HOW TO GET A CAPPY 2 TRUST?

I have made a lot of changes for the better with my Capricorn man but he act like he don't trust me very well. He ask me personal question like how many guys have I have sex with at least 1 a month as if I going to change the #. He normally want me to answer his crazy questions fast and If I don't then he thinks I lying and will ask me again later. Do he trust me or is this just normall for him to do.

He's trying to catch you in a lie...and when he does, in his mind, he'll know he was right about you all along.

Caps generally don't trust easy. Takes years. Sounds like he is trying to add something up in his head that doesn't make sense.

Hmm yeah right, for cappy women are also hard to trust their guy about cheating matter. We just need security so much. I did ask my guy weird questions too. What I want is he to be honest to me instead of ignore my question. This will gain more trust from me. If he didn't answer, I will move a step back and think about this relationship again. Very hard to gain my/cappy trust.

Are you absolutely sure you're 38 years old woman? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that one. You would be the first female I've ever encountered in my age bracket to sport such a complete vacuous area about you concerning menfolk. If he questions you, trying to trip you up, it means he's either:

A: Caught you in a lie before.
B: Deep down doesn't trust you ( for his own reasons ).
C: Previous owner was a lying bitch from hell and he just expects it from everyone else.

All these points circle back on one another. And don't change for ANYONE. If they don't like you or care for you just as you are, screw 'em! They can look elsewhere.

Posted by Lancer
seriously just let it go ! why would you make "changes" for him ? That's so pathetic and so unleo like . Do you have cancer in your chart or something ?

If a girl asked me to "change" for her , i would give her the middle finger . If you stay in this relationship , this insecure guy will supress all of your qualities . why are you doing this ?!


god i can't stand leo women ! too giving and too warm ........grrr ! you guys should trying being selfish bastards like us leo guys , it would seriously make your life a lot easier !

lol @ the middle finger. I say dont ask the question if you are not ready for the truth. If a person has to ask me the same question over and over again, I am going off on them.

Posted by venusianbull
Are you absolutely sure you're 38 years old woman? I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that one. You would be the first female I've ever encountered in my age bracket to sport such a complete vacuous area about you concerning menfolk. If he questions you, trying to trip you up, it means he's either:

A: Caught you in a lie before.
B: Deep down doesn't trust you ( for his own reasons ).
C: Previous owner was a lying bitch from hell and he just expects it from everyone else.

All these points circle back on one another. And don't change for ANYONE. If they don't like you or care for you just as you are, screw 'em! They can look elsewhere.

Right VB, I can hardly believe it myself. She has come to this board with a every little question, like she doesnt have a mind of her own. smh

Truth GeorgiaPeach. I'm *smh* too.

Simple answer? Be trustworthy.
And patient.

faith... you're like a heroin junkie looking for your next fix. ARGH!! HE'S NOT EVEN YOUR MAN! You're foaming at the mouth crazy, and obsessed with this guy. You scare me. You've GOTTA be scaring the daylights out of him too!

He keeps questioning you because things aren't adding up for him... and he CAN'T trust you... YOU'RE NOT EVEN REAL! You're a paper doll version of yourself, making "changes" and trying to wrap it up in pretty bows. It will BACKFIRE, because NO ONE can pretend forever, and guys can pick up on your PHONY vibe a mile away. He may not know exactly what it is you're doing, but he DOES know deep down that you freak him the fuck out! All ANY man wants is a woman secure enough to be HERSELF, to love herself, and love him. You might THINK you fit the bill, but you FAIL in all three categories. You AREN'T being yourself at all, clearly. You DON'T love yourself, you're insecure because you're "changing" so much of yourself to try appealing to HIM. And you DON'T love him, chica. You are ADDICTED to him. That's not love - that's obsession, and it's UGLY.

😢

Aw man. Misplaced gender, correctly guessed signs and brain farts? Where the hell was I? Oh right, work. Accursed 4 letter word.

And Nefer? WELL DONE. 🙂

Oh sure TOC *sniffle* Dash all my hopes and dreams. LOL And what does the Leo hope you'll do? Trip on your Laura Ashley frock and fall to the ground in surrender?

Can't blame the man for not being persistent. Taking it to realms unheard of..but persistent. Fourteen years, what did you DO to him? 😄

I was just teasing you woman. 😄 And therein perhaps lies the key. You don't fall to your knees in adulation.

Yes. I've learned at least that much so far. Taurus is just the surface. A lot of Fire underneath. So *nudging TOC* do you know his chart?

