After MONTHS of pain with my Scorpio Ex, REVENGE

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11/13/2011 1:55:34 PM | More
Bethann

Ah, Revenge is sweet!

First of all, thank you to everyone on this board, you guys all really helped me and I thank you so much.

I have been offered a permanent position here within my company in my hometown, which I have accepted. No more travel. I can finally have a life amongst my family and friends.

Now the fun stuff, MY REVENGE!!! It appears to me that he may have some regretts, I have been civil when I see him, make sure I look spectacular. I have been working out like a mad woman, more for my mental state of mind, however the physical benefits have been wonderful. The woman in me is loving, absolutely LOVING that it seems to make him a tad jealous when he sees me out. I will admit, I make darn sure I look like a freaken model,(well best I can anyway) when I go out. I purposley dress how he likes, and I must admit, I feel pretty good about how I am looking these days, he will be out with his friends, sometimes she is with them. I make sure one of my girls watch his reaction, stupid I know, but this has been fun. He squirms a bit, he called me the other night, kind of chewing me out for dancing! He said he didnt' know I could dance, then he said "I'm not the jealous type, you do what you want" then a few minutes later he is being all reminicent of our past, I said, "Yes, we did have alot of fun didn't we? Its too bad how it all fell apart, but you seem happy with her, and I am moving on too" he says "How about you and I go out to dinner tomorrow night?" I said I was busy. Keep in mind, this conversation was at like 1 in the morning, I would never accept a date from a drunk dial!!

He flat out says he hates the thought of me being with another man. He says he is not jealous, but I like to think he is.

So, did I stumble upon the achillies heel of a Scorpio man? Does it really bug him that I am out and about, with other men flirtting with me, asking me to dance, etc. etc. OR wishfull thinking on my part?

My question is this my Scorpio's - Could he really be jealous? I guess I need to know I am sticking it to him just a bit, I am not being all over these guys, not my style, (Virgo) but I am having fun. I love that it is maybe hurting him even if just a little.

What do you think? ( I know, I know very high school, but still, it has been fun, I have not gone looking for him, I just make sure in case I see him I look my best.
11/13/2011 2:43:41 PM | More
BigGirlPanties

female

Of course he is jealous...his comments speak for themselves. My concern is how much energy you are putting into making him notice how hot you are....this is NOT letting go. Take it from one who has done that too many times. And you are still speaking to him...the cord isnt cut, love. Dont let that cord strangle you. Take care of and do you!! FOR YOU!
11/13/2011 2:53:43 PM | More
Bethann

I'm not seeking revenge, revenge, like slashing tires, sleeping with his friends and that crap, I know it bothers him my being out, and available, I am not some tavern wench that grinds on guys, gets all hammererd and goes home with ransoms. He cheated on me, I dumped him and while I still love him, and he has Vern calling and texting like crazy since I got home, I can't ever trust him again.

I just want him to REGRET the hurt he caused me, I love knowing the thought of me with someone else bothers him. If even a smudge, but I wouldn't do it for the sake of ticking him off, I'm
No just like me. He does know that. I love how when I am out he watches every move I make. I like how that is annoying her! All the hurt she put me through? To have me back in town rattles her.
11/13/2011 3:01:44 PM | More
Bethann

I am well aware I am still in love, and will always love him. We were perfect, then he cheated when I was out of town. I can't trust. But now that I'm back? For good? I like how he seems to be regretting it. She is kind of vulgar, I actually kind of laughed when I saw what she wears. Pretty loud clothing, pretty loud mouth. He looked embarrassed. Thats when I left the club. He likes understated and elegant. I HAD to leave so I didn't laugh out loud. Immature of me? Oh yeah. I know. But it is nice to know my being here is freaking her out. I guess my heart needs these little things, if nothing else but to make me feel I'm worth something.
11/13/2011 3:45:47 PM | More
Reconstructing_a_Leo



Liz Greene, Howard Sasportas, Richard Id

Most often a relationship with a Scorp, kinda goes like this: they'll somehow (un)willingly uncovering your weak spot and poke it with a stick (not fun). You crumble. They see you being weak, look at you fighting with that weakness, even poke some more. There's no mercy with a Scorpio. They're only into power. As soon as you get up, the scent of power brings them back. They become powerless facing your power. That's their drug.
Take the opportunity of meeting a Scorp to detach and observe exactly what it is they find as weak in you, since they are like sniffing doghounds. This is Pluto, neutral but challenging. Then look at Pluto's mythic bride, Persephone: a virgin picking flowers on a hilltop. You've gotta be very honest with yourself, to the core, to attract a Scorpio. No schemes, just honest and brave.
Don't hate the Scorp, look at your own wounds and see how the challenge got you on the other side in a stronger shape.
11/13/2011 3:49:35 PM | More
Reconstructing_a_Leo



Liz Greene, Howard Sasportas, Richard Id

Sorry about the spelling, typing fast on a phone, Bethann I hope you get my idea. In the end it is all about how you've dealt with that part of yourself, not about him. Sure and certain, the same thing will happen to the women after you.

