Confused...can you help?

I''m so lost. I love this person who just about three months before we started dating had gotten out of a four year relationship. I had known him for close to a year by then, and we had always clicked. Three months after we started dating, we broke up because he said he needed time to get to know himself better. I''m more than willing to give him time, I completely understand, but how can I help him see why we should be together now. I love him so much, and I''ve never been more sure about this before in my life. I just don''t want to go another day without him.

Good luck! take it easy. be gental with yourself. so he needs some time alone, live him alone, what can you do?! take your time and injoy yourself without him for awhile...

Thank you so much. I honestly am sick of people telling me that he's just being selfish. I love this person, selfish or not, and it's nice to hear someone agree with me about letting him go his way for a while. If you leave your E-Mail address, I'd love to talk, who are you? I kow you can't be too careful these days, but hopefully you'll consider it. anyway, thank you again!

hi again! i had the same hard and confusing situation with feelings, with life situation and everything together! it was hard but now it is much easier, i got used to my lonely life. sometimes when i want to recall good moments, i listen to music, drink some wine 🙂
he probably confused in the same way as you are right now, its better to be apart when there is some confusions with one person or another. its sad that life is complicated. if he loves you, he will come back like you never been apart, if not its going to be something to remember 🙂i listen to DIDO when i want to think about him..

I have come out of long term relationships and you do need time its difficult just to let go and transfer your feelings to somene else. patience usualy wins trouble is when you want somene so badly its usally the last thing you have.Try if you can to get to the truth be very sensitive though

dear GOD! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BECAUSE WITHOUT YOU I WOULD BE NO WHERE BY NOW!

what is sensitive? 🙂 sweatheart, sweaty, hansom, man of my dreams, love of my life, my baby,everything... i am not shure what are YOU trying to say.

Sensitive it means in trying to win your love you should choose very carefully your words. There is I feel something hidden here.The last thing I would want to know is to get to know myself.Why I wonder should someone say that.
You must learn the secrets of abundant love you have already said that you can wait. Fate has played its part now let love have its turn.Whatever I,ll have some good thoughts for you over in the UK.Good luck

ok, i will try to be as much sensitive as i can. it would be nice, if you would share some thoughts of yours, just do not confuse me...

Dear unknown,
I am sorry if I confuse you I hope things will get better.
I am really saying be sensitive to his needs and take care of yourself.

I'm so glad you guys have gotten so much from this. Back to the original story that started all of this, I'll up date you guys a little.
I went to where John works yesterday, and I haven't called him in two days, (which has been very hard) and I put a daisy on his windsheild. It's sort of a symbol from when we were dating, the happy flower. we had talked about wedding perposals before, and I told him I would love to have a thousand daisies everywhere.
We haven't talked all that much, but the last time I saw him, he almost refused to even look at me. And he's been drinking almost every night with his friends since we broke up, what do you think that means? Freedom? Finally getting some freedom, and abusing it? I don't know. But I do think that I have no place in his life right now, as much as I wish I did.
I still love him, and think of him all the time. I wish it would all just stop...but it doesn't.

YOU KNOW, I GUESS, DRINKING MEANS FREEDOM! HE WANTS TO DO WHATEVER HE LIKES TO DO OR NEEDS TO DO. GIRLS JUST WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT EVERYTHING, ITS PROBABLY NOT ALL THAT BAD AS IT SEEMS.

JACKO, THANKS. I THINK NOW I UNDERSTAND BETTER HOW TO BE SENSITIVE ABOUT HIS NEEDS. ITS VERY IMPORTANT, WHEN PEOPLE USE THE RIGHT WORDS 🙂

may be he got a little scared when you mansion about wedding flowers or anything about that event... men like their freedom and its not neseserily drinking. but your behavior is understandable, you are rulling by your feelings now and no way he would like to be with you right now. i had that too. i felt strange, like it wasn't me, i was fool of feelings and they were driving me nuts! i used to come to his apartment and looked for him at night. i feel so embarrassed now. so, try to concentrate on something else, like musik, other friends, whatever...write something, relax, he is not the end of the world.

or read a book for god sake!

jacko, i need an ice cream, that is my need these days but guys do not like that because you know...not too much care about the weight! so, you see its not always work that way.

