Showing emotional weakness turn offs a Virgo ?

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11/11/2011 4:14:55 AM | IP

Sun in Virgo Moon in Sagittarius R

^^^If we’re comfortable with that, we “grant” them access to deeper levels of ourselves. This is done slowly, with MUCH deliberation, and over a period of time so that once we consent to this, we’re far more at ease than we were at the beginning. Once we feel betrayed or taken for granted after this point, on goes the straitjacket again (in fact, CLANG goes the vault door!) . . . either until the issue has been reconciled or permanently, depending on the situation.

“He's too selfish to offer himself and too cautious to demand the surrender of another.” Lemme tell ya right now if he’s too selfish to offer himself, you’ve got yourself a bum deal and you need to let go of him QUICK! (If you think he’s worth the effort, you may attempt to help him open up, as he may simply be in Reserved Mode. If multiple attempts at this have failed, however, pitch him back in the water.)
And lemme tell ya something else, we DEMAND your surrender unequivocally!

We’ll wind up giving you our whole heart if we deem you worthy, so you better be prepared to give yours, b/c it’s for sure we’ll settle for nothing less!!

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
He is acutely embarrassed if a lover kisses or hugs him in front of his friends. He'll never speak to her again if she persists in such demonstrations. He reckons romance is something only two people share-and that they should express it in privacy.

Huh??? I've never minded PDA's and have instigated many myself, as long as they're discreet and "tasteful" (lol, pardon the pun). No french-kissing in front of others, but embraces, pats, and socially-acceptable kisses are right up my alley!

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
He mightn't say much if you've offended him, but you'll certainly feel the temperature rapidly dropping to zero minus five.

LOL! (True!)

capbaby

11/11/2011 7:51:54 AM | IP

female

Posted by **StringsAttached**
Posted by onix
but a li'l more warmth from Virgo person would make us feel a lot more comfortable!

Have you outright expressed this? If a (mature, emotionally-evolved) Virgo knows that his withholding emotion is putting you in deficit, this will likely leave him feeling "insufficient"--which we hate, and for his need to be "up to par" alone, he's likely to want to satisfy the deficit.

-agree!

onix

11/11/2011 9:34:01 AM | IP

female

Such a great attempt to analyse the Virgo behavior in detail .... thanks so much StringsAttached

Wow .... I've to admit Virgo guys & girls are truly helpful .... yaaay ! Lol

CLCNY30

11/11/2011 10:36:21 AM | IP

female

Creative Virgo

Posted by **StringsAttached**
Posted by onix
but a li'l more warmth from Virgo person would make us feel a lot more comfortable!

Have you outright expressed this? If a (mature, emotionally-evolved) Virgo knows that his withholding emotion is putting you in deficit, this will likely leave him feeling "insufficient"--which we hate, and for his need to be "up to par" alone, he's likely to want to satisfy the deficit.

Wow...this is deep. I agree.

onix

11/11/2011 10:56:03 AM | IP

female

Posted by **StringsAttached**
Posted by onix
but a li'l more warmth from Virgo person would make us feel a lot more comfortable!

Have you outright expressed this? If a (mature, emotionally-evolved) Virgo knows that his withholding emotion is putting you in deficit, this will likely leave him feeling "insufficient"--which we hate, and for his need to be "up to par" alone, he's likely to want to satisfy the deficit.

I have often given him hints about this .... I thought I might sound like am accusing him if I say it directly ... now I think I should tell him this in a friendly way ...

onix

11/11/2011 11:02:37 AM | IP

female

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bluesky

11/11/2011 1:59:24 PM | IP

Posted by RealTalk
Posted by bluesky
I read once: Only Virgo and Pisces could understand each other and that's why they go along...

LMAO!!! Where? When? On November 43rd at 316 Dreamland Avenue? Hahahahaha, yeah ok.

http://zodiac-traits.com/virgo-man-pisces-woman.html

CLCNY30

11/11/2011 3:24:22 PM | IP

female

Creative Virgo

"Virgo man and Pisces woman is one of the most challenging combinations in the zodiac. The attraction can be very strong, but for all the wrong reasons."

Purty much...

**StringsAttached**

11/11/2011 5:23:32 PM | IP

Sun in Virgo Moon in Sagittarius R

Posted by capbaby
Posted by **StringsAttached**
Have you outright expressed this? If a (mature, emotionally-evolved) Virgo . . . he's likely to want to satisfy the deficit.

-agree!

Posted by CLCNY30
Posted by **StringsAttached**
Have you outright expressed this? If a (mature, emotionally-evolved) Virgo . . . he's likely to want to satisfy the deficit.

Wow...this is deep. I agree.

What?? Capbaby and CLCNY agreeing on the same thing?! Is this a first?

