Why Do Taurus Men Leave.....Then Come Back?

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6/13/2002 12:03:10 PM | More
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me and my taurus share a lot of things in common. we both like the same things. we said we liked each other a lot. he even said he loved me too when i told him in a brief moment that we laughed off. he went away last summer to his family downsouth. we didn't speak during that time. when he got back he said he missed me. i said to him me to, then he said in a mushy tone "no you don't understand,i mmmiiissssss you" what the hell did that mean. i told him to help me understand. well anyway, he does this all the time. even if he doesn't leave town. we'll be going really good to start something special between us, then out of the blue HE WON'T CALL, WON'T E-MAIL ME, WON'T COME OVER. this can go on for weeks NO WORD AT ALL, then he comes back as if he never left. I'm pissed at him. he's so passionate then out of sight. what's his problem?Is he scared of me?
6/13/2002 12:44:35 PM | More
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Funny, I'm having the same problem with my Taurus friend -- only consider yourself lucky that you have seen yours and you probably live in the same state. I've haven't seen mine in years and we just reconnected last year. We've been speaking on the phone and chatting almost every day but now we haven't spoken in a few months. He suggested we give it a break. But my friend is experiencing career and divorce problems so at least I know what some of he's going through right now.

You should email -- or call your friend and ask him to tell you the real deal is -- and explain why he is not consistent with you. Even though my I'm aware of my friend's problems -- because it's been a few months now, I do wonder now so I'm about to get in touch with him and ask him the same.

From what I hear, Taurus men like stability and I believe consistency as well -- and they also need to sit back and think about what they are feeling for someone. As much as I love Taurus men, they need to understand that we need consistency from them as well. I don't like it when someone is in my life -- and dissapears the next -- even if it is brief. I don't take affairs of the heart lightly and I don't believe Taurus men do either.

I don't believe they realize this -- and I don't think they would like it done to them as well.

Hope some of this helps.
6/13/2002 7:25:00 PM | More
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I'm experiencing the same thing with my taurus. He also went home to his family, and has not spoken to me since he left. I don't mind saying that I'm terribly dissappointed in our less than perfect relationship, and quite frankly, I'm disgusted by his off and on behaviour. I need him out of my life for good- he says that he doesn't like drama, but he brings more of it in with him than meets with me- Go figure. Such a moody guy... I need more cuddles and consistency than he can give. It's so funny. I thought that taurus men would be a sure thing for stabilty and consistency, but what we have is anything but consistent and stable. One moment, he says that he loves me and that I'm the greatest love of his life, and then the next, he just dissapears... only to come back after months to pick up where he left off like nothing ever happened. I've tried to just drop the relationship so many times, but everytime I do, he comes running back. Why doesn't he just leave me alone?
6/13/2002 9:40:42 PM | More
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You are so right. A few months back -- speaking to my friend, he was having a bad day. When I tried to communicate with him all he said was I was creating drama. It kind of hurt me that he didn't want to speak to me about anything and I really thought it was due to his personal problems. But I'm finding out quickly that he is not consistent with me. Whatever happened to the stable, loyal and consistent Taurus men that I've heard about? I wonder if I'll speak to mine again at all. I do believe -- and listening to your stories as well -- when matters of the heart concern them and they feel something for someone, it appears they dissapear because they cannot handle it. But it's just a guess on my part. How long can one dissapear to think about what your feeling? Life is too short. I wish they would take a chance more because they could be missing out. Especially when two people have the same interests and want the same things in a relationship.

Well I don't know about you but I don't deserve the treatment. I want someone who is consistent in my life and there for me. Someone who appreciates me. I am always the one to get in touch with him, whether it be call/chat/email. And half of the time he does't respond when I email. So I haven't sent any in a month. And granted we are far apart and it makes it more difficult, but if someone said you were special why not make an effort? I cannot continue to make all the effort. And how can someone speak/chat with someone every day and then decide you need a break?

