help! pisces/gemini crisis

hi I am new to the forum and I thought who would be better to help me with this problem.I have been with my gemini boyfriend for seven years and yes I said boyfriend,anyway to this day we still cannot get this relationship thing right,I mean I love him like crazy but I don't think it's a forever kind of thing and as the years go on it's almost starting to feel like a waiste of time,I mean he's draining me of any sanity that I possibly could've had.For these whole seven years I have even kept a 2nd place just because the relationship is so fickle,by the way also expensive because I still live with him.he is a bit older than me which would make you think that he would know what he wants!!!!.I don't know,anyway can you guys give me a little insight on this situation because I don't think I can hang on any longer.should I go or should I try to work this out?

What are the differences between the two of you? Is he a monogamous kinda guy? does he like other women?

he is very flirtatious,but also very honest with me and I do believe he's very faithful for now.

of course I have to indulge in the third party escapades.hehe

So what exactly is your problem with him?

hi firce dravadian.well we broke up yesterday but he always comes back trying to get me does anyone think it's a wothy relationship to continue when he comes for me.Oh he's so good when he comes back he's a great actor let me tell ya.

maybe I'm a little vague on the details.

There is nothing much about insight. Get a job and live your own life.

thanks haffo,can always count on you to be the cheerful one.

Mystical1

I'm not a nice guy actually.

WHOOO!! I AM SO BEWILDED. This is a Jerry Springer topic, for sure....O-kay, okay!!! Let me get this straight...'You have been going out with this guy for 7 years, on & off.You live with him. You feel that he is "putting a strain on your mental statis", "wasting your time", "placing you 2nd of his live and such", and that the "relationship" is SO tipsy it could break any second ( NO, NO!! erase that,you guys have RECENTLY broken-up, yet you KNOW he will be back, because he is "such a great actor"....am i correct?) and your feeling for him hasn't changed,(though, it should)'.....Do you have a job or good trusting friends or family? If so, lean on that. If you feel and KNOW the relationship isn't stable and never will be, then guess what....IT WON'T BE!! It sounds to me that you WANT to waste your time and energy (and probably..money). And that is what you primarily need to survive now-a-days.

It just like putting King Tut on life support. Dude, f#ck it,....(it doesn't matter his sign) and just let it go!!

You dont need that holding you back. Act like Toyota, and "Move Forward".

Haffo actually has a point. live your life, see the guy if you want to, but if he's been displaying this "fickle" pattern for 7 years, dont expect that to change. i dont know if this is a typical pattern for Gem males, but the only one i know displays the same habits that you seem to be describing here. he and his wife have been married for 13 years...i've known them for 9 years and they've "broken up" so many times during just that period that i've lost count. he's a "changed man" every time he comes back too...for a while. unless you want to live like this for the rest of your life, move on. it's really that simple.

thankyou for your imput guys,and no I don't have very much of a family,he had gotten me when I was young so he pretty much is in my head,you can kinda say he raised me

I haven't had much of a job because I always worked with him and his business,also everytime we broke up I would get a little job,but of course I would have to quit the minute he comes back,he's very manipulative,but for some reason I can't put up much of a fight when he comes.

by the way our longest breakup was a week and a half,so i guess I'm trapped

Mystical1

It seems like you have incompetencies with your "self respect" department.

I actually like the third party, "partys" hehe but that is a good question emeraldgem.

I have also kept a second home apart his because of the way the relationship has been and I can't see myself giving it up.So this is were I come to recoup my sanity,I mean this is costly but without it I have no idea what I would have done,I've been thru that with him in the early yaers and that why I had to wise up and purchase this place.The thing is I know he loves me,the crazy part is HOW he shows it,and thats what drives me away from him at times.He's contradictory,fickle,possesive which at times for me can be a bit unerving and confusing.

sounds to me you are confused. you just need to get the f*Ck away from gemini's and try a libra or something.