a 22 female and I been single for about about six months. I when to a few dates and I still hadn't found my match yet. I'm starting to dislike the dating scene because its too stressful and people nowadays play mind games. I feel like today people of my age group are confused on what they are seeking for. I'm confused because people tell me that I'm attractive, laid back and a interesting girl but I still don't get why I'm still single. I also decided to stop online dating because it seems to be not working for me. Now I'm just trying to get myself busy and let love find me.

Am I seeking for love in the wrong places?
Anyone have any advice for me?
Should I let Love find me instead?
sweethearts
4/30/2012 6:59:38 PM | IP
sweethearts

female

I've never found love while looking for it... done the clubs etc and had heaps of fun with my friends but not love. love most recently found me while I was doing the household shopping. just casually taking care of business and when my man approached me and asked me out I took a chance.

prior to that one if the nicest dates I'd been on I was asked out by the waiter at the restaurant I was having lunch with a gf in. last thing on my mind was looking for love. so sit back, relax, occupy yourself with doing you and it'll happen.

and yes I know what you mean by those dating sites. some people like them but I've found them forced or seedy and unnatural!
doubleleo
4/30/2012 9:12:40 PM | IP
doubleleo

Hey,

Thanks guys for answering my post. You guys are right I shouldn't be looking for it, I should just focus on my studies. I have faith someday I will find love or it will find me ^_^


Thank You again.
little_sparrow
5/12/2012 9:29:46 PM | IP
little_sparrow

female from the sparrow tree

Five planets of Libra

I'm pretty convinced dating is the worst thing people do to each other. It is heart wrenching experience. Love comes when it comes. Don't take it personal. Best of luck in your search.
kukupuffs093
5/14/2012 9:29:34 PM | IP
kukupuffs093

20 years old female from America  

Aquarius :) Lol. I have not been o

Posted by doubleleo
I'm a 22 female and I been single for about about six months. I when to a few dates and I still hadn't found my match yet. I'm starting to dislike the dating scene because its too stressful and people nowadays play mind games. I feel like today people of my age group are confused on what they are seeking for. I'm confused because people tell me that I'm attractive, laid back and a interesting girl but I still don't get why I'm still single. I also decided to stop online dating because it seems to be not working for me. Now I'm just trying to get myself busy and let love find me.

Am I seeking for love in the wrong places?
Anyone have any advice for me?
Should I let Love find me instead?


Omg I agree. The mind games. I hate them. No one ever wins. It's so stupid. I wish people would be more upfront with their feelings. You don't have to be blunt about it but at least show that you car. I don't know what to make of "finding love" anymore. I just wish everyone would realize that love shouldn't be a game and that it's something precious.
rockyroadicecream
5/14/2012 11:57:19 PM | IP
rockyroadicecream



The dating pool needs to be chlorinated.
james tate
5/15/2012 3:29:07 PM | IP
james tate

46 years old male from Llandrindod wells, Powys  Wales  

YOU ALL BELONG IN A (RE ED U MA CATION) CAMP.
robyn808
5/16/2012 10:11:49 AM | IP
robyn808



Virgo Rising, Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon

You shouldn't be afraid to be single, spending time away from a relationship will help you establish your own Identity. Relationships require compromise, and weather they realize it or not each person is significantly influenced by the other.

Dating sites may work for some people, but for me I found it to be counter productive. I will say that I never took it seriously or had any expectations, but I wanted to be open to it, if I found a connection worth exploring. And I found that with maybe 1 out of a hundred guy's I talked too. My biggest issue was the other 99. I wasn't disappointing, but all the BS was seriously turning me into a maneater.

