PIsces wondering what to do with my Capricorn Man

I am a Pisces (March 12 87) and he is a Capricorn (Jan 17 86)

We were together for one year when I broke up with him due to arguing and my feeling of a loss of freedom. He was jealous and had many double standards and I felt my life revolved around preventing myself from doing anything that would upset him. In hindsight, I realize I compromised too much.

We got back together for over another year. At first things were better than ever but then things started slipping again and we fought a lot. I convinced him to let me move in with him which led to him feeling like he did not have enough space to work on his goals and projects. He broke up with me after the fights got worse. He said he felt our paths in life were not headed in the same direction. I stopped contacting him and we did not have any meaningful interactions until recently (8 months after we broke up).

When we finally did see each other at my birthday party, he was all over me, spending all his time with me and we ended up getting together. For the next week we spent every night together.

We each found out I had slept with his old co worker, and he a mutual friend of ours. Clearly this is disturbing news to both parties, however he handled it a worse. I knew that we were separated and i feel it is normal that we both tried to move on . He on the otherhand villanized me and told me how disgusted he was and that he couldn't bare seeming me any more. I told him I couldn't handle the conversation we were having and we left the conversation without making amends.

I had expressed all my feelings openly. That I loved him and felt a powerful connection with him, that I loved him, but that I was angry that he had left me and also angry that he would make me feel so horrible and low for sleeping with his ex co worker when he was the one that ended our relationship in the first place.

I do still love him but he is behaving extremely selfishly. He has no right to make me feel any worse for doing what I did, when he chose to break up with me and slept with someone else as well.

I feel we are connected on a higher level and feel we could be great. But I also cannot handle the turbulent nature of our relationship and am afraid of getting hurt again.

I wonder if there is anything that could fix an otherwise great relationship or if I should let bygones be bygones and move on from this man that I feel is my soulmate. Any insight would be appreciated.

"He has no right to make me feel any worse for doing what I did, when he chose to break up with me and slept with someone else as well.


Don't allow him the power to make you feel negatively toward yourself. Only you can make yourself feel bad. You control how you feel about yourself. Someone else has the power to do so only if you let them. So don't let him.

I'm thinking when things started slipping that moving in together was perhaps a bad move.

Posted by truecap
"He has no right to make me feel any worse for doing what I did, when he chose to break up with me and slept with someone else as well.


Don't allow him the power to make you feel negatively toward yourself. Only you can make yourself feel bad. You control how you feel about yourself. Someone else has the power to do so only if you let them. So don't let him.

I'm thinking when things started slipping that moving in together was perhaps a bad move.

+1

I agree...maybe it was just too soon. He sounds like he loves you but he also sounds too immature to be with you right now because of his inability to compromise and keep the double standards at bay. My Cap can be a bit smothering and possessive at times (without a reason other than I'm his - LOL) but he is not the jealous type. Those types of men whether they are Caps or not usually have deep insecurities that aren't about you and they need to fix that before getting involved or they end up driving others away. He definitely is being selfish and doesn't want the proverbial Goose (you) to do what he (the Gander) did but it happened so either he can deal with it and move on or he isn't ready for you yet and may never be. It is up to you to decide if he is worth waiting for or move on to a man that will be more flexible.

Why did you have to sleep with his co worker of all people? Couldn't you have found someone else? I mean, he may have slept with a mutual friend but you only see that friend once in a while. But he may have to see that co worker more often during the course of his work. And that will only remind him of you sleeping with him.

You see, while Pisces is more accepting of their partners sleeping around ( or rather, EX- partners) because they're more open minded, Caps not so much. Also, as a guy, he wants his woman to be more loyal than him. Unfair yes. But that's how these men operate.

I think it'll take him some time to heal but the important thing is to remind yourself of what you wrote:

"I feel we are connected on a higher level and feel we could be great. ....

I wonder if there is anything that could fix an otherwise great relationship or if I should let bygones be bygones and move on from this man that I feel is my soulmate. "

You might be able to move on but could you forget about your soulmate? Would it be fair to the new guy you'll be seeing if your heart is still with Cappy?

I say let time heal Cappy's wounds. In the meantime, date around but don't get serious with another guy ( and don't lead them on either...sexually or otherwise). Eventually Cappy will seek you out, once he is ready.

Yeah, that came out wrong. Sorry. I meant to give a statement of how Pisces are more accepting of their ex-partners sleeping with others. I just couldn't figure out how to construct that sentence. *shrugs*