How do you lead a Bull?

My Taurus lady is strong, intelligent, stubborn and fiercely independent. However, she tells me that it is a man's job to lead a relationship and that she expect me to take control. So how do I do this? How do I take control of someone who is so impressive? I'm quite a mild-mannered and laid-back person, but at the same time I've always fancied being in a position of power. I have effectively been given the green light to take control, but I now have to dig-deep to find the strength of character and decisiveness that is required to do this, and to maintain it. I secretly love the idea of "dominating" a woman, but I'm not quite sure how to do so and, specifically, how to do this with a Taurus lady. I plan to just "be myself", but some pointers that I can keep in mind while doing this would help!!

I think it just means we let you take control..

Although I think the word "control" itself is misleading. We like to be wooed.
We want you to be the man, don't ask her where she wants to go.. just tell her
you're taking her out to ____ .

It's in that sort of context I think. Traditional male and female roles.
That's what I, myself, would mean ..

We like a man with strong character.. not to be confused with inconsiderate, rude, overpowering

Just pouring my thoughts here.

To take control of "A" relationship?

How? Day to day? Where it's going?

I don't quite know...

Don't wait for the green light. Run that red one hehe

But here's a thought that just bumped into me.. let me attempt to break it down and see if it makes sense

. Mild mannered, easy going guy? Yes. If it wasn't so, there would be no mention of this desire to
be taken control of.. so maybe it bothers her that you aren't .that. guy.. which is not good

Posted by RainingPeanuts

I think it just means we let you take control..

Although I think the word "control" itself is misleading. We like to be wooed.
We want you to be the man, don't ask her where she wants to go.. just tell her
you're taking her out to ____ .

Yes, this is what she has said. I do try to be decisive and make decisions for "us" rather than expect her to arrange things.

Posted by RainingPeanuts

It's in that sort of context I think. Traditional male and female roles.
That's what I, myself, would mean ..

Yes, traditional male and female roles. She has also said this.

Posted by RainingPeanuts

We like a man with strong character.. not to be confused with inconsiderate, rude, overpowering

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This should work then. I do have a strong character. I have firm beliefs and will stand up for myself. I can also be quite stubborn. That said, I am a quiet person who is very tactful and polite and a complete gentleman, but underneath all of this I am nobody's fool and nobody takes advantage of me.

To be in a position of power means to be a little more selfish, a little more self-centered,

a little more egoistical..

a little less care, a little less concern for the needs and wants of others .. because ..

things are going to be done the way YOU think they should be done, the way YOU think

is best for yourself AND others.. just because YOU are right.. just because YOU want it

that way. You can justify it.. or not.. you have the power.

So if you want to be in power, there's a mentality you should be willing to adopt... to an extent

.. what suits you

"This should work then. I do have a strong character. I have firm beliefs and will stand up for myself. I can also be quite stubborn. That said, I am a quiet person who is very tactful and polite and a complete gentleman, but underneath all of this I am nobody's fool and nobody takes advantage of me."

I was definitely going to mention this. You beat me to it lol Virgos DO have a strong character...

Although, for a second you had me thinking maybe you were an exception but ok no, I believe you 🙂

My Virgo is a light hearted and easy going person as well. As a matter of fact I LOVE the fact that he is willing to change
the plan if I happen to mention that I'd love to do something else... I might say something like "I didn't mean right now,
I know you wanted to go ___" and he'll say "No, if you want ___ we'll go there" 😄 That's superb.

He will stand his ground and he will stand up for himself which I completely respect.
And well, I can't bullshit him if I tried. And YES, Virgos are STUBBORN, you do not get enough credit for that!

And when I quote him, "No, if you want ______ we'll go there"

He says it in that firm, masculine Virgo fashion. Literally, I have no choice. How adorable is that?

😄

I completely agree with you raining peanuts! Virgo's have a great deal of integrity....are responsible, dependable, genuinely caring, kind, thoughtful and so helpful! ....when a Virgo say's " do you need help?...they're already there beside you helping you screw in the joints of the "needs assembling" tent when the rest of your "camping buddies" have abandon you to go fishing! *sigh* I've always said the world needs more virgo's! And with regards to your topic...I agree with raining peanuts

Bella, I do care for your advice and I find it very helpful. I think what you've said there almost perfectly describes the way she has come across when advising me how she wants to be treated... she wants to be respected as a strong and independent person, but she also wants a man who will lead the relationship, as opposed to lead her.

Anyway, I've just spent two-and-a-half hours with her and we had a lovely time. We had coffee in a cafe next to a big park and then went for a walk round and then sat for half an hour or so on a bench together, all of the time chatting and laughing and being playfully tactile with one another. I'm glad we've seen each other again because when we're together it really does feel like there is great chemistry between us. I could be totally contented just gazing into her eyes for hours on end and I adore everything about her. I just find her achingly irresistible and she is so playful, always teasing me and picking up on little things that I say and do and making jokes of them! I'm sitting back at home now with a really soft gooey feeling inside me feeling really happy.

I'm next seeing her on Friday evening if she can get someone to babysit her daughter, so I'll think of something good for me and her to do so that I have a decisive plan ready.

🙂

Come up with what she wants before she does. You should know her and what she likes, so be the one to make the "right" [i.e. HER] suggestion first.

no, ian's right - we're not tameable, you have to walk beside us, never ahead. Face/off is an awesome movie by the way.

Laughing at some of the comments here!

I didn't so much mean lead her as lead the relationship. This is what she has said she wants.

She is a strong and independent woman who demands respect, but also likes to be taken care of and expects a man to woo her. She realised that I needed a little help and told me, off the record, what she expects from me, so I was just looking for some pointers. I have always been the kind of guy who likes to treat a lady well and look after her, but my ex, who was a Leo, didn't like being looked after and said she found it patronising, so over the 8.5 years we were together she gradually filtered this behaviour out of me. My Taurus lady wants me to be the kind of guy that I always was before, and which I always wanted to be, but I am having to re-learn how to be myself having been so constrained for so many years.

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
you can't push a bull.....and you can't pull a bull.......but if you know what you're doing,we can be coaxed. 😉

Ha ha, so true. It's a delicate operation, but one which I am slowly learning to perform. Learning how to handle this woman is becoming a delightful experience 🙂