My big Capricorn dilemma

Well I'm new to this although been reading it for a while, has given mea huge insight into my Capricorn guy andwish I had found it sooner to be honest, would have helped me understand him sooo much more...although he is driving me mad right now and Idon't know what to do!

Basically we first met last oct, and he wanted to make it exclusive by Dec...he really swept me off my feet, lavish dinners, home cooked meals, lots of pampering, long phonecalls and IM chats, and then it all cooled around feb/march time...no more 'hey beautiful' in his texts etc...I didnt know how to deal with it or why this had happened, he kept disappearing on me and not keeping in regular contact - as a taurus I really need the security of regular contact. During this time we broke up 2/3x, 1 down tohim then the last 2 down to me...basically what was going on in his life at that time was new job, renting out his house to move in with his mate for 6mths, his mum was ill agin with breast cancer and he found out his ex had had an abortion when they had been together and not told him. None of this he told me at first so ofcourse i had no idea what was going on, i was busy moving house (to his city to be nearer to him - he had kept suggesting i move there) and changing my job, so alot of pressure on me too.

Since I've moved I live 10mins walk from him and yet in 2.5 mths ive only seen him twice! He's busy with work, or doesnt feel like it cause hes too upset with his mum, shes still quite ill. Last week he disappeared on me again for 3 days, no calls or texts on my part made any difference he just ignored them, so i had to let it be and try and forget and get on with my life - sooo worried so it was so hard to do! Then hegot back in touch on fri, and texted him sat saying be good to catch up on sun(yesterday). When I go to ring him yesterday evening his number comes up as not in use!!! Thing is, there is no way I can contact him...since weve been together he's met my mum, been to my house and seen my new place in his city, ive never met his parents or been to their house, or seen his new place since hes moved, i dont even know the exact address and have only that one contact number for him! Hes always so secretive i thought he was just being wary and he would tell me all in time, but now his number says not in use im thinking all sorts, and not like i can go round and say is everything oki dont even know where to go! So am totally screwing...would like to know what everyone thinks

there is so much that has happened i dont know if ive explained it very well, basically at one point a month ago he pissed me off so much with being withdrawn, acting cool and disappearing i did abad thing onenight out. i was very drunk and i bumped into him in a club...so unlike me but i basicallygrabbed some other guy and went off with him to the bar -making it look like i had totally dumped my guy for some other! I guess i wanted to say you dont want me someone else will - i was very hurt by his actions and i had put so much effort into us for seemingly no reason, he didnt get mad just walked off.

in the morning i realised i had made a very big mistake and i rung him, he texted back saying what did i want i said im sorry can we talk he said what about that other guy and that i had embarrassed him infront of his mates (very big mistake i now know!) he basically wouldnt talk to me no matter how much i aplogised and tried to explain, he said first that was it no going back now maybe we can be mates, then he said maybe we can work through it. Basically heignored me for a whole week before he rung me and said yes we could work it out but he never wanted to talk about it. And we havent, apart from him throwing it in my face once since. now im also worried hewill get revenge, think he can do what he wants? Im so paranoid now and i know it was a bad thing to do that night, he has moon in aries venus in scorpi and saturn in virgo, dunno if these make much of a difference where fidelity is concerned