Don't understand Taurus Mother

I can not ever sympathize or relate to my Taurus mother. I loathe how she just assumes things about my future (she assumes I'm going to pay her money when I live on my own). Of course I'll do it out of obligation, but she talks like I OWE her my soul for having to endure a painful labor and raising me. And she gets frustrated and petty/whiny when I lock my door/ignore her/ hang out with my friends more than her. She of course, covers up her neediness by saying that I "need to study more and prepare for my future". What she means is "Why won't you come home and hang out with me? You never hang out with me! I'm your mother! I'm suppose to be your best friend for life!" Ugh, that woman needs to understand that I will never be attached to her like a Cancer child or a Pisces child (not a scorp btw). I am not very emotional and she thinks its because I have a mental disorder because I don't act like a "girly-girl" (i.e. cry, whine, obsess over my looks).

Most of the time, I feel like I was born just to make money and give that money to her. Ironic that I feel like a Cash Cow when I was born from a mom who's horoscope is a Cow (or rather Bull, but that's male)

She likes to aggravate me and nag me, but when I make like a scorp and say something from her past or about her behavior that "stings" her, she gets all defensive and starts accusing me of treating her like dirt. I coldly reply that if she doesn't like getting stung, then don't play with me. Again, I'm not a scorp, just an Air sign that is [unfortunately for her], not a mommy's girl. The more she tries to hold me back or control me, the more detached and apathetic I become towards her in general.

Maybe it's because she was the youngest of five older sisters and she has an inferiority complex so now she thinks she can pick on me like her sisters did with her. I just remind her of all the times she acted hypocritical against her own belief system and she becomes sour. In fact, I don't even want to get emotionally close to her at all anymore. I also don't like how she wants to move in with me when I get into my career.

Only that she needs to back OFF otherwise she won't hear from me for a looong time. Basically, everytime we talk, it's usually a 50/50 whether it'll be a 'ok' conversation or just a one-sided one. And guess who is being the wall?

shut the hell up and stop whining like a little bitch.

you're not acting like a scorp. you're acting like a smart-mouth, disrespectful little shit.

damn ingrate. i'm so pro-retrograde abortion.

Did I mention that her behavior is also what drove my dad to becoming a smoker?

Sure it's his choice to withdraw from her when she acts like a B-zilla and it's his choice to stay out of her way every chance he gets when she blames him for the house, for ruining what she sees as her 'bright' future, for NOT being what she sees as an 'ideal' man - someone to do her every bid and put up with all her bullbutter tantrums AND earn as much as the President himself. She doesn't see my dad for all he's already done, secure a stable living for us and provide a steady source of income. NO, she wants more, more, and more. What's worse, she's always comparing him to her friend's husbands, saying how much they earn and crap. It's hard to please her and I don't blame my dad at all for giving up. If he can't make her happy by letting her splurge on anything she wants (which she never uses anyway) and not complaining about her wasting money, then she can just be the way she is with all the useless material she has lying around.

I'm pretty sure it's not just because she's a Taurus. She's also a DRAGON according to western astrology. So stubborn, insensitive, and over-demanding. Sounds like someone you'd definitely want to live with for the rest of your life, doesn't it?

Oh, and DaBull, thank you for the sound advice. I did try it, I even made her a cake.

Five minutes later and I find myself washing said dish and her upstairs complaining about how it's not sweet/moist/whatever enough.

why is yo dad still with her?

Oh that relationship is so doomed. No man respect and allowing a Bull to trample is never a good thing.

She could have mental issues, and the only reason why they're still married is because it's been arranged. Which is why arranged marriages SUCK.

Sure, my dad tries to enforce himself and not let her go all crazy, but that is when she starts whining that she is being 'repressed', and that he's not giving her enough freedom. I'm pretty sure Taurus, a stable sign, is not the most known for hypocrisy.

Professional help, definitely. It's a shame she can't even get help because she's too stubborn to admit she has a problem. Actually, she's b----ing outside my room right now. I've locked my door cause I'm tired to putting up with her crap. I'm just going to let her rant on and on. I don't even care to try to console her anymore. That is like standing with your arms out-stetched in front of an oncoming freight train. Better to let her b---- it out and ignore me until she pulls another treetrunking 180 this weekend. She suddenly "respects" me when I go to my work - only because she wants the money I earn. I see through everything 'nice' she does for me. Hence why I never respond to her enthusiasm or bother to get 'in sync' with her about something - that would feel like lying to myself anyway since my views are totally opposite to hers.

Our relationship ranges from noncommital (my fave) to resentment (don't care, as long as she doesn't think I exist). I don't show any kind of emotional response whenever she threatens or announces that she's moving to another state when she has enough money. In fact, I'm rejoicing inside. THAT is toxic our relationship is. I'm so glad I'm not going to see her when I go to college. That crazy woman needs to see a psych ward and a psychologist with how she treats others and then demand how everyone treats her (like royalty).

Bottom line, I don't think she could be this bad if it weren't for the fact that she was born with such a bad eastern/western combo. A Taurus Dragon is a treetrunking nightmare. That's like a person who is Aries/Taurus (shudders). Not one ounce of sensitivity or motherly tenderness (at least not one without some ulterior motive anyway) Or maybe she's unlucky to have a girl like me. I'm pretty sure there are girls out there who can put up with her crap through tears and emotional displays, but that is not me. Nor will I EVER try to be that kind of daughter for someone like her. Not even if it was her last wish. Its too late for that.

I'm going through the same exact thing as you just typed up here. It's been three years since your post was made but I wish you would see this and reply to me how things are with you now, and how you dealt with it all. I feel like you will understand exactly what I am going through and be the one who listens. When I try talking to others about it it just doesn't click. I wish we could talk.