Virgo man no longer interested?

Posted by Candeh15

Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina
Virgos love to play mind games. You're a Gemini, maybe you're the kind of girl that sees love as not being a game. Love is no game. Virgos love to play in the love department.

Woah, hold on now. The last thing a virgo likes to do is play games, especially when it comes to love. We're pretty straightforward. I don't know which virgos you have messed with...

Posted by Ikuta07
I am just as confused as KrystalSade about this Virguy I was seeing. Thank you so much for creating this thread!

Posted by gemini64

Basically if a Virgo man NO longer loves you, he will actually do YOU a huge favor by speaking to you. but if he LOVES you deeply, he won't tell you; he'll push you away while he retreats to his man cave while analyzing his "feelings" to death. You may actually age a year or two as he "contemplates" every angle and emotion as earthly possible. and if per chance your paths cross, he'll just give you his patented Virgo stare and hope you can discern what the hell it means. If your lucky, you'll get his full critique of your flaws as he is self assured this job is made only for him; he is the master of truth.

seriously, what's so hard about understanding all of that? ;-)

There is a Virguy I was casually seeing (he didn't want anything serious) who didn't contact me for 6 months after he started working at a new job. Earlier this month, I finally contacted him and said that I couldn't take it anymore and have to move on. I told him that it would have been nice for him to let me know if he didn't want to continue this casual relationship and he responded "Yea, I should have let you know." We had an on and off thing going on (kissing and some physical intimacy but no sex) and when I asked what I was to him, he responded "a friend". Then I asked if he still has feelings for me, he said "Not to be harsh, but I can turn off my emotions." He said he did so to avoid drama. I was thinking... thanks a lot for just keeping me hanging after you've already moved on for all this time.

So gemini64, is my situation relevant to what you've described? The Virguy liked me but I don't believe he ever loved me.

I'm a Saggie and I've been trying really hard to be patient with him. I still can't stop thinking about him.

Posted by gemtaur
I agree with CC. There def are two kinds. One type are so honest you think they're trying to trick you. The other kind are players (with the potential to evolve or remain players).

Posted by Joanie675

Posted by gemtaur
I agree with CC. There def are two kinds. One type are so honest you think they're trying to trick you. The other kind are players (with the potential to evolve or remain players).

Okay, this is very helpful info. Thanks! However, how do you tell one from the other? Is it just time? Do you really have to put in one or two years and see how it turns out?

The Virguy I got -- honestly, I thought he was trying to trick me until I did my own due diligence and analyzed to death everything he told me and well, I figured, if he was going to be lying, he should have come up with something better than that, lol. So I'm glad that everything checked out BUT my personal lesson is trust (I have trust issues from just haveing a difficult relationship with the master decepticon of the universe who happened to be a Taurus), so I don't want to keep looking over my shoulder.

Posted by angelbabe
I learned a lot about my Virgo guy through Google and not through him!!! This is an unacceptable way of getting to know a person but at this point I don't have much choice since he does not communicate with me. I have never dated a Virgo or know of them as I am not really into astrology or charts or whatever but ever since meeting the guy, I realize that it is so true for him. I am a Sag btw but that does not mean anything as I am not at all defined by my sign. I have some Virgo in me actually, but I digress.

I am also wondering if most Virgo partners always end up waiting for the Virgo guy to finally decide that he wants to commit to the other person. I don't think that is fair...just because someone is a Virgo, it should not mean that they should get all the pass for treating the other person like they don't matter. It should be a two-way thing imo. I am very much willing to wait and compromise and accept all the Virgo quirks as I probably have my own but if I don't get anything back then there is no way the relationship will ever work.

I mean how long do we have to wait for these Virgo men to finally just get their heads out of their ass (I apologize for the crass words)? I also do not like to play games or waste my time waiting for someone who is uncertain of me. I think sometimes when it comes to love, when you know, you just know. I try not to rush relationships but my gosh, if my Virgo guy will not call me for two months then I am gone. Given that I met mine only a few weeks ago, he has already showed me the hot/cold, push/pull thing that they do. We cannot get enough of each other when we are together but in between dates, he can barely say hi and that is only after I send him a few messages. I get the space thing but how much does it really take to say hi and say you cannot talk or what not right?

Posted by KrystleSade
& it isn't in my nature to wait for someone so long. but i truly am INLOVE, and it takes A LOT for me to throw in the towel as i said in a previous post. so all we can really do is wait. & i totally agree with the texting. just to say hi or respond to us...they won't even do that.

Posted by Joanie675

Posted by KrystleSade
& it isn't in my nature to wait for someone so long. but i truly am INLOVE, and it takes A LOT for me to throw in the towel as i said in a previous post. so all we can really do is wait. & i totally agree with the texting. just to say hi or respond to us...they won't even do that.

Same here. Just because I've finally found a guy who has the most qualities that I'm looking for in a potential partner, I am willing to wait. This is also what my clairvoyant friend told me -- that he would make me wait. Crap. So I guess that's a given. She did advise me to keep my options open but also told me that he will still be the guy that I will measure other guys against.

For a time, I did try killing the feeling with my mind and forced myself to entertain other guys but it's a futile pursuit. My heart knows who it wants. So my game plan is to ride this out until he shows up or someone else comes along who is up to par but I am sincerely hoping that we resolve this before that happens.

Kind of reminds me of the saying, "One is always a wanderer; two are always going somewhere." I will wait but only time will tell for how long. All I know is that no matter how great he is, it takes two to build and nurture a relationship and I can't do that by myself.

Posted by angelbabe
I also don't give up that easily. I never quit on a relationship until I have absolutely done everything that I can. But OUR needs have to be met too somehow, right? I mean how difficult is it for them to just call you or text you just to let you know that you are in their thoughts. I mean they say Virgos do not play games but isn't what they are doing a form of game play, well yeah sure, it is their nature but that simply gives them an excuse...which quite frankly is unfair. I am terrified that I might actually be falling for mine, hence, all the ranting. I know we don't know each other all that well (we've only seen each other twice and known each other about 2 weeks) but it was instant connection the very first time for both of us. He even told me he has never felt connected to anyone like that in such a long time. I haven't felt this way about anyone in a long time that's why I don't want to give up but I can't also wait two years for him to decide he wants to be with me. i don't even know if we are exclusive or not. I don't feel like seeing other people as I have my mind and heart set on him already which really scares me to death. I have so many things I want to know about this guy but he just doesn't communicate. I like a good challenge but this might be a bit on the extreme side. I wish all of us who are in love with Virgos all the luck in the world. We are definitely one of a kind too for sticking with such kind. Am I right?

Posted by angelbabe
I am glad I found this forum. It helps dealing with Virgos slightly easier. Btw, KrystleSade, in the two months that he has not contacted you, have you contacted him? I mean does he live close to you? Because, seriously, two months is just way too long. I don't mind not seeing the guy for two months but there has to be calls or texts in between. You cannot sustain a relationship all by your lonesome.