Dont know best way to respond/deal with cap guy?

Been dating/seeing my cap guy for about 7 weeks. Everything has been going really well although very slowly and he seemed to be slowly opening up and he was obviously very keen.

Then last weekend we slept together for the first time. Immediately afterwards I said how I wish he had waited a bit longer to which he responded that Id made him feel bad and he was worried he had pressured me into it. He then said he didnt want to talk about it but everything seemed fine. Since then things have slowly gone downhill although we have still seen each other and slept together once again I feel he has become distant and there is this invisible wall come between us. We have still been in daily contact either by text or phone.

The other night I reached end of tether with the distance and asked him outright if anything was wrong etc - he said he was fine and it was just after what had happened (ie. slept together) and my response afterward, and he doesn't know if that's what I wanted and so he has just cooled it for a bit - he then asked me if he was reading too much into it. I told him he was understood how he felt, apologised and reassured him that I do want that and him. So I cooked him dinner last night, made a huge effort but there is still a distance - he said with a cushion on his knee all night almost like a barrier between us - there was no physical contact (i.e. not even a touch) although he did kiss me goodbye but there is def still a distance between us.

I really don't know how to handle this /what to do. I??ve asked him outright what is wrong so gave him the chance to end things if he isn't happy any more or to talk about things but he said he was fine etc. I don't know whether to speak to him again or just back off and leave him - I have no idea how to deal with these guys - he is so frustrating and I cant work him out at all but its making me feel really upset and miserable now as I feel like I'm really falling for him 😢(

Oh, Ouch! That must hurt to sleep with someone for the first time and for them to say they basically regret it. I would pull away too. His pride and feelings were probably really hurt by that.
It seems he still likes you though if he's keeping in regular contact so I wouldn't pull away further. He'll probably take that to mean you still regret getting closer and sleeping with him. It seems to me that he wants to be close to you but he doesn't feel (after what you said) that you want that too and now he's scared of getting hurt.

what's your sign anyway?

Im also a capricorn which makes it very difficult as we both keep things to ourselves and read/think too much about things and pull away!

I feel terrible about what happened and I know I must have really hurt him. Since making him dinner the other evening he has increased his contact with me again i.e. he rang me the following evening for an hour and he seems to be very slowly being a little more ok with me I guess.

But I never know what is best with to go with him - ive read that I shouldnt chase after him but let him do that..so for instance last night (we normally spend Fridays together at my house) I didnt mention meeeting up and he didnt. The nhe text he last night saying he was bored etc then he rang me and made a comment about how we could have watched a film together at mine - I said that he should of suggested it then but he said he didnt know if I wanted him there/wanted night to myself etc and I should have invited him - So he obviously had wanted to see me but wasnt going to make any move toward it. But I had felt seeing as though I had initiated dinner the other night it was his turn to iniate something - But I dont know whether this is all part of him being hurt and backing off slightly and that Im going to have to run after him a little to show I care??

Everything was going so well before this and I hope I can get it back again there again...I just dont know how or what it will take!

its seems as if you both like each other but afraid to say it..you could go round n round n circles until one of u is bold enough to say it first...if not you could go a long time in circles,,wanting to know but afraid to say...i know you have a lot of patience but why not just put it out there how u feel and stop carrying that around with..if you express it express it without obligations to it,,something is going to happen if you both like one another and then to it may not but at least you can be open and honest..me personally after i realize i like someone,,i can only hold it in for so long..then all of a sudden i say something and it suprises the person because i never said anything before..well good luck..just something to think about.

They are career orient and very distant poeple. They are extremely cautious, patient, intellegient, and observant. You need at lot of patience with CAP men . They try to act tough on the outside by deep down they are very sensitive. They won't reveal their sensitive side until they trust you. So don't look for to much emotion. These are the things they look for in a woman..... beauty, career orient, and intellegient. They don't forgive fast. Im just telling you things that I wish I new early in my relationship. Don't really pressure him to find out what's going on with him because he don't want to show any emotions. I hope you have patient cause you will definitely need it.

I don't really know why I said what I did - I did not regret what happened at all and Im completely beating myself up for saing something so stupid!

It took about 4 months of being friends to get to dating and the dating had been going so slow but so well and now it feels like we have gone 20 steps back!

The thing is, I dont know whether I should bring it up again and try to talk to him about it - explaining that I like him and now I dont know how he feels etc. But im worried this may scare him off so maybe I should just try to be nice to him and trust that with time and patience he will slowly come back round again??

I had asked to see him last night but he was going out with his friends, I had jokingly said I was starting to have withdrawals from him and he asked me if I missed him. I told him I was missing him - Im assuming that he will want to hear this to reassure him?

Its just now Im worrying that he doesnt like me/not interested anymore and is he backing off for that reason and am I making a fool of myself running after him but then on the other hand he keeps in contact with me and rang me on friday suggesting he would of like to of seen me - its just mixed signals!

Cap men are sooooo confusing - Ive never had anything like this with any guy before!!

Thanks everyone your comments are really helpful!

He ended up calling round mine tonight and we had a take away and watched a film. It was sweet as he only called in to drop something off so he had what he called his "slobs" on and when he went to pick up our takeway he also called into his house and got changed and done his hair etc - he said he was making effort and did it give him extra brownie points - so I felt like he was obviously trying to look nice for me

he was so much nicer to me tonight! He was more touchy again and he cuddled me all night! We had a really good laugh!

He also commented that he had liked the text I had sent him last night about missing him - sounds like he is needing he reassurance!

So Im not going to bringthe whole thing up again (unless need be) and carry on being patient and put huge effort in next time we are intimate...actions speaking louder than words etc!

But I do feel happier tonight as he has seemed so much like his old self tonight - maybe he has just needed the time to come round!

Aww thanks guys! Your comments were so helpful!

he rang me tonight for an hour and was so sweet and nice, suggesting us seeing each other etc.

I'm coming to realise it is true that they say you must have patience with these cap guys, Ive never known anything like it! Although Im also not sure whether its a bit strange as maybe I see so much of my own dating/love behaviour reflected in him!

Anyhows...fingers crossed it continues :-)