Confused

I broke up with my cap in feb. and we didn't talk for 4 months. I recently emailed him and explained why I left etc in June. I then told a friend I was still loving him, she said tell him. I text him a I miss u text and he responded a couple days later. We finally got together for a weekend in July, it was like we were never apart, so much fun. He knows how much I care but he doesn't say anything really. He recently spent a week at my home (Im a couple hours away) and it was great. He told me he would be gone for a couple months possibly. He was never big on calling, more texting. We have not spoke in four days which I understand he's with family. I have sent 2 text to just say hi and have fun. It seems I always initiate contact and would like feedback. He wasn't very affectionate before leaving but was saying and doing things for me that I thought was his way of showing he cares. Do you think he's just not sure he can trust me again and is thinking hard about it? Being with me for a week should say alot I guess, he was only supposed to stay 2 days. He's not saying I will call ya later nothing! Help with bad or good! Confused again 5 months later lol!

By the way we dated 5 months before we broke up.

Me Taurus moon(libra). He pisces moon (cap)

wasn't very affectionate before leaving but was saying and doing things for me that I thought was his way of showing he cares. Do you think he's just not sure he can trust me again and is thinking hard about it? Being with me for a week should say alot I guess, he was only supposed to stay 2 days. He's not saying I will call ya later nothing! Help with bad or good! Confused again 5 months later lol!

He is done as far as a relationship is concerned, he is not that into you....

He spent time with you but that's like handing a feast to a starving man, if its free with no strings attached then take it kind of mindset, women put casual anything especially sex in a mans face he's going to go with the flow and take whats available, your mistake is not in so much going to him, your mistake is not telling him that you want things to be as they once were and that would have saved you 5 months of confusion because I can assure you he most likely would have never spent those 5 days with you, you took the casual FWB approach and that is all it is.

Well you know, I really didn't get into all the details for such a quick and definite response! I understand though. Everything is cool! U must get real sick of people saying same old all the time.

I have been dealing with him and he knows exactly how I feel for almost 2 months now, or he would have never been allowed to visit with me. Our relationship was always more than sex. We both feel a deep connection. I think he's more cautious than I. I tend to wear the heart on the sleeve, he's more reserved with words, but his actions and slip of tounge on occasion lead me to believe he really cares. He's told people I was his girl. He met one of my best friends of 20 years this trip and was concerned if she would like him. First time he's met any friends other than family. He really enjoyed meeting her and learning from her. He loves to learn things! I love that about him. I always try to learn new music, history, poetry etc...and tell him later, he seems to respond well to that.

Anyway, I guess I tend to get a little insecure when he leaves because he is so here when he's here and gone when he's gone, that's why I got scared and broke up with him. I have never missed anyone as much in my life, we have such a great chemistry. He never called alot before we broke up, unless he really had something to talk about, I've come to realize he does that with everyone, his best friend told me that.

I think he is a little concerned that I split with him and he has a trust issue. I guess I was just wanting some feedback from you guys and any advise from this point on as far as initiating contact, giving space etc...I'm a very private person and spend alot of time alone and he's the first person I've dated this long in 4 years...I'm in my 40's by the way.

I find cap men can be very honest even sometimes brutally honest. Your insecurities will kill his attraction fairly quickly, the breaking up coming back is a sign of strong insecurities in you and he will not tolerate it so much. If it were me I would leave him alone for awhile, then drop a hello if he doesn't initiate contact if he doesn't respond LEAVE IT ALONE for a little while longer and then try again. At some point you have to tell him what you want DIRECTLY and I'm sure if he wants the same he will reveal that to you, I do see this happen quite a lot with women I help and the outcome is usually not a favorable outcome. She's friend zoned, I just wanna be friends, let's see zoned and there isn't much you can do to get out of that box but to leave.

Also KNOWING what you need from him through feelings and emotions is a NO NO because unless you verbally say I want XYZ with you then the chances of him knowing is slim, men don't think like women and unless you spell it out he's going to think what he wants to think PERIOD. So I hope you took the time to tell him what you need from him and not assume he know.

Hey libralovecap I always say things are never black and white as we first perceive them to be. Alot of Tiki's advise is good. She seems to understand situations well, but I do disagree with her on other aspects. I will elaborate below.

This Cap gentleman is into you. He maybe not as into as you are into him, but things will change over time. Cap men are cool to warm up if we don't fall head fast in love off the bat. It's just our way of guarding our emotions. Breaking up with some one we cared about is hard and Caps dwell on things. So we hate feeling like we don't have control. If you broke up with him first, he is understandibly more guarded with his heart. If you think he is worth it, give him time to trust again.

Him coming in going is typical of any man not just Capricorn men. Men are like elastic bands. We want only when what we want is far away. When we get what we want we leave. It's not you. It's just the way men are. It might be an evolutionary trait. The hunter leaves his family for days to hunt. The lost of his warm bed and his wife compels him to haunt and feed his family. Rest assured the man will always come back if his bed is warm.

Anyways the reason why he is not calling you is because he has retreated into his world and is getting re-energized again. Caps are emotional peeps, but most of us can't sustain an emotional high for very long. Once our emotions run dry and when they do we need to go some where where we can just get connected with our heart again.

The best thing to do is to let him know that you miss him but let him come to you. He will appreciate the gesture.

Air sign men are better communicators. So it is natural for you to expect your Cap guy to be as so. Remember he is earth and water. His well runs deep and he is protective not to lead you on if he is still trying to figure out what he wants.

Best of luck to yah Libralove.

He is a lucky man if he bagged a libra. Libras are hard to get because they have such high standards.