11/13/2011 3:52:23 PM | More
Bethann

All I'm doing is living my life, if he shows up where I'm at, he shows up. It is comical. For sure. But what was not funny were the lies, and bullbutter I suffered through, and the incredible pain and uncertainty I went through. I am not evil, i would never lie to anyone, or cheat or plan a truly mean thing to realy hurt someone. But it is giving me some small bits of "so there" when I do run into him, Ive always kept in shape and I know he likes the way I dress. As far as telling him, or spilling the beans? Nothing to spill. But for me? I am loving how annoyed she is, how pissy he gets when I don't answer my phone, I'm glad he hates me dancing, I'm glad he worries wondering if I went home with someone- hence the calls late at night, to SEE if inam alone, I'm
No fool. I'm well aware he would love nothing more than for me to sit home like a good little girl and wait for him to come around. NOT happening. I'm staying as busy as I can so I DON'T cave in. I CAN'T cave in. This man lied repeatedly to me. One of his buddies has called me a few times, to ask me out, I'm not going there. The last thing I need is more drama with him. When I start dating again, and I will, I will be at peace with this. For now? I look great, I feel great and I'm proud of me. I'll get over this. But in the meantime, I love how my dancing with another man pisses him off!! I think after what he did to me a few swift kicks his way are warranted. So if I am taking pleasure in my tiny little victories, so what. it's not like I planned some all our crazy ass stalking attack. Living well is the best revenge. I've got a great, great career, I have worked out and am proud of keeping fit, I can wear my 22 year old daughters clothes- not that I do, I would look idiotic, but HE lost ME! I also love how other men say that he was a fool to do what he did, Even his friends say that, not only to me, but they gave said it to him.

I have met a Judge. His wife died three years ago. We workout at the same gym, we have gone for coffee a few times and are going kind of getting to know each other. He knows I'm coming off for me a hurtful breakup. So who knows. Oh, he's a Taurus.
11/13/2011 3:57:25 PM | More
Bethann

Reconstructing a Leo - you described him perfectly! Great insight.
11/13/2011 4:13:34 PM | More
Nemesis

female

☜❤☞ sharkoi :) ☜❤☞

treetrunk, do i hate relationships......

may i just ask why you seek revenge?! what are going to gain from it? it´s a greedy bastard that is never satisfied. you´ll have to feed it more and more...a bottomless pit.

11/13/2011 4:18:07 PM | More
Nemesis

female

☜❤☞ sharkoi :) ☜❤☞

bethann, you are a tad bit obesessed about your looks......
11/13/2011 4:19:00 PM | More
Nemesis

female

☜❤☞ sharkoi :) ☜❤☞

which is making you weak and distracts your focus from the real deal

11/13/2011 4:22:29 PM | More
exoskeleton

24 years old female

november 3rd

nem's right. the longer you feel the need to prove yourself to him, the longer he will have power over you. stop letting him define your worth. be your best for yourself, not with him in mind.
11/13/2011 4:24:02 PM | More
exoskeleton

24 years old female

november 3rd

btw - our curse as scorps is that we don't want our exes to be with anyone else, even if we don't want them anymore. we'd rather they die.

(dapper don told me this the other day, lmao )
11/13/2011 4:28:08 PM | More
Nemesis

female

☜❤☞ sharkoi :) ☜❤☞

what is harder than mending a broken heart?!


yes, fixing a broken ego. that just goes so much deeper.
11/13/2011 4:30:07 PM | More
Nemesis

female

☜❤☞ sharkoi :) ☜❤☞

Posted by everevolvingepithet
I am not evil, i would never lie to anyone, or cheat or plan a truly mean thing to realy hurt someone.

Doesn't this kinda contradict everything you opened this thread with.
Kudos to you for moving on though, if you fully have (and rightfully should imo).


i can´t take you seriously whilst wearing that "hat"
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