Don't get me wrong, I'm very sensitive to his issues right now but he does take me for granted -- knowing that I truly care for him. While he's getting his life straight perhaps he thinks I'm waiting. I don't know. Sometimes I admit the heart wants to do that but the head doesn't. But I feel he's worth it and it's the right thing to do -- I know he's my destiny. And I believe he knows it too. But it takes two to make anything work and Taurus men need to realize this. A friendship -- or relationship cannot be one sided.

Perhaps I need to move on. I don't know anymore and I don't know what the answers are.
6/13/2002 9:43:59 PM | More
Unregistered

Forgot to add something; We need some advice from Taurus men on this message board.
6/14/2002 2:27:34 AM | More
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Well ladies, don't know what I can say in defense of Taurus men. I have never been one for inconsistency in a relationship except for now. Whoever has the friend going thru divorce and job troubles - are you sure its not me?

Back to the relationship thing. I have always tried to treat other people well - sometimes we do get wrapped up in other things that we literally forget or keep saying tomorrow I'll call, etc.. . Have any of you thought that perhaps the Taurus man is unsure of where he stands with you? Not because of his feelings but due to signals he may be receiving from you?

I know I like to be assured of where I'm going before 'taking a chance' simply because I dont want to destroy anything I've worked to this point to build. Either I'm extremely cautious or I value what I have far too much - maybe a combination of the two or something else entirely.

Just a thought, or two.

6/14/2002 4:49:10 AM | More
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The Taurus I was with lived with me...for a brief time...he started not coming home at night, I finally went to his place of employment and asked for his keys. He acted hurt and insulted! He said, "You are kicking me out?!" I said, "No.....you left!!"
6/14/2002 8:26:00 AM | More
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Hi Taurus Male -- and thanks for responding. Hmmmm...I'm not sure if it's you but would you mind telling me your first name -- and where you live -- and or what you do for a living? You've got me curious now. If your not comfortable with that, just your age will do.

I believe mine realizes how I feel about him. He knows I'm serious about a relationship -- and about him -- as I've told him I think he is special and that we would be good together.

But anyhow, if it is meant, it will work itself out.

Thanks for replying. All you Taurus men are very special.
6/14/2002 9:11:50 AM | More
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Ladies:

If you are looking for a man who has to tell you on a hourly basis that he loves you, then Taurus males may very well upset you....It was funny when I started reading this board that I realised we do end up upsetting people many a time without even trying. I think it may be because we do not always choose to share our thoughts unless specifically asked to.....I don't call people all the time because I don't wish to intrude, and if someone contacts me, then I know some "light is green".......Taurus don't like to be pests, and they most certainly don't like to be pestered......so please think of that whenever you get upset with the Taurus guy who does not seem to be living up to some expectation you may have of them.....If he truely loves you, you can be sure that he does even though he has not openly declaired it to you every sunrise like some barnyard rooster...and if you require that sort of thing, please tell him so, and he may even do it for you.....

Taurus guy who tries to please (believe it or not)

6/14/2002 9:11:52 AM | More
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Ladies:

If you are looking for a man who has to tell you on a hourly basis that he loves you, then Taurus males may very well upset you....It was funny when I started reading this board that I realised we do end up upsetting people many a time without even trying. I think it may be because we do not always choose to share our thoughts unless specifically asked to.....I don't call people all the time because I don't wish to intrude, and if someone contacts me, then I know some "light is green".......Taurus don't like to be pests, and they most certainly don't like to be pestered......so please think of that whenever you get upset with the Taurus guy who does not seem to be living up to some expectation you may have of them.....If he truely loves you, you can be sure that he does even though he has not openly declaired it to you every sunrise like some barnyard rooster...and if you require that sort of thing, please tell him so, and he may even do it for you.....

