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dimples1980
7/28/2012 11:20:11 PM | IP

Dealing with a Taurus man who I met as friends only to find out a couple months in that he was still dealing another woman. He met her last year and while dating she moved. They didn't move into a committed relationship because of his choice. he has given her a deadline of moving back but she had not an she (a cancer) says she can't for whatever reason.
So my question is how did he develop any feelings for me? He claims these things means something:

Taking time from the person he cared for first
Driving 50 miles to see me in his mom's car since his isn't working
Taking time to talk things through with me
Continuing to see me when he is frustrated with me

In spite of it all he will still answer or call me back and talk to me for hours. he got to the point where he would not put any effort into me and him and had completely given up but he finally said he will put some effort in. he has accepted some things as just being me and will try to not let them bother him. This was because I asked what i could do to fix it and he he said nothing. I asked him to clarify and he said "just don't get on my nerves". A conversation ensued and I am going to try not to bother him with certain things and he is going to try to let his irritation settle. HAVE I DONE THE IMPOSSIBLE? Getting him to keep going! AND What now?

I went without calling him for Sunday and Monday he Imed me. We have talked some and TODAY WE ARE TALKING ON THE PHONE FOR LIKE 3 MINUTES THEN MY DOORBELL RINGS AND IT IS MY TAURUS. WTH!

ADVICE PLEEEEAAAAASES
celticlioness
7/29/2012 3:28:32 AM | IP
celticlioness

female from Wicklow, Ireland  

Rising in Saggitarius Sun in Leo

Leave him to his angst. Stop calling him and promising to "fix it" - why do you think you broke it? Let him off to go fix himself and when he has he better be ready to put in more than just "some effort" to be with you, and if you still want him at that time let him work to have you - the way you are.
BigGirlPanties
7/29/2012 4:44:21 AM | IP
BigGirlPanties

female

Very good advice ^^
dimples1980
7/29/2012 9:35:48 AM | IP

what is angst? What does that mean. I just don't understand. if you at my door for what. I know they hide feelings but damn, i wasn't expecting to see if and I don't know if I will ever see him again. I am dating but those people aren't working. And to be honest, I have only done so much work because did the work for the first three weeks. I have not done much calling. and calls me or contacts me. I just wanted to give him space so he can come to grips with this Cancer has left and isn't coming back for him. Though it may be expressed the she "wants" to come back but she gives him excuses on why she can't to August is the supposed deadline for her. I DON'T LIKE F******g ARGUING. I have just stopped which have made our conversations much better, though we are both sensitive. Wouldn't be having these problems if he just let her go or she let him go...But from this forum Im sure there would be some issues but he has never disappeared like the stuff I read on here. The more that I read the more I feel blessed, I am not in a relationship with my taurus and he hasn't said he loves me and is dating just as I but we have talked mostly everyday since April and the days we didn't I either knew where he was an who he was with or we had texted and IMed. He takes care of date and he is there fore me emotionally, I have PTSD and Bipolar disorder from being molested as a child and he handled it well and still does. He has never brought it up or threw it in my face when other men have. I was very relaxed while he worked. When I told him what I needed he fixed it it is just that simple. I am putting forth my first effort to not say anything in a long time. I have been giving him space especially with the impending the deadline.

SHOULD I COMPLETELY IGNORE HIM OR JUST ACCEPT HIS EFFORT WHEN HE TRIES?
dimples1980
7/29/2012 9:46:35 AM | IP

Where are the Taurus men at on this one..... what about the deadline
IntriguedScorp
7/29/2012 9:54:27 AM | IP
IntriguedScorp



Scorp with a Saggie Moon. That's all yo

He has formed a fixed point in time in his mind and nothing will ever change that = deadline.
dimples1980
7/29/2012 10:11:44 AM | IP

LOL, I guess I hope that is true cause I asked him what her was going to do when August Comes and goes? lol But he hchanged his mind several times with it comes to me. I said he shou just be with her.
celticlioness
7/29/2012 11:42:42 AM | IP
celticlioness

female from Wicklow, Ireland  

Rising in Saggitarius Sun in Leo

Posted by dimples1980
Where are the Taurus men at on this one..... what about the deadline


