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8/3/2010 11:02:23 PM | More
hautescorp


Disappears. Usually, I'm good at figuring out people but this one I can't figure out. I see him once in a blue moon. We used to be good friends, stuff happened, then we had a fall out. Now were back to being friends again but we don't talk like we used too. When I see him he will go out of his way to do really nice things for me. Last week, I ran into him while I was having dinner with my friends, gave me a big hug, then left. When I asked the waiter for the bill he said that the bill has been paid for by the gentleman that left. So I called him to say thank you of course and in return he says "I love you". I know Scorpio's don't say they love someone unless they do but with him I'm not sure. He doesn't put effort to be in my life and we don't talk on the phone. He acts super interested only when I run into him. I need good advice from other Scorpios. What kind of game is he playing?
8/4/2010 6:39:26 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

He's trying to get you to chase. Then he'll disappear again so you'll chase some more. After about, oh, 35 episodes of this, he might finally trust that you care enough and won't vanish anymore. But, then again, maybe not.

Welcome to the ride! Please keep limbs in the car at all times.
8/4/2010 8:38:37 AM | More
hautescorp


Seavixen: Yes I am. October 25th

Sea Siren & Let*It*Be: I think you guys might be right. I know he does not trust me and I don't trust him because of some issues we had in the past.

Eleni: You might be right as well. It's confusing. He's always talking about marriage with me and I don't respond to him nor do I assume he wants to marry me. He might be talking about someone other girl for all I know LOL But there is more to the story and it's kind of complex lol and to be honest I do not have the right words to describe how the relationship is.
8/4/2010 9:11:30 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by hautescorp

Seavixen: Yes I am. October 25th

Sea Siren & Let*It*Be: I think you guys might be right. I know he does not trust me and I don't trust him because of some issues we had in the past.


That is why he is doing this. He's waiting for a sign of interest from you. It sounds like he is intimidated by you (and as you're a Scorp, too, that's not surprising - an equal match!) and his fear of rejection is keeping him at bay until he's sure his attempts at reconciliation won't be rebuffed.

If you want him to stick around, you're gonna have to give him a clear signal in return. But, given your past trust issues with him, maybe you don't want that. Only you can answer that one.

Clearly, though, he's trying to make amends for the past without apologizing. Second to "I love you" the hardest thing for most scorps seems to be saying "I'm sorry"

8/4/2010 7:18:10 PM | More
scorpiopics

Posted by Sea Siren

(... as you're a Scorp, too ... an equal match!)


While it may appear so at face value to the unknowing,
Scorpio Male/Scorpio Female is not a equal match.

Neither one of them has learned their lesson yet...they will.

She will win over and over and over and over all the battles
with tactics that will surprise him endlessly. When she is
tired of fighting, his strategy will win the war in the long run
by "doing nothing". He will feel sad for her and regret it always.

He will still think about her often.

They should just stay friends and serve each other's egos.
8/4/2010 11:30:57 PM | More
hautescorp

I LOVE THIS SITE!! EVERYONE HERE IS AWESOME. YOUR INPUT IS MUCH APPRECIATED!

Seavixen: He IS intimidated by me. He once randomly told me I have a strong presence and that I intimidate people and of course by "people" I knew he was talking about himself. But I find that quiet funny because I'm the nicest person and I'm always smiling Well...sometimes I'm serious I guess and I'm not the flirty type, unless I'm getting into something with a guy and I don't kiss his a** like most girls do. And I hate how every girl dies for him. It's kinda bizarre. EVERYONE is infatuated with him LOL

Eleni- I like how practical you are. Yes, with the info that I have provided you it seems like I should not waste my time with him. But to be fair, I have to admit. That he did pursue me 3 years ago for a while and he told me he wanted to be with me but at that time I only saw him as a friend. Plus, I was going through a nasty breakup. I was 100% focused on my ex. So I stayed aloof and uninterested and kinda distant. He took that as rejection. I haven't really had the chance to explain that I was just dealing with a lot of stuff at the time.

I know he's still hurt but he also took revenge upon me. He started dating my friends that I knew he didn't like just to make me jealous and lied about it (that's why I don't trust him) and now it's like, he wants us to be cool because in his tiny mind we are now "equal".

APP- I know what you mean. Now I get flashbacks of things that he would say and do and how he used to ALWAYS watch me from far away. and because we were good friends I didn't think anything of it because I was in a committed relationship.

