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8/3/2010 11:02:23 PM | More
hautescorp


Disappears. Usually, I'm good at figuring out people but this one I can't figure out. I see him once in a blue moon. We used to be good friends, stuff happened, then we had a fall out. Now were back to being friends again but we don't talk like we used too. When I see him he will go out of his way to do really nice things for me. Last week, I ran into him while I was having dinner with my friends, gave me a big hug, then left. When I asked the waiter for the bill he said that the bill has been paid for by the gentleman that left. So I called him to say thank you of course and in return he says "I love you". I know Scorpio's don't say they love someone unless they do but with him I'm not sure. He doesn't put effort to be in my life and we don't talk on the phone. He acts super interested only when I run into him. I need good advice from other Scorpios. What kind of game is he playing?
8/4/2010 6:39:26 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

He's trying to get you to chase. Then he'll disappear again so you'll chase some more. After about, oh, 35 episodes of this, he might finally trust that you care enough and won't vanish anymore. But, then again, maybe not.

Welcome to the ride! Please keep limbs in the car at all times.
8/4/2010 8:38:37 AM | More
hautescorp


Seavixen: Yes I am. October 25th

Sea Siren & Let*It*Be: I think you guys might be right. I know he does not trust me and I don't trust him because of some issues we had in the past.

Eleni: You might be right as well. It's confusing. He's always talking about marriage with me and I don't respond to him nor do I assume he wants to marry me. He might be talking about someone other girl for all I know LOL But there is more to the story and it's kind of complex lol and to be honest I do not have the right words to describe how the relationship is.
8/4/2010 9:11:30 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by hautescorp

Seavixen: Yes I am. October 25th

Sea Siren & Let*It*Be: I think you guys might be right. I know he does not trust me and I don't trust him because of some issues we had in the past.


That is why he is doing this. He's waiting for a sign of interest from you. It sounds like he is intimidated by you (and as you're a Scorp, too, that's not surprising - an equal match!) and his fear of rejection is keeping him at bay until he's sure his attempts at reconciliation won't be rebuffed.

If you want him to stick around, you're gonna have to give him a clear signal in return. But, given your past trust issues with him, maybe you don't want that. Only you can answer that one.

Clearly, though, he's trying to make amends for the past without apologizing. Second to "I love you" the hardest thing for most scorps seems to be saying "I'm sorry"

8/4/2010 10:22:40 AM | More
aPiscesPrincess

female from Under the sea  

I am what I am, I don't care what my cha

Posted by Eleni

No adult male is “intimidated” by a woman that he wants...he will chase her come hell or high water...that is how men are programmed



It depends on the guy, my Scorp ex told me when we first started flirting that he couldn't believe we were actually finally talking because he said he was 'watching' me for a long time before that and he didn't think I liked him like that. It was kind of cute because he said he was nervous talking to me because he wanted me for so long. I told him he never had to be nervous around me, he can say anything to me
So yes men can be intimidated sometimes, for reasons you might not even know.
8/4/2010 5:09:02 PM | More
aPiscesPrincess

female from Under the sea  

I am what I am, I don't care what my cha

Posted by Eleni
aPP yes scorps generally "watch u" before they make the first move but at the end of the day they WILL make the first move...they'll test the waters or whatever, but my point is, if the man wants u...nothing will stop him


Yes they do test the waters. And they do make the first move. And hautescorp, it does seem kind of strange how he acts really interested only when you run into him. Usually once a Scorpio guy's 'hooked' you can almost feel their presence (even when he's not there), because they are so intense when they're into you. And they will do things to get your attention (sometimes subtle, sometimes not).
So I would guess that either he wants only friendship, or maybe he's still in the 'testing the waters' stage (and really taking his time dipping his toes in lol).

8/4/2010 7:18:10 PM | More
scorpiopics

Posted by Sea Siren

(... as you're a Scorp, too ... an equal match!)


While it may appear so at face value to the unknowing,
Scorpio Male/Scorpio Female is not a equal match.

Neither one of them has learned their lesson yet...they will.

She will win over and over and over and over all the battles
with tactics that will surprise him endlessly. When she is
tired of fighting, his strategy will win the war in the long run
by "doing nothing". He will feel sad for her and regret it always.

He will still think about her often.

They should just stay friends and serve each other's egos.
8/4/2010 11:30:57 PM | More
hautescorp

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Seavixen: He IS intimidated by me. He once randomly told me I have a strong presence and that I intimidate people and of course by "people" I knew he was talking about himself. But I find that quiet funny because I'm the nicest person and I'm always smiling Well...sometimes I'm serious I guess and I'm not the flirty type, unless I'm getting into something with a guy and I don't kiss his a** like most girls do. And I hate how every girl dies for him. It's kinda bizarre. EVERYONE is infatuated with him LOL

Eleni- I like how practical you are. Yes, with the info that I have provided you it seems like I should not waste my time with him. But to be fair, I have to admit. That he did pursue me 3 years ago for a while and he told me he wanted to be with me but at that time I only saw him as a friend. Plus, I was going through a nasty breakup. I was 100% focused on my ex. So I stayed aloof and uninterested and kinda distant. He took that as rejection. I haven't really had the chance to explain that I was just dealing with a lot of stuff at the time.

