Cap women - has this ever happened to you?

If you feel very strongly for someone and then you get too much time to think, have you ever tried to push them away from you? This happened to me.

I'd appreciate any kind of input especially from Cap women, but from others too.

Oh, and this is not about creating a drama when there's no any 🙂 This has happened to me a few times in my life, and only with those men I really like a lot.

*there's not any

I just read DB's thoughts on the Scorp board. And it made me more sure that for me it's about being afraid to feel those strong feelings. It's ok when I'm just feeling it. Then I get too much time to think and I get very cautious. Thinking works as a switch off button to me.

Right now I feel that I just want to be alone. I'm trying to avoid someone. That's so silly but I can't do anything about it. How to change myself?

yes, you are right, cap.. so very scared of relationships with those men we really like. The more passionate feeling, the more scared of a relationship.. I'm not scared at all with men who I don't like that much. It's like I'm building a wall around me when I notice that someone is getting too close to me.. emotionally..

Interesting post.

I posted about 4 months ago about a Cappy female friend that moved away. I always wondered if we had a "future" together, but as much I wanted to, there wasn't a huge sexual attraction (she was still a good looking gal and nice). I never knew what she was thinking and when she moved away, I was like "I guess we'll never find out". However, as we were "very friendly" and got along, I never sensed she tried to push me away. I guess perhaps she wasn't interested either.

Of course, there's that cappy gal I've been chasing that locked herself away looking for a job. When she wasn't busy, she didn't "push me away", we actually talked a lot.

Maybe that's not a good sign then! 😄

Any comments from folks?

"Maybe that's not a good sign then! 😄"

this made me laugh 🙂 At first I'm not pushing someone away. Only when I get too much involved with my feelings and then suddenly I get too much time to think. That will destroy the whole thing. And then I don't even want to talk and give someone a chance to know what happened. I can't explain my feelings and fears, how can I tell someone about them..

That Cappy female who moved away.. You can't know if she liked you or not. Mostly if I like someone a lot, I just don't show him that at all.

yup...im scared to feel so strongly for anyone....and if im going to feel that way its gonna be for someone who feels the same way for me so i noticed i would push people away and wait and see if they just go away or if they show some effort and emotion toward being with me ...like if they can stand to be without me theyre not worth my feelings. I need to make sure im no the only one feeling this way......as for too much time to think....i find i become paraniod when im not busy...my mind begins to conjure up situations that do not exist and i become extra suspicious ....that on top of having string feelings will put me in defense mode....and that mean i need peace and solidtude to sort it all out and that leaves u out of the picture.

So ... how would someone dating a Cap female/male get through their tendency to push people they like away? How can we prove to them that we care about them as well.