Sly indeed if he tries to pull that when you're drunk. 😢

Well that cleared that right up. The Virgo side is the one with the ice pick darting in and out of traffic with crows screeching overhead. Just gently release a Euro into the air and see if he runs after it. 😛

I'm laughing Lancer. See? *pointing to face*

Awwww TOC. Now I want to give the psycho a hug. Oh dear.

Yes.

Ahhhhso Lancer-san.

Big fan of it. 😛 Good way to keep wits sharp and laughs coming.

LOL! Libras are smart. I think she was blind sided by his creepy factor. All that gothic and *cue screeching violins* just flat out bamboozled the woman.

Uh....oh....my Lilith is in Virgo too, can I stalk you too TOC? Huh? Can I? *dancing from one foot to another*. 😛

Posted by Lancer

Posted by venusianbull
Big fan of it. 😛 Good way to keep wits sharp and laughs coming.

I knew i liked the taurus chicas for a reason !

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Well there you have it. Good reason to like Leos too. 😄

There, there Lancer. The Scales will tip and all will be right as rain in a moment. That is, if you can decide on whether or not it will be. Bwahahahhaa...and *running like the wind*.

Lilith is like the dirty secret you have in the recesses of your sock drawer. Your 'Dark Side'. And yes, I have cookies.

My Anus is in Libra. How ya like them apples, eh?

I like mine too. A good deal of Sag and Aries, Cap and Tau to keep me grounded. Venus in Pisces to keep me dreamy, bit of Gem, Libra and Aqua to keep the mental flex going.

Aries moon, me. Boom, boom, pow.

Want some of mine? I'll share. 🙂

LOL Hey, someone has to do it, may as well be you TOC. 🙂

Ooooooooo dutch oven. Dirty pool!

Whooohooooo!!!! It'll be like jacks or marbles. No fighting over the big green one though, that's mine!

LOL *peeking over cards* I've got 3 Sags and an Aries, hit me.

Shall I leave you two alone and put on some soft jazz on the way out?

I'll swap one Gem for a Leo. That will even my Earth and Fire out. I don't have any Lion anywhere in my chart.

Okay. 🙂 I do have to grab some bed soon though. This Taureau is getting sleepy.

Mars in Capricorn for me.

Hehehehehe I have TWO Gem cards. Booya! Hmmmm, I'll try Mars and see how it suits.

Awww TOC, yes the time difference does indeed blow monkey butt. 😢

Goodnight, sir, goodnight madam. I shall see you anon.

Posted by lildol
He's trying to catch you in a lie...and when he does, in his mind, he'll know he was right about you all along.

He not gonna cactch me in a lie because I never lie to him.

Posted by astrozoid
Caps generally don't trust easy. Takes years. Sounds like he is trying to add something up in his head that doesn't make sense.

You are so right! From the questions he ask, I answer them totally different from the norm and it's hard for him to believe me. He still has his protected armor on but I feel he's fallen for me. I felt this way before and I was certain things were good between us. Then I took his feelings for granted and things eventually changed. I'm sure after I took him for granted this made him have some insecurities issues with trusting me. I tell him how I feel about him all the time. He afraid of being hurt!

Posted by astrozoid
Caps generally don't trust easy. Takes years. Sounds like he is trying to add something up in his head that doesn't make sense.

You are so right! From the questions he ask, I answer them totally different from the norm and it's hard for him to believe me. He still has his protected armor on but I feel he's fallen for me. I felt this way before and I was certain things were good between us. Then I took his feelings for granted and things eventually changed. I'm sure after I took him for granted this made him have some insecurities issues with trusting me. I tell him how I feel about him all the time. He afraid of being hurt!

LOL! ^ Well I'd hang my head in ( mock ) shame and bring it back up with an ornery flash in my eyes, but that's not necessary. 😉 *deep sigh* I *suppose* I can return the thread to her trying to gain some insight on controlling a man who needs none.
No promises though. 😄

See there? I go to work and miss junk food, home selling and full thread ownership. And I meant control over a man is usually a laughable business at best, but gunning for it is a surefire way to make someone vanish like The Flash. 😉

And I'm selling all natural lotion bars, birthday cakes and other baked goods. Who's my first taker?

Have a good night Lancer. I'll make a triple decker cake with ganache that will bring TEARS to your eyes. 🙂

LOL Too funny. I really do need to sneak out and flip on that jazz you two. 😄

LOL Fine, FINE. Rock 'n Roll it is. I thought with all the volley/serve you'd want something a little more mellow and conducive to the fine art of the horizontal mambo.