Taurus guy who tries to please (believe it or not)

6/14/2002 11:09:26 AM | More
taurusbluebull

I understand what you mean, because
i'm a taurus female in a relationship
with another taurus for almost 4 years,
and are finally getting married this
year, i say finally because, yes he
took things really slow and steady,
but once a taurus man is 100% sure you
are the one, he is loyal, faithful
and steadfast, i tell myself, i'd rather
deal with someone who is honest than a
man who makes false promises and then
you worry about them cheating on you, a taurus man is can be stubborn and possessive,yes but they make plans that they keep and the security lasts a lifetime. when he first left,and didn't call me , i was hurt and ye, he came back and called as if noting happenened. he did not forget about you, a taurus man is affectionate motionally when he's around you, but somehow they are wired such that when they are physiacally
away, their head rule their heart, and
in order to function like a strong
male, they put all emotions aside but
it doesn't mean they are over you, he
won't lie when he says he misses you.
a taurus man needs a patient woman,
they are slow to gain momentem in a
relationship. hopes this helps you.

6/14/2002 11:15:24 AM | More
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Hi thanks for the info, but you have misunderstood a bit. Speaking for myself, I do not need to hear I love you on an hourly basis. And I don't remember reading any of the posts here stating they need to hear that.

If someone is going to disappear from my life, I would prefer to hear "I'm going through a lot right now, don't expect to hear from me for awhile". That's all -- honest communication; and it's doesn't take much effort. Because as the months go by and one dissapears, you cannot help to wonder -- or to take it personal.

But I will speak for myself; a little more effort of honest communication on a Taurus' male part would be nice. This may be the communication problem with some Taurus men. You men are wonderful and special but you need to work on this a bit. Also -- and I don't speak for all Taurus men but I'll give you an example of something else that worries me; misinterpreations; I once said to him "I am not scared of saying something to you". He immediately said "I'm not scary at all". He only heard what he wanted to -- and interpreted what he wanted to as well, instead of listenting to what I was really saying; and I realize he does this often when communicating.

That's all -- honest communication; and it's doesn't take much effort. Because as the months go by and one dissapears for a time, you cannot help to wonder --or to take it personal.

You men are all about wanting loyalty, honesty and stability but you have to give some to. That is all. If there is no honest communication about what one is going through -- or feeling, what kind of friendship/relationship will you acquire in life? If you confide in someone -- then we are special but you cannot close up afterwards and dissapear. That doesn't make sense.

So you see I do not like to wonder or second guess. I need to hear the real deal. And being that you Taurus men seem to be honest, I would think this is something you would like to hear from others as well. You cannot just pop in and out of one's life.

6/14/2002 12:25:07 PM | More
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I completely agree w/ taurus male, 152. I am a female taurus and am exactly the same way. Just becuz we take time to ourselves to get our thoughts straight doesn't mean we don't care. You can't change how we are, that's just how we are, just like you can't change how you are naturally. If you don't like it, then maybe you need to look for someone else of a different sign.
6/14/2002 1:19:49 PM | More
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I did not say I didn't agree with the Taurus male. And I have a very close Taurus female in my life so I am aware of her traits -- as well as my own for that matter. My whole point in posting was not only to express my feelings -- but to also let that Taurus male who posted that no one on here said they need to hear "I love you" every minute. You cannot assume anything.

I just get frustrated at times when there is little communication -- as I'm sure you get frustrated as well with things. Forget the signs for a minute -- we are all human and we get frustrated.....period.

Thanks but I also didn't say I want to find another sign. If I did, I would have indicated that.

I know that my Taurus male is my destiny and he knows it too. And I'm extremely patient with him and I never push or disturb him.

Thanks again.

6/14/2002 2:38:03 PM | More
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Sorry for the response,but it just seemed like you were somewhat attacking him for being a taurs male based on your experience with one. You said yourself to forget about the sign for a minute and that we are all people, but it sounded like to me that you were generalizing according to signs since you mentioned several times, "taurus men" are this way and that way. I'm interested to know, what's your sign?
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