**StringsAttached**

11/11/2011 5:25:59 PM | IP

Sun in Virgo Moon in Sagittarius R

Posted by MoonMan
If we're scoring the helpfulness and shear volume of posts from the Virgo Ms and Virgo Mr regarding feedback, it appears the Virgo maiden is out in front.

Thanks, MoonMan, I'll take that as a compliment.

And, btw, you misspelled the word sheer.

**StringsAttached**

11/11/2011 6:03:25 PM | IP

Sun in Virgo Moon in Sagittarius R

Posted by onix
I have often given him hints about this .... I thought I might sound like am accusing him if I say it directly ... now I think I should tell him this in a friendly way ...

We respond well to words like: "I appreciate [it when you . . . ] . . . It makes me feel . . . " That way, we feel appreciated and not reproved, and we can identify with the fact that you you feel good (and that we're making you feel good) and that we have something in our person that you need/want. So if he has opened up in the past--even a wee bit--point that out [*see below] and let him know how good it made you feel and how much you appreciate it and love that aspect about him. Then continue to open up more yourself and, if he's got any sense, he'll follow along. It's a matter of luring the cat out of the box with the string.

*Not preferable: "I appreciated it when you opened up the other day and shared your innermost feelings with me and let me see who's really in there. It made me feel closer to you and like I wanted to see even more."

*Preferable: "I appreciated it when you shared with me the other day about how [losing that job opportunity affected you, etc.]. It felt nice just to know how you were feeling; I really enjoy getting to know you better/seeing that side of you."

CAUTIOUS VIRGO WILL APPRECIATE YOUR EFFORT TO REVEAL MORE OF YOURSELF FIRST! It will help to lay a foundation of security so he won't feel so jeopardized for divulging his secret self if you haven't already. We fear being taken advantage of after exposing our "treasury," and your willingness to do so first (or at least to take the torch after we've walked that planked part of the way) will help comfort our mind that you're in it for love's sake and not to get what you can from us and hike outta there. This may not seem fair, but it's incredibly calming to us (and aphrodisiacal, lol). Plus, I hear most men prefer this order anyway, being more naturally prone to closure than disclosure.

**StringsAttached**

11/11/2011 6:03:36 PM | IP

Sun in Virgo Moon in Sagittarius R

(Continued)

VIRGO LOVES TO SEE PAST YOUR VENEER!! We're aroused by intrigue and mystery (don't believe those sites that tell you Virgo men don't like mystery!), and when we peer into your emotional vault and see that you are divulging your inner self w/o fear of consequence, it loosens us up to do the same and leaves us feeling all the closer to you. Sometimes we WILL take the step first (well, hey, I'm a female), but the more we see your willingness to share your deeper self, the more we're encouraged to "step out" and do likewise.

onix

11/12/2011 9:00:17 AM | IP

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onix

11/12/2011 9:05:16 AM | IP

female

Posted by **StringsAttached**
Posted by onix
I have often given him hints about this .... I thought I might sound like am accusing him if I say it directly ... now I think I should tell him this in a friendly way ...

We respond well to words like: "I appreciate [it when you . . . ] . . . It makes me feel . . . " That way, we feel appreciated and not reproved, and we can identify with the fact that you you feel good (and that we're making you feel good) and that we have something in our person that you need/want. So if he has opened up in the past--even a wee bit--point that out [*see below] and let him know how good it made you feel and how much you appreciate it and love that aspect about him. Then continue to open up more yourself and, if he's got any sense, he'll follow along. It's a matter of luring the cat out of the box with the string.

*Not preferable: "I appreciated it when you opened up the other day and shared your innermost feelings with me and let me see who's really in there. It made me feel closer to you and like I wanted to see even more."

*Preferable: "I appreciated it when you shared with me the other day about how [losing that job opportunity affected you, etc.]. It felt nice just to know how you were feeling; I really enjoy getting to know you better/seeing that side of you."

CAUTIOUS VIRGO WILL APPRECIATE YOUR EFFORT TO REVEAL MORE OF YOURSELF FIRST! It will help to lay a foundation of security so he won't feel so jeopardized for divulging his secret self if you haven't already. We fear being taken advantage of after exposing our "treasury," and your willingness to do so first (or at least to take the torch after we've walked that planked part of the way) will help comfort our mind that you're in it for love's sake and not to get what you can from us and hike outta there. This may not seem fair, but it's incredibly calming to us (and aphrodisiacal, lol). Plus, I hear most men prefer this order anyway, being more naturally prone to closure than disclosure.

Thanks a lot dear for sharing this much needed guidance about approaching him properly ... am gonna try it

capbaby

11/14/2011 6:50:25 PM | IP

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