Can these Taurus men here help me out?

It's been almost two months since i met this taurus guy. I really like him alot and he says he likes me too. But he has been acting weird and not really sure what he wants. He lives by himself and i have been to his house numerous times and spent nights. He's also been to my place and spent some nights as well. we go out alot and he will either call and text me if i don't. When i first met him he kept saying he had alot going on and he needed time to work through his stuff and was taking too long for me so i told him i couldn't just sit and wait not knowing how long i had to wait. so he did make an effort to make things right between us an dstarted spending more time with me. He knows i have trust issues coz i have been hurt so many times and he says he wouldn't do that to me coz he has a heart and a soul. I stopped talking to him so many times when we first met coz i felt like he was lying and he would still pursue me. He tells me i need to stop shutting down on him when i feel like things are not right. He says he's here to stay and no matter what I do; i won't get rid of him that easily. We talk daily; either initiated by him or me and we text daily as well. My problem is that when we make plan sometimess; he cancels and i'm not sure why and kinda does it at the last minute. Is this normal? Recently he ran into some trouble and i know he's trying to work through them but he won't let me be there for him. Have tried to see him, hang out, cook for him but he's kinda distant and changes his mind claiming the need to take care of something that came up. I know he really needs me now more than ever but i don't know what else to do to be there for him. Do you guys think he might have somebody else? Should i give him time? Whenever i tell him i want to give him time he says no. what should i do? Should i just wait? I don't know what to do

Do your own thing.
Pursue other options.
Quite initiating.

Oh, and he doesn't "need" you! You want to be needed...

When he cancels out, he does make up for it and we meet another day. He used to initiate a lot of the going out when we first met and he was complaining that I shouldn't be letting him initiate all the time and that if I wanna see him, I can also come up with something or let him know. The few times I have asked to see him; he has been available tho'. And when I text or call him, he will answer and we talk. If he misses a call, he will call back. He doesn't give me the cold treatment.....and he's only cancelled like 2 times. First time something came up at work and 2nd time they called him to go in to work and that day he offered to come see me when he got off work but I ignored him.

Thank you @notyourtype. Are you a Taurus by any chance? I refused to accept his offer because I was upset at that time and I thought he might not come through with that one either. That was before he told me to stop shutting down when I feel like things are not going my way. Maybe it's just me being paranoid due to the previous relationships. I do wonder why I have to keep initiating the communication tho'. I have to text and call to check on him; I ask if I can see him and if we can do something. If i wanna see him, he is usually available. When I ask if we can hang out or do something; he asks what I have in mind and that's what we do......not everything tho' lol. It's like he wants to see me or hang out but he can't ask. I don't think he would be saying yes if he didn't wanna see me. What I don't understand is; why do I feel like I have to push to see him or spend time with him? Are Taurus men always like this? Will i have to be the initiator all the time and for how long?

He will call or text if a day goes by without him hearing from me though....

Here's a taurus male's perspective: we don't initiate very often. Loved ones are not an exception. And I can confirm this because my brother and some of my friends are the exact uninitiating way (Taurus). It's just something to be accepted (and we don't mean anything by it). The way that he immediately tries to remedy a cancellation tells me he's interested. I'm an extremely blunt person though (as are some Taurus), and if I don't want to see you, I'll clearly tell you to where there's no question about it.

So again, we don't initiate, we don't initiate, we don't initiate. Something you'll have to get used to if you're willing to. This is why I've referred myself as the "tag-along" friend. Friends hit me up with plans, and they know that I'm the least likely to bail on them!

Thanks kupochan....so my question is. Is this what I should expect on a daily basis? As in me initiating everything? I was thinking of giving him the cold shoulder for a while and see what happens. But i am scared that i will push him away when I do that.....coz he complained the few times I did it when we first started talking. What do you think? I do like him a lot and I doubt whether he has another girlfriend; but sometimes i feel like he does and kinda feel neglected.

You have to get rid of doubts of him seeing other girls, astrology aside. I know you've been hurt before, but part of truly getting to love someone is giving them the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully he himself will naturally get rid of that idea, but you have to put in a little effort too.

I would say about 75% of the time we won't initiate (so out of the 3 times you initiate something, he'll probably initiate on the 4th), but that's a silly non-real life estimate. And if he's stated before that cold shoulders make him upset, then you only upset him and nothing else. He's a Taurus. He's good at hiding what he's feeling. I'm probably betting that he's feeling a tad bit insecure about you also, but he's making sure you don't know that! I myself like someone chasing me, BUT also giving me some space to think. We think of the future outcome of our actions strategically 🙂

You are right abt the cold shoulder thing and it will only make things worse between us. I do give him space when he needs it and I let him be when he doesn't wanna be seen. But he wants to stay to himself a lot which is kinda weird. It's sad that you guys are good at hiding stuff and what ya'll feel. I have tried to make him talk and at least tell me what he feels but he won't do it. I guess I should continue initiating....but you know the problem with Pisces is that we are not good at pursuing people and i hate it. We can only do it for a short time. We are good at hiding and we don't bother people. Coz at times I feel like I'm bothering him even though he says I'm not

Then take his word for it. If he says it doesn't bother him, start to drill it in your head that you really aren't, just reassuring him that you're still interested (we need reassurance even though we come off as confident). This is something you'll have to adjust to for initial stages of dating and maybe even forever (really question yourself if you'd be willing to initiate so much). Thereon he might loosen up and be more initiating. We want to be 100% that the person would move mountains for us before we to them. Yes we can be a tad selfish on feelings, but we only commit to what we safely know. Just keep it up, I'm sure it'll pay off soon and you'll have one of the best kinds of love out there: A loyal, honest and pure love that is Taurus love 🙂

Thank you kapochan.....I do like him and I just hope and pray that he is the one. So i will keep doing what i have been doing. You guys are stubborn and I have been trying to make him go to church with me. But keeps coming up with lame and funny excuses why he can't. You being a man; how would you feel about that and any tactics on what I can do? Is it asking for too much? Lol

You said it yourself: we're stubborn. We will not be pushed to do anything and if we are forced, we'll be grumpy/upset as a result. He'll go when he's ready to go with you. Just make him feel more comfortable. Treat him as a good friend and let yourself unravel NATURALLY to him and he'll unconsciously start doing the same, but again at his own pace. Keywords to dating a Taurus? Patience, emotionally stable (so we don't drive you crazy with our slow-paced. poker faced selves), honesty and consistency (keep showing interest at a good pace).

The less you think about it, the more successful you end up being! Don't be your own enemy by overthinking everything you and he does. It pays to just have a blank mind! It sometimes helps to turn the tables on yourself: make it in your mind to where HE has to earn YOU, as you know what your self worth is.

Thank you once more....I know I over think stuff and I look into each and every detail too much and I need to stop. He's told me that before and says i need to relax and just go with the flow lol. Was kinda hard for me at first but I think I have started to loosen up a little bit. So I will keep with the consistency and I will just do to the best of my ability......will leave the rest to him and God and if it was meant to be; it will be and if not oh well atleast I know I gave it my all.