Advice for Taurus Mother

i have a 7 yr old gemini in my house who is your typical gem,,he is active,sharp tongue when he is not around me..but when he gets to school he is different-more active at school and more settled at home...i know he has two sides to him but how can i get him more interested in schoolwork/and school he seems to disrespect his teachers but when i come around he does what he is suppose to do..ohhh the mind games drives me crazy,but i still try to be a good effective mother..it hard to trust him because he tells little white lies,i cant believe nothing he says, because i know it is hard for him to know truth verses fairytale..any advise but me being a taurus-..Thanks for any help in advance

ccdarling thanks for your input it put some of my nerves at ease...he does pickup things easily/mental/ then he is on to the next thing...you are right on with he gets bored easily..i currently have him a karate class and he goes to boys n girls club afterschool and i think that really helps..he is getting better with age because the early yrs 4,5,6 were extremely difficult years for me,,,but i have made it work thus far,,sometimes it is extremely frustrating...because im not the most active taurus mother i work and pretty much come home and he is the only child..so i am trying to now incorporate more sports and other activities as he get older..but yeah there is a lot of explaining in this household due to he wants to understand why this and why that..and i understand his thirst for knowledge/mental stimulation...thank you so much...

whenever my mom talks about me as a child, her whole face changes. lmao I was a crazy crazy kid. I got in to EVERYTHING! I can't tell you how many times i had my stomach pumped as a little kid. I was ALWAYS grounded. I never cared about punishment. I had to have that instant gratification of whatever was on my mind.

I explored everything. I got decent grades, great grades in classes i had an interest in. I had tons of friends. When i wasn't grounded, i wasn't at home. Always in sports and activities. And my mom said she made sure i was always into something. In the summer, she couldn't trust me home and not get into trouble, so i was always away for weeks at summer camp. Greatest experiences of my life. I really needed that attention. Mom said i would always hurt her feelings because i'd be gone for at a minimum of 3 weeks and i only wrote when camp made us write letters. I was never ever clingy to family. Very independant! I distroyed most toys.

I would say this though.. i did'nt acknowledge my mom for about 3 years, 14 - 17 years old. All kids handle differently learning that their mom isn't perfect. I took it really hard and became a hellion. I mean, my mom couldn't tell me $ #% $ #. I caught her smoking weed, at 14. She didn't know i saw her. but she would always tell me not to do drugs.. blah blah blah and to catch her. OMG - i was devistated. not because of what she was doing honestly, but because she preached and was turning around and doing it. Then at 17 when we had a huge blow up, i told her why i didn't carea bout what she told me because of that. Her mouth dropped and she blamed it on my dad coming back from Vietnam. That set me off more.

I didn't really have a relationship with her until i was almost 30. She was my mom, i loved her but i didn't need her. now, since i understand more now, i get what she was doing trying to raise me, and she did right. I thought she did really well now that i'm grown. I should have been grounded and whooped much more though. LMAO yes i should have.

Be consistent, we have to have boundries or we will WALK ALL OVER YOU. yes including parents. Don't let him talk circles around you. as he grows up, he will try.

I know i would lie my butt off to do what i wanted to do. If your gut thinks he's lying, he probably is. And there needs to be dire consequences for lying. The more he does it, the better he will get at it. We are already good at it, so we don't need th

the practice lol.

Try and remember that the 2 of you think completely different too. We are so out of the box thinkers. We dont' neccessarily need to plan something, we just do it. You might be one of the Taurus that have to have a plan, and organized. SO not how we are.

My expereince with my Taurus man, it takes alot of effort to try and understand where he is coming from and where i am, but we do it because it works. My parents NEVER understood me, but as parents they dont' need to, to be honest.

just a bunch of babble, hopefully something helps 🙂

very nice BaBy-GrL414 :-)

"And punishment is not an effective way to treat a gemini. The most effective thing is to sit down and talk. Tell him why this is wrong, what would mean the consequences later in life, reassuring him that you love him and you say this because you care. Also listen to him to see what he says and why he did what he did. Then explain your point etc.

Man, i think this is why i am so much closer to my dad then my mom. My dad has 3 degrees in Psychology. He made my life HELL when i got in trouble. Dad didn't punish like mom did. Dad would sit and make me think. It was horrible as a teenage from my perspective because the last thing i was trying to do was think responsibly or in a mature manner. So when he would talk and to me and get my head going, it was shear torture. SO much worse then a beating. My borther and sister and i would always so to dad, "Please beat us!!! No talking!!!" lol

One of the other things you have to watch for in him is him manipulating you and people around you. Gem's are masters of this. The longer it takes to make him understand he shouldn't do that, the worse its going to be.

Opse, 2 degrees not 3, thank Gawd!

What Lauren said was BS and I don't get that crap judgment about your giving "minimal effort." What I gathered when you said "active" you meant physically active which is why you have your son involved in extracurricular activities. I think that's normal for some parents. If my son is enrolled in football there's only so much I can do to actively get involved in that besides being a cheerleader and driving the van 😛

I have some gem in my chart and a lot of gem house placements. In school, I never had to pick up a book. I doodled my notes. The most abstract drawing could mean some abstract thing my teacher said. I got As and Bs without much effort. Same in college. Long story short, I was a quick learner, easily bored, but never disrespectful.

I think the gems should give more pointed suggestions rather than excusing his behavior or chastising you.

One of my friends is an educator and she said there are actually 7? style s of learning and most schools cater to one. Maybe you can try getting him involved in activities that stimulate his mind instead of focusing on those that stimulate his body. Painting, musical instrument, volunteer orgs... It might be fun for both of you to learn a foreign language together. Dangle an overseas trip for the two of you in front of him and yourself is a nice lil carrot. He may really enjoy researching cultures, planning and imagining with you.

Overall, I think parents set the expectation for behavior in school. If you grow up knowing you're college bound, you treat your education differently. If you raise a child with an ivy league mentalty, ivy league is what they shoot for. If you don't care, neither do they. Try to set the expectation with regard to college. Go to your stat's top school's homecoming this year. Some schools have prospectives programs that might energize him as well.

Nope. Read what she wrote. You took that and made quite a few offensive leaps. You basically called her a bad mother and what I read is the opposite. I see someone who is trying to improve life for their child even to the point of looking to astrology. How many parent threads does this site get? But eh, blame mommy. So Freudian.

Bingo Sonata! Really good stuff...