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leilaxxlovez
7/30/2012 9:57:08 AM | IP
leilaxxlovez

female from Namibia  

Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to b

I have always been a believer, and I've had times when I felt really close to God, and times when I felt far away from him. The bible says that thou shalt not enter the Kingdom of heaven if one is not born again.

I became born again last week Tuesday, and it was so overwhelming as I felt God's love wash over my sins and he forgave me.

The problem is, I have been dating a guy for a year now, and we are pretty serious...but I feel that somehow, things are really gonna have to change. I feel that being in this relationship, I'm being held back from truly being the christian I want to be...we are very affectionate with each other and even though we both chose to wait until marriage, he is still somewhat sexual.
I'm not one to judge...but over time, our spiritual maturity is not on the same level. He takes wonder in physical appearance, almost like that's all he sees at times, focuses on material things that will not in the end make one happy. We love each other, but now I feel we are drifting, because I don't feel that need to always be with him, I don't see him as my all in all anymore, I see God as my all in all. My salvation, because ever since he showed me love...the ultimate love a human being could desire, I am not craving a man's acceptance and admiration anymore.

I love him, but its an earthy love, and I know he's not the ultimate source of love, so its not as deep.
My question is, he's not born again, but he is devoted to God here and there. If u were in my shoes, would you continue dating him? And are born agains supposed to date?
leilaxxlovez
7/30/2012 1:21:28 PM | IP
leilaxxlovez

female from Namibia  

Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to b

Thank you so much...and I agree with you, I really don't expect him to change, because if he did, he wouldn't be the man I love. I have accepted him throughout, and I'll never try to change him. Thank you for your advice, it means a lot to me. About being spiritually advanced, it wasn't because of the presence I felt at all...
james tate
7/30/2012 2:00:46 PM | IP
james tate

46 years old male from Llandrindod wells, Powys  Wales  

Question what religion are you you said you are christian but what sect?
Are you both of the same faith?
does this in any way effect your thoughts about how devoted to God he is?

I am just woundering I am not a religious man my self but there is a very religious woman who I have been seeing as a friend for awhile we do go out together but as friends.
If you choise not to answer I understand.
james tate
7/30/2012 2:02:51 PM | IP
james tate

46 years old male from Llandrindod wells, Powys  Wales  

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ArticleL
7/30/2012 2:26:28 PM | IP
ArticleL

The answer is easy look into your refrigerator and see what you want to eat choices are most the time availible they just need decisions to back them up.

-Trots off-
leilaxxlovez
7/30/2012 2:59:57 PM | IP
leilaxxlovez

female from Namibia  

Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to b

Its alright Tate, I really don't mind. I'm catholic, he's an Anglican...we actually do not have any major problems with accepting each other's beliefs and all, because we are both christians.
Nala13
7/30/2012 3:05:13 PM | IP
Nala13

37 years old female from A place called Happy, the journey was all about getting to know me  

Pretty funny, almost always on time. I c

Well how would you feel if the situation were reversed? If he decided to re-dedicate his life to God and you had not done so. Perhaps, you are supposed to be the "light" that leads him to a closer relationship with God. I doubt that the purpose of you being born again or saved has anything at all to do with you. The primary reason might be to help another person, to lead a Christ-like life. I recall something in the Bible about Christ keeping company with the thiefs and prostitues, yes?

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

I am not religious but I respect your beliefs and commitment. Congratulations.
leilaxxlovez
7/30/2012 3:59:15 PM | IP
leilaxxlovez

female from Namibia  

Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to b

Thank you Nala, I talked to a friend of mine who has been a strong believer for years, and she said the same thing about me leading him to have a closer relationship with God* actually she stated that its not just with him, but with people I am exposed to, there's always a reason paths cross, there's always a bigger reason*
ArticleL
7/30/2012 4:34:52 PM | IP
ArticleL

Changing folks only happens willingly I wish you the best of the nasty word called luck.
P-Angel
8/7/2012 10:54:57 AM | IP
P-Angel

54 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

Posted by leilaxxlovez

The bible says that thou shalt not enter the Kingdom of heaven if one is not born again.






I would be interested in reading the passages in the bible that say that ^^^^ ... could you please direct me to where it says the above?

 

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