WORK, FAMILY then LOVE in that order

Hey everyone,

My first post here.. :-) Glad I stumbled on this forum, I have much to ask advice on with my Cappy BF. Well I dont even know if he is my BF, we have never discussed or established that and we have been seeing each other for almost 8 months. I do ot hink he is seeing anyone else, he dosent have the time.

At first it was all lusting, sexting and hot phone calls. Yes they can talk for hours cant they!!! Now its like its gone from sizzle to fizzle... We still talk daily but not as long. He lives 60 miles from me and has two kids from his last marriage which he divorced from 4yrs ago (his 3rd marriage btw....he is 53, Im 48).... So Im thinking he is mature to know that love should not come last anymore. Anyway, we have not discussed feelings, and as Im a Cancer, I want the feelings to e open, but he is sooo closed off. (this is a whole other chapter...LOL) I want him to tread there first. Lately, his kids have been with him most weekends, (he has a tuff time with the exe not wanting he kids as much as he) but still he needs a life too. SO with my one teen and his two we are lucky to see each other more than once a week, now that the weekends have come to a halt so to speak. He says he has told her by July the schedule has to be favourable and workable. But he has said this twice before to me. Im getting fraustrated to say the least as the bonding cannot be close when you see someone 4 times a month, if only I knew how he dfelt it would be easier to know if Im spinning my wheels or not. When we are together the clonsness is great, he is affectionaite and holds my hand ALL the time, from the car, to the street, to the restaurant, to the sofa and when we are asleep. Sex is passionate and he is sensual an dfunny..... Im afraid we are coming to a close with not showing he cares enough to see me on a weekend (i know he is with the kids at home when he says he is as I usually always hear them in background. Week days are a gamble with his schedule, but my teen is on a set schedule between her father and I, which he knows.

What, advice can you all give me before, I do like him alot, we get on like a house on fire and he holds me so tight whenever he sees me. He owns his own business, house and car, no CC debt but still works like a fiend and worries about his business a lot. Do I stay.... do I find a man who is there for me and not a 'I'll see you when I can" guy with zero emotions and a LARGE wall around his heart and love life.thanks 🙂

Hi soulfuleyes,

Before I answer your question, I will need to ask this.

Is the ex (the mother of his kids) still involved with him?

Check any of the katrillion threads dedicated to Capricorn Men so there won't be a repeat of answers. I bet you will find all you want to know and more. There are about 20 with advice on the cap man.

Hi Cappysweetie.... NO exe wifey is not in his life, they are divorced and he hates her wiht a passion and vice versa.

Okay, well in that case ... he is acting like the typical capricorn male lol. And yes, we can totally talk for hours when we are in the mood to talk. Other then that, we barely answer the phone.

cappy sweetie, thanks for response, the cheating thing transpired on Saturday night, looong thread on that if you want to read it and give your input...... A new week and Im hoping to feel better today somehow...