But I'm curious. Another strange thing he did (prior to pursuing me) was he tried manipulating me into thinking that my other guy friend was in love with me. He kept telling me how he's noticing all these things (that I never noticed) that lead him to believe that he had a "thing" for me and that I should confront him. I'm not sure what type of reaction he was looking for. But it was obvious he was looking for some sort of reaction. I was mature about the whole thing. I asked my friend about it and we just looked at each other for a split second and we both bursted into a fit of laughter.

Was this him "testing the water" with me. I think he wanted to see if I would reject my guy other guy friend or if I would freak out? haha

8/5/2010 12:09:37 AM | More
hautescorp


LOL @ myspace! That's the funniest thing!

If the tables were turned and you were to do that to him, he would never get over it!
8/5/2010 12:31:02 AM | More
scorpiopics

Posted by hautescorp

LOL @ myspace! That's the funniest thing!

If the tables were turned and you were to do that to him, he would never get over it!


Yes we would, right after we emailed the link to your

Mom
Dad
Brothers
Aunts, Uncles & Cousins
EVERYBODY you work with
Your professors at uni

uh...let's see...

Made posters to put in the washrooms at seedy nightclubs
- the guys room
and in the GIRLS washrooms in the NICE nightclubs

Made sure the local newspaper & TV knew about the story
if you are in a small town ...

T-Shirts ...

uh ... that's a god start...you see where I'm going with it.
8/5/2010 12:37:35 AM | More
Eris

29 years old female

"that's a god start"

That's right!
8/5/2010 1:02:05 AM | More
hautescorp

LMFAO!
8/5/2010 6:42:39 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by hautescorp
I LOVE THIS SITE!! EVERYONE HERE IS AWESOME. YOUR INPUT IS MUCH APPRECIATED!

Seavixen: He IS intimidated by me. He once randomly told me I have a strong presence and that I intimidate people and of course by "people" I knew he was talking about himself. But I find that quiet funny because I'm the nicest person and I'm always smiling Well...sometimes I'm serious I guess and I'm not the flirty type, unless I'm getting into something with a guy and I don't kiss his a** like most girls do. And I hate how every girl dies for him. It's kinda bizarre. EVERYONE is infatuated with him LOL



Well, I'm Sea Siren...Sea Vixen is another lovely fish swimming around in this pond. And good for you! You stand out from all the other women who just throw themselves at him.

I have an idea. It's kuh-crazy, but bear with me. Why don't you meet him for a drink and ASK the man what's going on? lol Shocking! I know. But that's the only the way you're going to get the real answer.

I'm still not really sure why you were questioning whether or not he's interested. On my planet a dude that buys my dinner and follows it with a declaration a love is def. "into me." lol I mean, he's made two HUGE moves and made himself very vulnerable. We water signs just do not make a habit of that if we don't feel the leap of faith is worth it. As far as he's concerned, the ball is in your court. If you don't respond he will consider it a rejection and move on.

Talk to him. And in person, not over the phone or texting or whatever so you can better read his body language. Good luck!


8/5/2010 12:39:27 PM | More
scorpiopics

Sea Siren:
Talk to him. And in person, not over the phone or texting or whatever so you can better read his body language. Good luck!
ScorpioPics:
In person wins. But just asking him to do that ...and getting him to do it ...will be the real problem.
If it's easy, that's good.

Sea Siren:
I have an idea. It's kuh-crazy, but bear with me. Why don't you meet him for a drink and ASK the man what's going on? lol
ScorpioPics:
If a Pisces woman could do that, let me know. I want to watch. And I'll be there to hold her up afterward.

Sea Siren:
Shocking! I know. But that's the only the way you're going to get the real answer.
ScorpioPics:
With a Scorpio male? You'll get to scrape the surface ... but let's not forget the past ...he won't.

Sea Siren:
On my planet a dude that buys my dinner and follows it with a declaration a love is def. "into me." lol I mean,
ScorpioPics:
And THEN what do you do on YOUR planet? What happens NEXT? lol ( I'm serious - do tell ).

Sea Siren:
...he's made two HUGE moves and made himself very vulnerable.
We water signs just do not make a habit of that if we don't feel the leap of faith is worth it.
ScorpioPics:
True ...but ...is his vulnerability genuine? Or is he playing a shark-game like a Pisces can?