What about the deadline?! why do you care about his/her deadline or what it means to him and his taurusness - what about your pride, dig deep, whip it out and stop standing on the sidelines like some weak little puppet while he and the cancer lady wait to decide your faith in their own sweet time. Jeez - PRIDE!
dimples1980
7/29/2012 12:48:21 PM | IP

I care for him but as he has stated wither of us could end up with someone else. I don't think he thinkks that it will be me. I do and have been dealing with other men while dealing with him. We have both been dating other people. I have mad it cclear to him that if I meet someone else I really am interested in I won't be like him and wait around. I will move for with the person is ready and here without hesitation. So as much as you can say wait mode and pride. I have my own. He met her way before me so he can take his time with her all he wants. I WAS MORE ASKING IF YOU THINK HE WILL STICK TO THE DEADLINE? I have a new potential suitor with rela potential. I generally cut guys off because I don't let feeling involved.
celticlioness
7/29/2012 12:51:41 PM | IP
celticlioness

female from Wicklow, Ireland  

Rising in Saggitarius Sun in Leo

I Give Up
dimples1980
7/29/2012 1:24:05 PM | IP

You have to be like that, You say let it go. I do have pride and will be in the end and prolly will tell him know when he finally gets his mind together. I am looking for answer from male Taurus men....I don't see it the same as you cause we didn't know each other first so their relationship in my mind shouldn't offend me or affect our relationship. There is not exclusivity on any person including her. all opinions are valued.
celticlioness
7/29/2012 1:53:39 PM | IP
celticlioness

female from Wicklow, Ireland  

Rising in Saggitarius Sun in Leo

No, their relationship shouldn't offend nor affect you - it was what it was and has helped mould him into the person he is and that you like, what should offend you is that he takes no consideration of you and your feelings into "your relationship", whatever it is. He will await his deadline not only because he is a Taurus but because you are there, making it all terribly easy, waiting in the wings for him, if he deigns to take you - you are thinking of what he will do/what he wants the whole time, you don't appear to be thinking about yourself at all, when yourself is who you should be thinking of. I think you need to walk away, tell him he has your number and that he is free to use it WHEN he has fixed himself and is no longer unsure whether he wants the cancer or not. And then you feel free to respond to his contact, if it happens, and if you still wish to.
dimples1980
7/29/2012 2:20:29 PM | IP

That is basically what I said when I stopped calling forreal. and he also know I a pursuing other relationship but they happen to not work out but that has nothing to do with him. As far as the cancer he was hoping to say "I told you so" months ago. I do have a habit of making a man feel he is my all that I just want him to the point they would never believe I'd date someone else. clearly they are wrong. I am dating and he is one of the people and don't expect me and him to be together when one of them say "enough" nor does he think that as far as I am concerned. I have no idea what I would feel or day once this is over but it will end.
dimples1980
7/29/2012 2:30:56 PM | IP

Honestly I will be more ap to do that when he falls on his face with her. I gotta see how it ends and he is so afraid of me knowing or seeing. He says I'll shout halleluah and appluad. I would not do so openly but deep down I know that is what I waiting for. So you are right I am waiting for him and her but not for the reason you thought. I want him to see himself to lose a good woman and long for the time to tell No I can't because my heart is too hurt from what you put me through with her. I am PISCES baby!
celticlioness
7/29/2012 4:33:15 PM | IP
celticlioness

female from Wicklow, Ireland  

Rising in Saggitarius Sun in Leo

Posted by dimples1980
Honestly I will be more ap to do that when he falls on his face with her. I gotta see how it ends and he is so afraid of me knowing or seeing. He says I'll shout halleluah and appluad. I would not do so openly but deep down I know that is what I waiting for. So you are right I am waiting for him and her but not for the reason you thought. I want him to see himself to lose a good woman and long for the time to tell No I can't because my heart is too hurt from what you put me through with her. I am PISCES baby!


Being vengeful is not a nice trait - besides that I don't think he will see himself loosing a good woman, that's just you projecting your thoughts into his head believing he has the feelings for you that you have for him, if he thought he had a good woman he'd hold on to her. Good luck.
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