Dear Confused,

Buy yourself the biggest ice cream you can either afford or manage. Treat yourself you deserve it. Ice cream or beer I know what I prefer ice cream and lots of it.
Men are not bothered about weight the more the better we like girls who wanna have fun fun.
Remember be patience cocentrate on you not him he,ll be back they always come back male or female.
You could read a book or stare into space thinking about it all. Your choice

you sound kind dear jacko! like a perfect gentelman! i ate so much ice cream that i cannot fit into my pants.
niki, i liked your move with flowers 🙂
remember, you are not alone with those moves, i used to sent cards and letters, not to mention presents...

Dear everyone...
Thank you so much for all you had to say to this, but I'm afraid I cut everything off last night. I called him and told him that I had to see him, immediatley! I went to his house and I explained to him that I couldn't deal with everything. I told him that this was the real good-bye. My feelings were too much for me to deal with, it wasn't like me to be bejhaving like this, so I had to do it...let him go completely. I'm really hung up on closure, he knows that, and he told me that the door was always open for me to come back, but I'm going to try my best not to. He's 21 years old, and I'm 17. But at the moment, I feel like the one who's more mature. Tomorrow he said he's going to do acid, and I think he was doing coke last night. It hurts me to see him going down the drain like this, but it's better that I get out while I can. He wasn't anything like this when I was with him, or even when I knew him before. He had said that he was done with drugs...but I guess now that he's free, he's doing just what he wants.
I'll admit I'm crying at the moment, because I know he's better than that. He was so perfect before...responsable, kind, smart...and now he just doesn't care. I'll always hold him close to my heart, but it was just time to disconnect.

Dear Unknown,aka Niki,
I am so glad you enjoyed your ice cream
we all suffer from tight fitting clothes they just seem to shrink in the wash.
If your english you have to always use your manners and behave properly stand up when a lady enters the room give up your seat on the bus and generally treat women like royalty.No matter what is thrown at you just grin and bear it.
Try leaving sweets next time although I would definetely prefer daises.good luck

Dear Niki!
You are very smart girl that you broke up with him because you do not need him if you do not want to mess up your future and your health! Get a good education instead. You just feeling attached to him, that is why it hurts so much! It will get better!

Sometimes your royal manners amaze me, english man...i am not of many words person but you deserve a big box of chocolate ice cream yourself...injoy it.

What rain does to the flowers tears do for the soul.

Thanks for the chocolates and best wishes

best wishes to you to!
i liked your comment about the rain and tears! please continue...

more thoughts from the uk for you,
for a moment try to think of your mind as a garden, if you plant flowers you will get flowers if you plant potatoes you will get potatoes if you plant nothing you will get weeds sow the seeds of love and guess what you will get.....

thank you for not leaving me alone 🙂
i am guessing, perhaps reunion of two souls forever would be nice...

Things for you sweet young lady will change the wish that have cannot be refused love will find a way it always does. True

thanks...sounds romantic to me...
what about you, did love find you? i hope she did...
p.s. LOVE must be female because she is very treaky 🙂

I found a love that only comes along once in alifetime some people search all their lives for and never find it some do not believe it exists.
its not easy but I have no choice

O, Jacko!I know exactly what you are talking about...it is not easy at all but if you guys already all over each other, it should not be hard, it should be exiting 🙂
I found my love too which can happen only once your life time, but we are not together, that is why it is hard for me...

Niki niki, what can be done to help you,
do you still feel so bad? I am thinking of that recording by Lauren Hill ex Fugees ,IS THIS A GAME THAT FORCES YOU TO ACT THIS WAY THEN PRETEND THAT YOU CAN,T STAY.
Remember they always come back

NIKI, HOW ARE YOU? WHAT IS GOING ON WITH YOU GIRL? ME AND JACKO WORRY ABOUT YOU 🙂 ESPECIALLY JACKO, HE SEEMS LIKE A NICE PERSON. TELL US YOUR LOVE STORY JACKO, SHARE WITH US...WHY IT IS NOT EASY FOR YOU?

