My Cap Is back to me....

My cap man had broken up with me a year go. he removed me from all his social pages...... b4 removing me from his pages he was so weired not replying my msges,,, no answering the phone . and finally he removed me frm all his social sites... and one day i called him he gave his phone to his freind to tell me he isnt here...... i was pissed off and stop calling and talking....... Now after a year he msged me on face book and asked me to be just friend.... now he is so nice to me like he was first..... I dont know if he is still interested or what.... plz advice me what to do.

And you want him back just like that? I don't know the back story so I'll assume he dumped you b/c of something you said or did but if he just dropped you for no reason, if I were you I wouldn't allow him to come back in so easily because a bad pattern of dumping you and coming back could materialize between the both of you.

But for the most part he said let's be friends and that is most likely all he wants, if he's sadistic he probably is just bored and want to get you back into the begging groveling position to feed his ego but let's assume he's sadistic and he's healthy mentally-emotionally, so treat him like a friend, just remember this, please don't allow a man to pull your strings like this, you are not a toy, he should really be up front with you about why he dropped you the way he did before you allow him back into your life, you deserve so much better than what he's offering you right now, be honest with yourself about the friendship, if you know you like him more than a friend then DON'T BE HIS FRIEND because you're just setting yourself up for failure by taking the path of least resistance, if I were you, in your position and trust me I've been in your shoes, I'd tell him I have enough male friends in my life and my ultimate goal is to share my life with someone so sorry can't be your friend but if you desire to date and develop a romantic relationship with me then we can go slow and see were it takes us, scary huh but it works and there is no wiggle room, he'll probably leave again but so what, there's the door.

thank you Tikki. U r right i still have selfrespect and pride. be four the break up we were just dating didnt have an acuall romanticrelationship he had just given me the time to know him..... but me Crazzy emotional girl just fall for him.......
the break up issue was an augument about removing my post from his facebook wall. he never let any of my comment or post on his wall he was hidden it........ I send him an angry msg y would he remove my comment I thought he might have another girl. ... or bla bla.... acually after this argument i told him I had feeling for him .......

Sorry...mean to say let's assume he's NOT sadistic

Well if he's hiding his FB comments then yes there most likely is other girls around, I'm sure of it but then again he could be playing games and attempting to appear mysterious to gain a certain amount of control over communication but either way IMO his behavior/attitude is TOO HIGH MAINTENANCE and it's annoying behavior.

If you feel anything past friendship then being his friend probably won't be something you'll be happy with especially if you feel deep romantic feelings for him.

Really it's your call, but protect your feelings, don't be so quick to fall back into an old pattern were YOU'RE THE ONE GETTING HURT mentally and emotionally. He must think you're a fool, coming back a year later as if none of it ever happened..Who the fuck does he think he is? I'm not you but I wouldn't put up with his BS but you say you're a crazy Gemini so maybe you're up for the challenge/headache.

Tanx Cap.... Yes i have the same feeling to just let him be friend and take it slow ..... i still have feeling but dont show it to him......

Oh yea cap at first time fridship he was introduced to me by a friendof mine ... straight to know him for relationship. he asked me to try to undrestand him and he gave me 10 to 15 months to know him...... then after the inccident of arguing about the hidden comment then he suggested to be freind but i told him no i had feelings. he still stayed friend .. but then after more agrument of mine he went offff. and then he was back .


My heart says just stay friend and procceed slowly i will say what happens.....