How does a cluttered/ADHD gem time manage?

So I start school today and this is one of my most heavy intensive schedules ever.

I work 40-45 hours a week mon-fri.
I am only taking 2 classes, but they are killer. Developmental psychology requires a lot of study time and Anatomy is a horror story....15 hours a week put forth in addition to homework. I'm also not a nursing major so you can imagine how tough this will be for me! These classes are online but the time factor is still there.

Also I need gym time, 2-4x a week. Some time for friends, solo/relax time, and of course time for the bf. the bf is also super busy; he needs his gym time too, has 2 classes on campus, and works 2 jobs. Plus needs solo/friend time.

I can prob plan one friend date per week but given such busy schedules, how much time should be expected to spend with bf? We were talking 1 weekend day, 1 week day. Maybe a 3rd-4th if we work out together.

How much would you expect? He says at least once a week but that seems almost too little to me. But also I'm trying to figure out how to manage my schedule! He says some weeks will be more/less than others. Last 9 days I have seen him 7.

Can I get some advice for tips on managing my time wisely? I know I have to study and not procrastinate this semester! But I also want a social life/relax time.

Advice from other busy gems who are going to work/school, and possibly even parents too??

You just don't. I have ADHD too and I work and I just finished school with a 4.0. Honestly you will just have to try as best as you can. Even if you had a list or a way to manage it it won't go as planned trust me. You will have to make sacrifices like maybe shorten gym time so that your relationships don't suffer. Either way I would set days like alotted and not budge from it once you do. I had to be at school Tues, Weds, Thurs and in between I managed my full time job and a few other things. Ive had ADHD since I was a child and I tried getting on meds for it but it just dulled down my personality completely and well I figured hey ive been dealing with it this long F it. Plus it's part of my personality now somehow it just works. Being my zippy Gemini self. 🙂

I agree! I haven't been on meds since middle school, I can focus if I need. I just have to stop being so lazy. A 4.0? Wow!! Such dedication, I'm impressed. I need to get my GPA up to a 3.0...at least. I'm almost there! I was on academic probation last semester so there is extra pressure to do well this semester, my bf is not taking anywhere near the difficulty or classes as I am but he does have 2 jobs. The average out to around the time I work though.

He is on ADHD meds off and on and he can be pretty moody. But I can't talk....hellllo, gem with cancer venus/mars here! Plus libra moon never let's me know if I'm 100% on anything ugh.

How many days a week would you say should be maintained with your partner when both have such busy schedules?

I keep hearing people say they had to study for anatomy 2-4 hours a day :/ I'm going to shoot for a solid hour at first and do more when studying for exams etc. if I need more, I up my game.

My best friend said given the circumstance once a week would be ok with her. He wants to see me more he says for sure but it depends on our schedules. Maybe one week it's only 1-2x that week, but the next week it's 4 etc.

Because I have friends and solo time I need too. I can't spend ALL of my free time with him, as I don't expect him to either. I don't want it to be a strain/obligation, but a want.

Sometimes the BFs need to take a back seat. Sorry! No, I'm not a Gem, although I have moon and rising Gem placements.

I did 18 credit hrs one semester, which included a law class (talk about grueling), also worked 20 hrs per week while being a single parent of 2 kids and no support system. Just prioritize - what is MOST important at this time in your life? Sometimes a social life must be put on hold. Then again, I'm a Cap, I had NO social life at that time of my life, never gave it a second thought though. Just did what I had to. We age backwards LOL

Lol you caps are very career focused!

My bf and I have the same goals, we both want to go police then fed. Scorpio Midheavens, hello!

School is very important to us both. He will graduate next summer, and I WOULD have graduated after this semester but 24 credits were wasted on remedial math etc. damn Dyscaculia :/ so it's prob going to be 1-1.5 years more

After this I only have upper level criminal justice classes so I'm sure I can manage 4 of those with full time work and social. Honestly, will prob be same level of hard as the 2 classes I'm taking now even though it's half in number.

Bf is a Scorpio. We both want to see eachother but I think expecting to see eachother more than 1-2x a week EVERY week is unrealistic. Espec if exams?

After all distance does make heart grow fonder. We've been seeing eachother sooo much we've been feeling like we have to sacrifice other obligations, friends etc.

3.5 years out of the 4 I was with my ex we saw eachother one weekend a month during the school year because was an engineering major and went to school 6 hours away. I think the distance helped keep us together so long. It was a factor in the break up but only because he stopped communicating verbally with me as much and wasted the time we had together.

I just worry because some distance is good to make the heart grow fonder but it could also lead someone astray and I worry that he could get so busy and get used to the idea of not having me around so much and eventually like it and keep me at a distance. I don't want to go backwards.

Ritalin

That doesn't always help. In a lot of cases, it's actually a lot worse.

Plu, I don't always believe in self medicating. There is a pill for everything...doctors make good money off of it.

Lol well thank you.

Posted by xygeneration
Stay off caffeine.

Eat a balanced diet.

Avoid simple sugars.

Jog.

Drink water.

Like a nutrition god mother lol. Some simple sugars are ok! I bike 30-50 miles a week, I burn it off. I need to drink more though...I usually am not thirsty until I'm already dehydrated :/

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