Anyone in a long term relationship with a Cancer?

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Geminihope
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11 Years

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Wow!! Really phenyx? I just read an article that said soul mate relationships stem from being solid friends first and evolve into love. That's pretty awesome.

My Cancer man didn't run away and hide like I assumed he would when I told him my feelings for him two weeks ago. We talked about it, he still managed to throw things in my face I said previously but he also really listened to me when I told him he hasn't been contacting me as much and now he is back to contacting me everyday again. So I am hopeful I can rebuild something with him.
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Nyxx
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11 YearsTaurus

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Posted by Geminihope
My Cancer man didn't run away and hide like I assumed he would when I told him my feelings for him two weeks ago. We talked about it, he still managed to throw things in my face I said previously but he also really listened to me when I told him he hasn't been contacting me as much and now he is back to contacting me everyday again. So I am hopeful I can rebuild something with him.



This is exactly how my guy is lol. In the moment, it seems like they are combative and they tend to throw in things from the past in order to deflect... But the next day, they will fix whatever they need to fix. So arguments or even constructive criticisms are really difficult with them, but they are definitely hearing everything you say and will so whatever it takes to make/keep you happy.

And in return, they are pretty easy going and go with the flow. They dont complain about much...but pay close attention if they do! It'll be few and far between, so when they take the time to say something bugs them, make sure you hear it, acknowledge it, and fix it or keep it in mind. How you treat them means a lot, and it will reflect in how they treat you and care for you.

I'm extremely lucky to have one of the amazing ones, and its been every bit worth the long long friendship and courtship. 🙂 and from what I know about his past relationships, he's lucky to have such an amazing woman like me. 😉
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Geminihope
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11 Years

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ucky to have you!

I am trying to be really patient and not take it personally when he does go silent for a day or two. And I have decided not to bring up my feelings anymore or ask where this is headed. He stated he isn't dating anyone or sleeping with anyone else. Now I just need to sit back and let him chase.
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My Cancer man didn't run away and hide like I assumed he would when I told him my feelings for him two weeks ago. We talked about it, he still managed to throw things in my face I said previously but he also really listened to me when I told him he hasn't been contacting me as much and now he is back to contacting me everyday again. So I am hopeful I can rebuild something with him.



This is exactly how my guy is lol. In the moment, it seems like they are combative and they tend to throw in things from the past in order to deflect... But the next day, they will fix whatever they need to fix. So arguments or even constructive criticisms are really difficult with them, but they are definitely hearing everything you say and will so whatever it takes to make/keep you happy.

And in return, they are pretty easy going and go with the flow. They dont complain about much...but pay close attention if they do! It'll be few and far between, so when they take the time to say something bugs them, make sure you hear it, acknowledge it, and fix it or keep it in mind. How you treat them means a lot, and it will reflect in how they treat you and care for you.

I'm extremely lucky to have one of the amazing ones, and its been every bit worth the long long friendship and courtship. 🙂 and from what I know about his past relationships, he's lucky to have such an amazing woman like me. 😉
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Nyxx
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11 YearsTaurus

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It's an ongoing battle with the radio silence, but it does get easier with time. Once you recognize it for what it is and when its happening and why they need it, it gets better. BUT I will say, I have told my Cancer that it sucks incredibly when he does it, BC they honestly do not realize they are doing it and the effect it has on you. So don't be afraid to call them out on it, as a reminder. But also don't beat a deal horse lol. Its a tightrope dance, but you get the hang of it.

I put myself In his shoes when he needs his shell time, BC I need my space often too. I'm just more delicate about getting it lol.
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Geminihope
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11 Years

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Yea, I am trying really hard to be understanding to his time alone. I wish I was one of those geminis that needs a lot of alone time but i actually prefer being with people. The only times I want to be alone is if I am upset over a relationship and then I want to just hide out in my room or in the shower to cry. Lol

And today I was fighting the urge to sit down with him to clear the air on what we are doing but I think God intervened there because when I texted him to see if he was home, he was out with family. So I guess that is my sign to stop with the gemini control and just let things flow. Haha! I just always want to know what is ahead of me instead of enjoying the ride. _—
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Este8
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12 years with a Gemini man with a 2 year break and we are back together. He's got moon in Cancer, venus and his ascendant in Taurus. I've venus in gemini and sun in my 3rd house, the natural home of Gemini. I love love my gemi-s. Loved them b4 the man too. We worked out our issues and are back together stronger than ever. I think the key to our success was FRIENDSHIP. I never lost respect for him and we always keep the lines of communication open. Truth of the matter is he's the love of my life. Love and commitment can make any combo work. Don't turn away a man who seems good based on sun sign compatibility. Just go in with your eyes open, like you should anyway.
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SapphireGem
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Was with a Cancer woman for 4 years.

4 years of deceit, cheating, manipulation, secrets and mood swings. Worst relationship I've ever been in. Gemini's are all about communication... Cancer's are secretive and really don't open up much about what's really going on inside. That on it's own is a recipe for disaster, let alone everything else.

Have not spoken to her for over 2 years now and have no intentions of ever speaking to her again. Totally turned me off Cancer's completely even just as friends.
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satoristarlight
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I just split with a Gemini man three months ago, I have a lot of Gem and Libra in my own chart, at first it was amazing he was the smothering one not me though, he could be very romantic and generous, he needed major space though as did I. Everything we did together turned in to a beautiful adventure, we even went travelling together. In the end I found him immature and kind of empty headed. But I imagine with a Female Gem-Male Cancer this really could be a beautiful pairing. Regular space really is key to this combination in my opinion.
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Tete
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I dated a Cancer guy few years ago.... a total disaster and waste of time.

I found out he had a GF few weeks after we started dating, he left her to stay with me, yet after few months i found out that he was seeing her again, so all the 'space and time' he needed was to be with both.
In the end he broke up with me, which was great,then he stopped talking to me, and when we ran into each other he ignored me hahahahahaha as if i care, is like it was me who cheated!
He ended up marrying the girl.