Dear all those in concern,
I'm okay right now. I still miss the one I love everyday, and I've been trying very hard to keep myself busy so that I don't have to think about him. But I think we all know that nothing honestly works. I said my goodbyes, and I wasn't going to talk to him again for a long time, for my sake. I couldn't handle how he was treating me, and I shouldn't either. He's not really doing drugs right now, and he's slowed down alot on the drinking. I was very happy to hear that. two nights ago we stayed up talking on the phone from 12:30am-5:00am. He tried to explain to me what it's like to be him, and how he always thinks. He said sometimes when people do acid, they think intensly about their lives. They laugh and cry, and sometimes, just sit there. they analyse everything over and over again. He said he's always like that no matter what.
I almost cried for him, right there on the phone. I love this person with all my heart, but I've learned that I can't push, and I've stopped doing that. I haven't called him since that night, but that doesn't stop me from loving and thinking of him every second of every day. Messed up or not, I love him either way. I just wish he would be able to say the same.

First to Niki, continue your patience and hold your position firmly don,t doubt your feelings just keep hanging on.
Soon you will get used to having someone on your mind all the time its just gets easier a way through will soon be found.
Jacko,s love story started a long while ago when I fell in love with a very beautiful woman who has an inescapable duty and loyalty. It has cost us both dearly in terms of heartache and anguish.
It has involved travelling to different countries mercys dashes through the night countless letters of love and walking hundreds of miles and yet our love just grows and grows. I don,t know when my beautiful love and I shall be together sometimes it seems amoment away the next so far.
To Niki he warmth of love will soon dry your tears....

Niki, feel better! Jacko is right, love will dry your tears. At least, you guys talk on the phone, it is better than nothing...eventually, everything will work out!
Jacko, how far do you live from your beautiful woman? How long you did not see her?

I,m so glad your better.a wise head on such young shoulders you will be rewarded soon.The dawn of happiness is almost upon you.
About jacko,if I look from my place I can see the castle where my gorgeous beautiful princess resides. Sometimes I am so close I can see her smile at others I hear her tears.Tommorow will be the second time in a year that we shall be together for this I have to cycle a hundred miles as you too will find every second is a second nearer to the chosen day when all will be united in love.
I will have more good thoughts for you

Jacko, Jacko thanks for your wonderfull wished to me and Niki! I am so glad for you and your princess in the castle! As I understood, tommorrow you are going to see your beauty, god bless you sweatheart!

`where you disappear so sudently, Jacko...how is your princess doing? how are you? i can't wait to hear from you soon...unknown

To my friends Me and Niki I was just about to post a message wondering how you both are. I have really missed you.
Today I met my princess at the airport
she looked so gorgeous coming throught he departure lounge.I managed to snap off a lot of picture shots using flash to make everyone know that she was really special and to let her know how much I love and adore her.
But you two are very special too so please let everything be good for you.
I have to know that this is true

hi, jacko! thanks! me

Sweetheart....
So glad your ok.
Hang on to your dream it will come true thats what dreams are for. I think your really being great with patience maybe your becoming more used to never ending cycle of thoughts about someone.
Unless your in love with someone no-one else could understand.
I know I keep saying this but love always come through.
I,m glad your o.k. though.
I,ll mention you both in prayer.
someone,s bound to be listening.

THANK YOU MILLION TIMES!

Hi Nikki,
I perfectly can understand the way you are feeling. But I can also understand him. Probably he needs to get aware of his own aims in life and to discover his inner self. Once he knows himself better this may help him to start a new relationship and to be able to react in such ways as to make it a lasting one.

YES, YOU ARE RIGHT, LET HIM DISCOVER HIMSELF!