Sea Siren:
As far as he's concerned, the ball is in your court.
If you don't respond he will consider it a rejection and move on.
ScorpioPics:
That's logical. I agree totally. Unfortunately, logic does not rule the heart.
======================

Call him ( or email him ) and tell him how you feel ...leave nothing out.
Tell him your FEARS ... you WANTS ... your NEEDS ...your future plans.
Tell him what attracts you to him ...and what turns you off about him.

And give him a deadline to take you out IF you see yourself with him.
But if there is a mistrust issue in the past, make it clear that if
it worth trying, that you must hang-out and spend time first,
be close friends first, talk ...in the dark. Once it moves to sex
the communication about the IMPORTANT THINGS will be ignored.
TELL HIM that, flat-out - so that's why talk must happen first.
Lots of it. Weeks, even.

Be there for him when he needs help or a REAL FRIEND to talk to ... you'll win him.

And to Eleni:
Not all guys will chase. Guys who only want to f**k will chase, for sure.
Of course, the ones who get it more often are the ones who push you away.
Drives 'em insane.




8/5/2010 3:12:35 PM | More
scorpiopics

Posted by LovelyScorp
"Tell him your FEARS ... you WANTS ... your NEEDS ...your future plans."

She's not going to do that.

Goes back to your point about two scorps coming together. Someone will always have their guard up. We have very poor timing with each other. There is a bit of unexplainable awkwardness there.


You know you are 100% right.
Her Scorpio mind won't let her choose to do that.

You also know my suggestion is right.
And that is the problem. lol

So her near-future can be best determined with a coin-toss.
One that she should COMMIT to.
Heads: Walk away and forget him, no second chances.
Tails: Do what NEEDS to be done for ANY chance at it working.
(Remembering that the tail is where the stinger & venom is!)

They are probably past ability to just be friends without complications.
If the coin says she should walk, she must.
...and be prepared for "never knowing" (so hard)

If the coin says she should TRY
...then she should be prepared to GIVE IT ALL
...knowing there is high probability that she
...will get hurt eventually and that there will
...be need for many more coin tosses until they
...find the right rock to hide under together
...where nobody else can find them.
That will take great effort from both.

I hope our friend has a happy life no matter what she does.


8/5/2010 3:51:42 PM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by scorpiopics

In person wins. But just asking him to do that ...and getting him to do it ...will be the real problem.
If it's easy, that's good.


If he's a total douche and wasn't sincere, yeah it might be kinda difficult. But, then, she'd still have an answer and know to forget it.

Posted by scorpiopics

If a Pisces woman could do that, let me know. I want to watch. And I'll be there to hold her up afterward.


Well, gosh, had I known this I could have videotaped some interesting episodes for you. I'll keep it in mind for the future.

Posted by scorpiopics

ScorpioPics:
With a Scorpio male? You'll get to scrape the surface ... but let's not forget the past ...he won't.


lol Y'all aren't as enigmatic to some as you are to others, darling. Let's not forget she won't forget the past any sooner than he will.

Posted by scorpiopics

ScorpioPics:
And THEN what do you do on YOUR planet? What happens NEXT? lol ( I'm serious - do tell ).


Doesn't really matter anymore, I'm taken. Prior to that what happened depended on his intelligence...or lack thereof.

Posted by scorpiopics

True ...but ...is his vulnerability genuine? Or is he playing a shark-game like a Pisces can?


He could be drawing her back in for some revenge for the past, it's true. That's why she needs to see him in person and use her own scorpion perception and intuition

Posted by scorpiopics
ScorpioPics:
That's logical. I agree totally. Unfortunately, logic does not rule the heart.


No, it doesn't. But, what's your point here? You think she won't follow her heart? Let's ask her!
8/5/2010 3:54:31 PM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by LovelyScorp
"Tell him your FEARS ... you WANTS ... your NEEDS ...your future plans."

She's not going to do that.

Goes back to your point about two scorps coming together. Someone will always have their guard up. We have very poor timing with each other. There is a bit of unexplainable awkwardness there.


I agree. It would be a difficult match. Extreme highs and extreme lows. Still...nothing's impossible, right? (Come on, LovelyScorp, help me out here for the OP. lol I'm rootin' for her).
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