Cappy Guy & Aqua Girl

I put this post on relationships - but I think can get beta advice from the cappy's!!
How does a cappy & Aqua relationship work out

I agree w/Capman...I dated an Aqua for about a month and (no offense to Aquas) but it just felt like trying to dance w/2 left feet, we just weren't good for each other.

So no good in it at all or are there ways around the problems? Can they be friends? What is the main problems? Aqua really too sociable & Cappies don't like double stanards? what are the problems

I am making him read this

I disagree.

Capricorn Male (Saturn Ruled) and Aquarian Females (Saturn & Uranus Ruled) are a very good match. As long as the Aquarian is Ruled by Saturn and not Uranus.

A Saturn Ruled Aquarian is much more "grounded", practical & focussed. Still a humanitarian, but a realistic one.

The Uranus Ruled Aquarian is just "WACKY". Often thought of as being "On their Own Planet".

I can't make an opinion without sharing my own story as I'm confused as anything right now. I am dating, not dating, in a relationship, not in a relationship with a cap guy, and he's the one in an up/down mood and I just try not to think about it much. He has an aqua moon; I have a cap rising and 4 planets in capricorn... astrologically our charts say like 90something% combability on astrology.com... but I just don't know about him. He's put himself into things that I don't like and he's up and down like a woman on a bad time of the month that who knows the future. When he's in his normal state, we get along wonderfully and in those times I can see a future. However my Pisces ex has been so sweet to me lately and the mood swings of the Capricorn guy have me seriously just saying 'what will happen, will happen.' It might be maturity on his part because I simply can't deal with temper tamptrums from an adult. (Course he's Mexican; I'm Irish so it might explain the temperments. Neither culture is known as exactly peaceful. Pisces guy is Norweigen/Irish but the water emotional guilt thing drives me BATTY but in a different way.)

The moods are daily... one day it's all over for him, the next day when I haven't said a word he's back all apologetic. I don't know how today will be yet.

Hey Capman, I suppose the only thing i don't really understand fully about Capricorn's, is why they seem to disappear when they are confused or overwhelmed with life.

For me, I am such a communicator and need to talk things out to clear my head. If i try to sort it out on my own, i end up over-thinking and making things bigger than they really are. Possibly that is the Virgo Rising in my Natal chart. I do believe you can over talk a subject, but hiding when things become overwhelming i don't think helps any relationship.

Luckily, i do respect that not everyone handles things the same as i do, so i can give the space needed ... but sometimes ... when i need sort things out ... i get really frustrated when my Capricorn friend runs and hides... resurfacing when it is good for him.

I suppose we all have our quirks though, don't we..

I lived with a Cap man and ended up leaving him after a year. He would never talk about why his marriage broke up, he was obsessed with money, and he was way too earthy in bed for me. I also had to nag him to get him to do anything around our place, and that is so not the role I wanted to be in. I was his lover, not his mom! The main reason I got into astrology was b/c I was trying to figure out what went wrong.

This doesn't mean I don't like Caps! As friends, they are awesome. I admire how hard they work, and they have a great, dry wit. From the Cap perspective, I think Aquas help Caps to open up and indulge more in silly fun.

If the Aqua is more grounded and the Cap at an older stage in their life (no longer so driven about work or money), I think it can work out. But I also think it is a union that takes patience, and that is not always a strength of Aquas.

From my experience as a cap girl, Aquas don't have enough passion for Caps.

If someone is looking for a volcano to erupt at any time of the day kind of passion then no the aqua is not the passionate type. BUT if there is something stimulating, there are no bounds to an aquarius. Perhaps it's my cap rising and his aqua moon, but it can definately work. (As for intellectual types... I'm teaching these days, so I like to think that I'm deep thinking but thankfully I don't have the pits of despair that caps seem to fall into too.)

As for where the pleasures lie in the bed... the cap/aqua relationship works. It's outside the bedroom where I find mood swings of a cap confounding.

LC, I thought the Cap I was with was kind of coarse in the bedroom - little to no foreplay, talking to me like I was his little woman rather than a sexual equal . . . I'm not saying that this is a bad way or that he was even a bad lover. Just that, as a WHOLE, he was too earthy (or, perhaps more accurately, too often) for me. I even have my Moon and Venus in Cap which I would have thought would make things gel more but nope. Also, I am female, and it's common (IMO) for us to complain about a lack of romance and sweetness in a relationship. I would also agree that Aquas fall short of Caps in raw passion. I can go without sex for a very long time w/o being bothered, and he wanted it daily or more. My god, that was tiring! 🙂

That's interesting that you describe your Aqua friend as supersensitive. I've been feeling like that for a while now, which I don't particularly enjoy, but I had chalked it up to hitting 30 and just plain ol' freaking out. 🙂

Aquarius is a mental sign, but I don't think that necessarily translates to being an intellectual in the traditional sense. Really, I think Aquas just think "different" or, heck, *weird.* There is a great blurb in that Love Signs book (reddish cover) about Caps and Aquas. I don't have it here with me, but it says something like how one day the Cap goes into the bathroom and sees a glass of water with a piece of broccoli in it. Puzzled and a little disturbed, he asks the Aqua what it's doing there, and she says how she was just thinking about whether or not the broccoli would start growing again if placed in water and had thought of it on the way to the shower. And the Cap starts getting nervous . . . I know there were times when my Cap would just look at me like I was an ALIEN. 🙂

Sorry but the Broccoli in the water is weird!!

Capman, everything you stated is true ... especially the sexual attraction. The only thing i disagree with is that you stated the aqua's sexual appetite is no match for a Capricorn's (yours). It depends on the individual as oppose to the sign itself.

"Sorry but the Broccoli in the water is weird!!"

LOL! See? It doesn't seem weird to me at all.

Aquaj, I sympathize with the being-whipped feeling. Mine had me starry-eyed and ready to move in together in less than two months' time, which is not how I normally am.

So the capricorn guy I'm with said that I'm high maintenance. (A girl in the leo male thread said her leo guy was high maintenance which only just brushed the surface of recent life events.) As an aqua I am very sensitive when the subject of me comes up, and I deny fully being high maintenance. I don't want showy meaningless gifts or gestures, I simply want love and communication (y'know.) But I spoke with 4 other male friends of mine asking their opinion on me, and they all agreed with him whole heartedly; I'm high maintenance. Part of me is still denying the truth of this statement and thinking that none of my friends understand or know the real me.

It really hasn't caused any grief as I can keep my hurt feelings to myself and let it roll of the back for a little issue. But warning to Cap guys... apparantly aqua chicks like me are high maintenance. (Honest, sweet and full of unique character are also in our favor.)