Has Cap ever hinted/ gave a warning—?

I haven't been on the boards lately since in my situation with my Cap, I'm at the stage where I've let him go without really letting him go. I have come to care less and have to come to live my life and I never felt better. If I look at the big picture, the good definitely outweighs the bad. As time went by, he became more insecure and I knew it by his behavior when we saw eachother (he's made it clear several times that he's interested and there could be something, but I haven't really put effort into confessing too many feelings. I just said I liked him and acted interested a lot less than he had. I think his feelings run a little deeper than mine and they haven't been reciprocated on my part, so I'm pretty convinced his insecurity grew).

I just wanted some insight as to whether your cap or yourself has ever warned the SO about having them wait.

My cap once asked me, the night he told me he liked me, if I would be the same in a few months and asked because "some people change". That's one of the comments he's made that really stood out to me, so I worried less because of it. I guess he's hoping that I don't become fickle upon his return.

So he basically hinted that I'd have to wait and things will run on his time, which I don't mind because I don't want to force it. I know how it feels to be forced.

Has this ever happened to you?

yes. my ex cap, after 2 months of dating, starting asking me questions like, "why do you want to be in a committed relationship?" or "why are you interested in me?" or even, "what do you have to offer if we were together?" i knew at that moment he was contemplating being with me, but just wasn't ready and needed to mull it over. at the same time, he knew where i stood. i guess i was being impatient or a little too assertive, because he basically said, "oh by the way, i'm not going anywhere. i'm HERE. don't worry." he disappeared for a bit after that, then we were together.

it was strange but he made me feel secure.

The same with me. Whenever I felt doubtful or unsure, he would always find a way to make me feel like I had no need to worry. But the disappearing always brings back insecurity.

I always get a gut feeling to suspect someone might be deceiving me or being insincere and I'm usually right and as much as I wanted to brainwash myself into believing he was doing something wrong to potentially hurt what we have, I couldn't. I couldn't hate/dislike him even I wanted to because he seemed too invested, even more than me.

I know that when he warned me that the timing wasn't right, for the both of us.

AquaSun, my Cap gave me the 'bad timing' speech too! Lmao. And boy was he right. One thing that clouds my intuition with my Cap is his sensitivity towards me. I've seen him speak to other people so bluntly and in a way that would cut deep, but even when I ask him to be blunt (and potentially hurt me so that I can move on) he'll respond in such a nice way that I'm almost pissed that he's so smooth lol.