Can a Fling Turn Into The Real Thing with u T men?
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|I am a cancer female. I met a taurus guy at a club in the begining of March. We exchanged numbers called and texted each other for about 2 weeks before we actually got together. we pretty much got busy on the first night couldn't help it sexual attraction was on HIGH. we have been seeing each other alot lately. Now I am starting to catch some feelings but am afraid to express them because I don't want to ruin what ever it is we have. I am a fool..lol in the beging I was thinking yea this is all for fun but now as I am getting to know him I am becoming more attracted to him not just on a sexual level.. what am I to do should I just be up front and tell him how I feel or just go with the flow and see where things go. ughhh this is hard...help! Some insight from Taurus men and anybody that wants to puit your 2 cents in would be nice. Be harsh if you have to... I can take it|
Posted by Moodz2468
Well you two are lovers. The fact that you guys are seeing each other a lot says to me it's more than a fling already. You are not a fool, you are normal. Just continue to get to know him better before you profess your undying love and start demanding a commitment.
|NOT YET!!!! Let him do it first!!!!|
|yea I agree..wait until he shows his feelings for you first. your giving out the candy for free so of course he's gonna stick around. I am not saying that he might not have feelings for you but you just never know. These guys from what I hear and from personal experience are very slow with commitment. If I were you keep those walls up girl! Remember Guard your heart if its one thing us cancer ladies don't like is rejection. Good luck.|
|Not much to update, I have not heard from him since last Friday. Its a good thing I waited to express my feelings becuase I don't think he is taking me seriously. I guess I should have seen that coming since I gave it up so quickly. He is being distant and I have already texted him 3 times since and no response.|
Posted by Moodz2468
Awww big crab hugs. Well that's disappointing, I'm sorry to hear this. Sounds like he is doing you a favor. Well he's another frog you have kissed on the way to meeting your prince.
|Thank you |
I actually got in contact with him and he said he was away for a couple of days kind of a last minute deal. Went to visit a friend down south that he hasn't seen in a couple of years. We hung out this past weekend and it was great. I still havn't confessed my true feeling yet. He was so affectionate and kept telling me that he missed me. How do I relly know if its me or the sex he misses? I really like this guy but I am begining to think he is not that into me like he says he is. I also find myself initiating when we get together. Do taurus men liked to be chased. The begining stages of dating is like the worst part ever. I hate the game.
|It's physical, it's sex, one of the reason is he hasn't had time to think beyond that, he's getting what he wants and thus the emotional aspect isn't on his radar yet, what's on his radar is spending time with a beautiful woman and having fun, he hasn't thought about YOU being in his life beyond being intimate. |
You can tell him how you feel if you choose to but don't expect him to reciprocate, don't expect anything and therefore you won't feel disappointed if you don't invest your happiness into this guy, don't give him that much power but sure you can tell him but if he chooses to run off and/or chooses to not reveal his true feelings then you have to be mature and accept his choices.
My suggestion would be to stop it, stop chasing him, stop worrying about if he's into you...YOU ARE GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY by being this way. Instead go out with someone else, go have fun, let the Taurus guy go on and you go on too.
Don't take the weak approach by revolving your mind--thoughts--happiness around him and what he's doing, instead wish him well and move on, he got the sex, give him time to miss you, to want to be with you but if you continue initiating communication and expecting him to hand with you well you are going to chase him off.
See it's not HIM that's bothered by having sex too soon, it's you, you are so bothered by it that you are completely focused on him and his behavior and that is whats going to KILL any and all potential to move forward, he doesn't OWE you a relationship so stop acting like he does or he'll run b/c it's too much pressure.
Be secure, go on with your life without thinking about this ONE guy as if you are revolving your whole life around him because behaving the way you are behaving will make any man run no matter what astrological sign he is.
Be confident in yourself, it's just sex, it's not the end of the world if he doesn't want to go beyond sex with you, it happens this way more often than you may realize, if he doesn't have time to develop an emotional bond with you the odds are A MAN WILL LEAVE but not all men leave and it seems he's on board so to KEEP things moving forward stop worrying and stop all of the negative self talk, you are talking out of a relationship by doing this, your vibe is beginning to feel needy, telling him how you feel while you feel NEEDY for him will have the opposite effect, he'll run so until you get your confidence back--don't tell him anything.
|Off course a fling can turn into a complete relationship. You should ask yourself how he treats you? Is he trying to include you in his life? Have you met his friends? Is he showing off with how successful he is? That will give you something to start with.|
|I am bothered by the fact that I did have sex too soon, but in no way do I ever pressure him into anything. since my feelings have become stronger I been holding them in. this is an inner battle and like I said before I dont want to ruin whatever we have. I am going with the flow and yes like a typical girl I do get upset when he was distant but to be honest I think all men do that from time to time. |
This past weekend was the first time he mentioned anything about his family and was asking about mine, so I guess thats a good sign. On other occasions we usually talk about things that we have in common, but never really got into convo about friends or family.
The reason I asked if he liked the chase is because I feel as if he is getting lazy and wants me to initiate what we do where do we go and so forth. I heard that some taurus men can be like that, they like a women to do all the work. His actions says alot too. He drives 40 min to see me every weekend, but that doesn't mean he's into me like I am into him.
like you say Tiki its physical. I just want to make sure i tell him at the right time and thats if I tell him at all. I am trying not to involve so much emotion into this but at the same time i am having fun and just enjoying his company.
IDK...I just want to make sure I do the right thing