I know he's still hurt but he also took revenge upon me. He started dating my friends that I knew he didn't like just to make me jealous and lied about it (that's why I don't trust him) and now it's like, he wants us to be cool because in his tiny mind we are now "equal".

APP- I know what you mean. Now I get flashbacks of things that he would say and do and how he used to ALWAYS watch me from far away. and because we were good friends I didn't think anything of it because I was in a committed relationship.

But I'm curious. Another strange thing he did (prior to pursuing me) was he tried manipulating me into thinking that my other guy friend was in love with me. He kept telling me how he's noticing all these things (that I never noticed) that lead him to believe that he had a "thing" for me and that I should confront him. I'm not sure what type of reaction he was looking for. But it was obvious he was looking for some sort of reaction. I was mature about the whole thing. I asked my friend about it and we just looked at each other for a split second and we both bursted into a fit of laughter.

Was this him "testing the water" with me. I think he wanted to see if I would reject my guy other guy friend or if I would freak out? haha
8/4/2010 11:48:01 PM | More
aPiscesPrincess

female from Under the sea  

I am what I am, I don't care what my cha

Posted by hautescorp

APP- I know what you mean. Now I get flashbacks of things that he would say and do and how he used to ALWAYS watch me from far away. and because we were good friends I didn't think anything of it because I was in a committed relationship.

But I'm curious. Another strange thing he did (prior to pursuing me) was he tried manipulating me into thinking that my other guy friend was in love with me. He kept telling me how he's noticing all these things (that I never noticed) that lead him to believe that he had a "thing" for me and that I should confront him. I'm not sure what type of reaction he was looking for. But it was obvious he was looking for some sort of reaction. I was mature about the whole thing. I asked my friend about it and we just looked at each other for a split second and we both bursted into a fit of laughter.

Was this him "testing the water" with me. I think he wanted to see if I would reject my guy other guy friend or if I would freak out? haha


To me it sounds like he was testing you then too.. like trying to gauge your reaction. Or maybe he was jealous of you having a friendship with the other guy too and wanted you all to himself
8/4/2010 11:54:57 PM | More
aPiscesPrincess

female from Under the sea  

I am what I am, I don't care what my cha

Posted by hautescorp
And I hate how every girl dies for him. It's kinda bizarre. EVERYONE is infatuated with him LOL


I just noticed that part. That reminds me a lot of my Scorp ex.. he always has girls all over him like that. And he always tested me all the time (trying to make me jealous, or trying to see my reaction, etc...). One time he even asked me if he should make a new myspace for himself with his d*ck pics (for lack of better words lol)! And because I knew he was testing me I just told him he can do what he wants, but he'll only attract sluts that way lol. He didn't do it of course, but he was always finding new ways to test me, it drove me crazy haha =/
8/5/2010 12:09:37 AM | More
hautescorp


LOL @ myspace! That's the funniest thing!

If the tables were turned and you were to do that to him, he would never get over it!

8/5/2010 12:31:02 AM | More
scorpiopics

Posted by hautescorp

LOL @ myspace! That's the funniest thing!

If the tables were turned and you were to do that to him, he would never get over it!


Yes we would, right after we emailed the link to your

Mom
Dad
Brothers
Aunts, Uncles & Cousins
EVERYBODY you work with
Your professors at uni

uh...let's see...

Made posters to put in the washrooms at seedy nightclubs
- the guys room
and in the GIRLS washrooms in the NICE nightclubs

Made sure the local newspaper & TV knew about the story
if you are in a small town ...

T-Shirts ...

uh ... that's a god start...you see where I'm going with it.
8/5/2010 12:37:35 AM | More
Eris

28 years old female

"that's a god start"

That's right!
8/5/2010 1:02:05 AM | More
hautescorp

LMFAO!
8/5/2010 6:42:39 AM | More
Sea Siren

from Full Fathom Five  

Pisces Sun/Scorp Rising Moon/Mars/Mer

Posted by hautescorp
I LOVE THIS SITE!! EVERYONE HERE IS AWESOME. YOUR INPUT IS MUCH APPRECIATED!

Seavixen: He IS intimidated by me. He once randomly told me I have a strong presence and that I intimidate people and of course by "people" I knew he was talking about himself. But I find that quiet funny because I'm the nicest person and I'm always smiling Well...sometimes I'm serious I guess and I'm not the flirty type, unless I'm getting into something with a guy and I don't kiss his a** like most girls do. And I hate how every girl dies for him. It's kinda bizarre. EVERYONE is infatuated with him LOL



Well, I'm Sea Siren...Sea Vixen is another lovely fish swimming around in this pond. And good for you! You stand out from all the other women who just throw themselves at him.

I have an idea. It's kuh-crazy, but bear with me. Why don't you meet him for a drink and ASK the man what's going on? lol Shocking! I know. But that's the only the way you're going to get the real answer.

I'm still not really sure why you were questioning whether or not he's interested. On my planet a dude that buys my dinner and follows it with a declaration a love is def. "into me." lol I mean, he's made two HUGE moves and made himself very vulnerable. We water signs just do not make a habit of that if we don't feel the leap of faith is worth it. As far as he's concerned, the ball is in your court. If you don't respond he will consider it a rejection and move on.

Talk to him. And in person, not over the phone or texting or whatever so you can better read his body language. Good luck!

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