Peachcow's Question

My cappy tells me to keep dating which is contrary to what you said :

"I'd say I become increasingly possessive around a woman I really like."

I don't know how to take that. He is out of a serious (he said dysfunctional) relationship about 6 months, and we met 2 months ago. I myself got divorced last year so I am still relatively new to the dating scene. The chemistry between us is incredible but I can sense he is deeply wounded from the last relationship. He says he won't be ready to have a relationship again another year, but wants to keep dating me. My guy friends say he is not that into me?.

I am mid 30 and he is almost 40. I'd appreciate your advice.

Peachcow,

It sounds like he's telling you everything you need to hear. He's been hurt and needs time to heal, gain confidence, and move on. I don't know for certain, so please only take this as one man's opinion, but it sounds like he's trying to let you down easily. To say that I'm not ready for a relationship and follow that up with, but I'd still like to kick it from time to time means that I would like to keep my options open, but don't get any fresh ideas. Hey, I could be wrong here, but if his friends are telling you something as well, I'd bet he's shared some details with them on the side. While we may seem tied up with other stuff, we often times know what's going on, especially messages sent through our buddies.

Again, I could be wrong. (shruggin' shoulders)

Thanks, Enigmanupe. Actually the guy friends I mentioned are only my friends who never met my cappy. Both wanted to be my b-f so they may have bit of ego issues, but they say if I see mixed signals, that is already no-no...don't know. I wish I know his friends to tell me more info...one time my cappy told me that (about a month ago) it makes no sense for him to look for someone else since he met me (which made me think that he is interested in me as exclusive type of relationship in the near future). At the very beginning he clearly told that he has no time to and doesn't date for dating sake and he was attracted me. It was before I freaked him out by expressing my feelings for him. I immediately backed off since I realized (and he told me) where he is at in his emotional state.

At this point, all I can do is to stay friends with him, and keep my option open. I don?t know what else to do.

And I asked him why since it sounded like he was encouraging me to keep dating. He told me that we don?t know each other well enough to be serious and he is not available for me much (time wise). He says he is very busy taking care of his business and his boy (well it is his ex?s son but he treats him like his own son). I guess as you said Enigmanupe, he is basically telling me everything I need to know if he is telling the truth (sign).

I feel bit powerless since I cannot be with this cappy and cannot seem to enjoy dating with all other guys (Scorpio, Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo, Leo, etc?) that ask me out.