Felt in love from the first sight with a Taurus Man need advice

I am born May 21st I am born on a cusp of Gemini and Taurus.
Nov 26th I met this Taurus guy born May 3rd in a bar and by just touching hands there was this very intense connection. We danced all night and made out as if we knew each other from a different life time. Before he leaves he kissed me and said he would call next day.
Next day he send a txt thanking me for the great night and saying he would call in the beginning of the week. I responded by thanking him for the fabulous evening and kind of apologizing for my behavior but telling him that because of the vibrations probably I had no regrets!
When he did not call till Wednesday , I did text saying that i had found myself thinking of his touch and lips and asking him if it happens to him as well.
He responded couple of hours later that it would be lovely to do that again but he just got out of a very intense long term relationship and realizes that he needs to relax and spend sometime alone to find himself a bit. and yet if i go out sometimes to let him know and we will talk.
I responded that i understand and that being in a similar situation i had just found that there was interesting connection between us and that if he ever wants to see me, to call or text me.
He did a week later Tuesday asking me out for the next Friday. I accepted and we texted a bit, he said he was not a big of a texter to which i relied that i must have shocked him with my sexy message the week before.. he responded that he could get used to it. i told him i was thinking of our night that day and he said he was too..not only that day and that it was an intense connection. When i asked if alcohol was to blame he said he didn't think so.. i wished him good night and we left it there.
Next evening i went out with a Gf of mine and instead of texting her i texted him by mistake. He asked me if i was out i said yes and as he was too and not far he showed up.
We had couple of drinks, made out again, same intense connection , i remember telling him that apparently was not because of the drinks, to what he laughed and responded i told you so.. he spoke a bit about the fact that he was in a very intense relationship for 8 years that ended 2 months ago, that he has this intensity and that he had even been on therapy for it . that he doesn't want to jump into a relationship and that he is not a one night stand of a guy either..i assured him that i am not looking for anything either and just taking one day at a time ,being recently single myself. we kissed a lot we held hands, same connection!
He left a bit before me and after he left i texted him:" u can not start me up and let me burn each time you see me lol" to which he replied: 'Noted. Will try to remedy '
the week came and go and next Wednesday i texted him asking how he was. we had a chat, i suggested sushi Friday and he agreed. see you xx then Friday at 11am he txt he had to postpone. i responded: i understand. no news since!! 10 days. wtf!?? do i txt

or should i wait—

Thank you for your advice.

Thing is that I have no expectations, definitely do not want to be a rebound, I just want to know him more..

I have never felt such a connection with a guy instantly and it was not only physical! I believe for both of us..


I understand that he is going through a lot. Been there after a painfull break up 8 month ago... I realize it is to soon to start anything but my intentions were to just let things go..


I am Taurus/Gemini but stronger influence from Gemini , so I do not rationalize feelings or emotions, I just live them...


so my question was more, should I just stay here and wait or send him a causal text after the holidays?

so far he initiated communication 2 times and I did it 2 times and I wouldn't say i have been adressive... intense maybe , interested definitely but always kept smooth approach

thanks again!

@OP- Friend zoned and you still kept talking to him even though he said he wasn't ready. But you liked him and now have feelings. We have all been there done that.

The question to is? How can you be just friends and build up, and he is going to test the waters without you. There's no commitment now. Don't forget it.

@OP- I am a Taurus with Aquarius moon so right now it's just a friend that you are infatuated with and it's okay if you don't put the emotions in. Otherwise goodwill you are constantly seeking something more or less. But show support, and and caring but he's still wounded. That's along time with someone. To trying to get in something with you. If you both want NSA, friendship do it. If you need more time to get to know each other better. Do it. But a casual type.

Posted by busyeyes88
If you don't want anything from him what do you expect to gain by knowing him?

As I said above...

Your choices are 1) fwb 2) harem 3) platonic friend

Make up your mind as to what category you want to be in?!

I suggest you do not contact him.. Carry on with your life and if he remembers you he will be in contact. However should he contact you to hang out get to know him as a platonic friend and keep your legs shut until he is ready for a relationship wherever that will be as taurus males take ages to get over and ex; they keep exes as friends etc....

wise words busy, I agree

OP, hopefully your gemini will kick in and you will go to greener pastures 🙂 this boy will be ready in 2-3 years, betweentime no real emotional connection....... if you really want him, you can be with him from now on, and wait for the 2-3-5 year mark with him, but you will have to put up with a lot! but if anybody can do it, then a gemini can 🙂 no disrespect to geminis, but you know how are you

^^^ I second all of the above. When I read your post I thought the dude had been exceptionally clear to you about the situation he currently finds himself in. In his head, he knows how things are for him.

You say you heard him but I don't think you listened.

When you sent him the message which suggested a sexual vibe it showed you hadn't understood what he had said. Maybe he backed off and got cold feet with you as he didn't want to lead you on, maybe he's just busy doing things, maybe he likes you but doesn't want to spend every minute with you or putting in loads of effort to build something with you when... He's already said he's not ready to get into anything right now.

As they said above, just leave it and don't push, if he wants to contact you then he will, if he doesn't contact you then no problem.

I don't think you are clear in your head as to what you want either in general or with this guy. Your words and actions don't match. You say you've recently got out of a relationship and aren't looking to jump into another one yet you're texting this guy suggesting sexual stuff. Which is it? You need to be clear and then follow that through with the corresponding actions.

I agree with above, if you offer him sex he may well take it and then you'll likely be discarded and/or not considered relationship material.

If he contacts you again, and it may be a while, then keep the sexual innuendos and suggestions out of it. Be friends. Get to know the dude so you can see if there really is a connection which could last. There's no need to jump on his cock after knowing him for only 10 hours or something!