Aquarius Female Falling Deeply For Cap Man

Boy oh boy, where do I begin?
This past year and a half I was in a relationship with a gemini male (big mistake!). The relationship with the gemini was long distance mostly. We saw each other once every two to three months. Although the relationship with the gemini was okay for the first year, it turns out he was cheating on me for 10 of the months out of our 16 month relationship. But this post isnt about him...its about the capricorn.

While still dating the gemini, I met a capricorn male. At first, I didn't think much of him. Yet as I got to know him and who he was as a person a connection and spark started to form like no other. There is an electricity in the air whenever we are near each other. During the last 3 months of my relationship with my ex gemini I began to fall deeply for the capricorn. I loved nearly everything about him. I loved his determination, reliability, sweetness(depending on his mood!), and our conversations. He was a great friend and we hung out as often as we could. He confided in me about his relationship issues with his ex and current people he talked to then. And I would tell him things about me as well.

After breaking up with the gemini, I took a bold chance. I finally felt it was time to let the cap male know that I truly liked him and wanted him. I came out and told him I was extremely attracted to him one day and although pleasantly surprised he was...it turns out he was just as attracted to me! Somehow...we ended up kissing..and it would of led further if he hadn't of stopped me. (How aggravating!)He wanted me to think about things further and determine if he was what I truly wanted. If us engaging in sexual activity was the right path. If I felt the same in three months then we could continue where we left off. (I am out of the state for three months and I wont be returning to his state until August!).

Now me and the cap are talking on the phone in order to keep communication lines open. We are not official or anything...but we are in the process of getting romantically acquainted with one another. The only PROBLEM is that I feel like he is opening up to me less now than when we were just friends. Along with that is the fact that...I realized I like attention...but he is always working so when I do talk to him its once every other day or every two days. I feel like its always me initiating most calls. Even though he does call me...I wonder would he if I didnt leave texts and messages for him. I feel like I like

*I feel like I like him more than he likes me. I dont know if its just because he does not call me as often as I would like. And since I am nowhere near him at the moment, the phone and internet are all the communication we have!
I send him a daily morning text because I want him to know that he is an important part of my day and that I want to include him in it. I have asked him if he truly does like me and he has said yes. I just feel like his actions arent going with his words!

Is he testing me to see if I can handle being with him? Is he waiting until I return to turn the volume back up?
I know I have a problem dealing with attention and patience..but Im honestly willing to work that out to be with him. Thats how much I truly care for him.
I just want to know is it worth holding on to him and waiting until I return by his side? Or should I just drop the hope for love and remain his friend?

PS.- 90% Of the time he says he is gonna call...he doesnt. What is up with that?

AquaVibe,

I think you need to play hard game with cap man since most of the cap men like to chase. Seems like he's not that into you. Did he reply any of your morning text msg? He didn't call you either right? If so, you need to play game the other way around. Cap men like to chase and you need to resist everything he does for you. For me, my cap man sends me a daily morning email and sometimes he didn't send me an email just to see how I respond to him. My attitude is that I didn't even bother to send him an email if he didn't send me an email. I'm like that. He calls me every night also. So when he called at that night, he asked "why didn't you send me an email? " i said "huh I didn't see your email . I thought you are super busy and I don't want to distract you." Guess what, next morning he sent me a long and very sweet email.. so the bottom line is he's going to test you, watch you and wait till you open up your true feeling. But don't give up easily. Just resist everything, yet sound decent and show you still care for him.

He does call me about every other day...or so. Its just that I feel if I didnt call him or text him daily..he wouldnt bother calling period.
His response to my daily morning texts are that they are a daily thing that dont pose questions. So therefore cant respond.
I know he cares about me. Because he truly would be there in a second if I needed help. But when it comes to romantically liking me...or being a lover...definitely not on the same page as a I am.
But either way...i am taking ppls advice and my own...i pretty much decided to stop contacting him for at least a week...see if he even notices me missing. If he does call within this week...ill continue giving it a go...only I wont be as accessible and ill definitely play more hard to get...and if he doesnt call...then maybe its best I let go of my feelings for him..although thats the last thing I want to do. but its necessary. 😢

Thank you bran! And thanks to cyber and leo! I took everything you all said and just toook a long look inside myself. I truly hate playing games and I hate hiding my feelings and dealing with formalities. I like jumping into the meat of things.
But I have been patient...and dealing with this man who aggravates me so.
And I found out why he hasnt called this weekend...he got into an accident and was in the hospital! 😢
But when I did find this out last night, he was on the other line with his mother, and he told he would call me back in a couple of minutes. No call back. Surprise Surprise there! Hah...
I wrote everything out that I would like to say to him and I am gonna have a let it all out convo with him this afternoon during my lunch break. I dont wanna ignore him for a week and see if he will change, I dont want to play games with his head. I just would like to know honestly whats the verdict on where we are standing and where we are trying to go. He is still my friend regardless of what happens. I truly love him for always being there and being a great friend. And anything romantically that happens will have no ill effects on us as friends. He is always my best buddy.
I think thats the good positive way to go about it. =)

Uh...if he's like this now and you haven't known him that long, spare yourself some grief and move on.

They take eons to come around. Seriously, I know it's difficult to think of ending it...but really, you're saving yourself in the long run. I'm not saying you can't be successful with a Capricorn. Of course you can be...as long as you recognize the fact that you won't achieve happiness with him for a long time.

Good News.
The Cap Man and I are back on track. All it took was a little patience. Loads of it.
He was going through some rough times. Went into a whole other mode trying to handle it. Moments of solitude?
Anyway. Im happy. He's happy. We're happy. And thats that.

But I have noticed something recently. I have a tendency to fall for Capricorn men. Have I ever been in a relationship with one? No. Because all the capricorns in my past, when they wanted relationships I wasn't looking for one. It just was never the right time. The books and everything are always talking about Cap and Aquarius being completely wrong for each other, but I just cant stop running into these males. I truly do love and admire them. I feel like they understand me so well. Fatal attraction?