My mother always told me to never take relationship or dating advice from single people, but I'll give it to you anyway. Expand your social life, the easiest person to meet is a friend of a friend. There's less pressure, and more trust if you each have someone you know to vouch for the other, and shady behavior is less acceptable in those situations. Lots of group activities where everyone's welcome, and if you don't meet someone, you still had a great time.
james tate
5/16/2012 10:28:27 AM | IP
james tate

46 years old male from Llandrindod wells, Powys  Wales  

I am not sure any of you can find love
westside
5/17/2012 5:59:43 PM | IP
westside

19 years old male from Tennessee  AMERICA!  

an obvious gemini,i write poetry and rea

hey mr james tate
westside
5/17/2012 6:00:04 PM | IP
westside

19 years old male from Tennessee  AMERICA!  

an obvious gemini,i write poetry and rea

slob a chicken
TaurusBadGirl
5/19/2012 5:48:05 PM | IP
TaurusBadGirl

female

Believe me, when your mind is set in looking for someone it never happens..I was attracting a whole bunch of players and losers for a while..I had just given up and I thought *this is it* I stopped, I just concentrated on work and my kids..I wasn't even thinking men existed. One night without even looking, I found the love of my life..and the crazy thing about it was I knew he was the one after just maybe 30 minutes into our conversation. So my advice to you is, get it out of your mind..It's like the women that want to get preggo and all they do when making love is think about getting preggo..and they never do..The first thing the Dr tells them is *Don't think about it*

Stay positive but don't make it your ultimate goal. You are still young have fun, believe me it will come when you least expect it.

Good luck
Huntress
5/20/2012 3:19:12 PM | IP
Huntress

from New England  US  

Lioness, lunar Scorp, & hedonistic. INTP

It's only been 6 months. And yes, dating scene is a mess - I have actually never gone into the 'dating scene' tbh because I have never been attracted to that type of recreation. I've always just done my own thing and it has found me.

And I feel compelled to tell you my mom did the dating scene for 15 years after my father. She actually bumped into the father of one of my peers in my martial arts classes. He was divorced. They were grocery shopping.

They're now married and so in love. I know that that long spam of time is unappealing, but she would have never found her mate if she just focused on dating. On her own with a child (me yay) she went up college and is making a bunch of money and working hard. She's my hero. Strong, sexy, and always ready to adventure. In doing her own thing, she found that she was the happiest. Funny enough, suitors were always coming in when she was doing her own thing.

I think this society makes people feel empty without a partner. It's more important to feel whole by yourself, and from there you'll always be loved even as others come and go.
doubleleo
5/21/2012 12:34:49 PM | IP
doubleleo

Posted by kukupuffs093
Posted by doubleleo
I'm a 22 female and I been single for about about six months. I when to a few dates and I still hadn't found my match yet. I'm starting to dislike the dating scene because its too stressful and people nowadays play mind games. I feel like today people of my age group are confused on what they are seeking for. I'm confused because people tell me that I'm attractive, laid back and a interesting girl but I still don't get why I'm still single. I also decided to stop online dating because it seems to be not working for me. Now I'm just trying to get myself busy and let love find me.

Am I seeking for love in the wrong places?
Anyone have any advice for me?
Should I let Love find me instead?


Omg I agree. The mind games. I hate them. No one ever wins. It's so stupid. I wish people would be more upfront with their feelings. You don't have to be blunt about it but at least show that you car. I don't know what to make of "finding love" anymore. I just wish everyone would realize that love shouldn't be a game and that it's something precious.





AMEN! =)
doubleleo
5/21/2012 12:38:51 PM | IP
doubleleo

Posted by Huntress
It's only been 6 months. And yes, dating scene is a mess - I have actually never gone into the 'dating scene' tbh because I have never been attracted to that type of recreation. I've always just done my own thing and it has found me.

And I feel compelled to tell you my mom did the dating scene for 15 years after my father. She actually bumped into the father of one of my peers in my martial arts classes. He was divorced. They were grocery shopping.

They're now married and so in love. I know that that long spam of time is unappealing, but she would have never found her mate if she just focused on dating. On her own with a child (me yay) she went up college and is making a bunch of money and working hard. She's my hero. Strong, sexy, and always ready to adventure. In doing her own thing, she found that she was the happiest. Funny enough, suitors were always coming in when she was doing her own thing.

I think this society makes people feel empty without a partner. It's more important to feel whole by yourself, and from there you'll always be loved even as others come and go.


That is very true about not just focusing on dating but also on your life. I'm currently just focusing in school and your all right that I am still young and should live my life. For now I will just focus on myself and hopefully I find someone soon ^_^

I'm just going to love myself ! =)

 

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