I need a help to understand my taurus boyfriend.......

We've been dating for awhile now. We were classmates in junior high for 2 years. Then I moved out and we lost contact. He added me on Facebook in 2011 but we never really spoke to each other until like months ago when he randomly chat me on Facebook.

We chatted day and night since. He's being all funny and charming as he was always been. Then he told me he's actually interested in me and wanted to go on a date with me. I told him no because I just broke up with someone two weeks earlier and was in the process of getting over my ex but he kept insisting and said he was fine with it, in fact he's recently dumped himself (around a month or so). So we went on date. He took me to dinner and grabbed drinks after.

Right at that moment I feel like we're really connected. We laughed so much and talked about sooooo many things. As he drop me off my house, he told me straightforwardly that he wanted to officially be in a relationship with me. I was taken aback, didn't quite understand why he's rushing things but I agreed to it anyway.

Everything went great! The first two weeks, he was always around and he cuddled me a lot. I often caught him staring at me and when I asked why, he just smiled. He treated me so gently like showering me with hand kisses, kisses my forehead, open the doors for me and stuffs that I ended up liking him.... probably waaaaaaay too much!

But things has slightly changed now. He rencelty employed in some research company that requires him to go out of town twice or more a week. I don't know if it's because of this new job but he seemed kinda distant lately. He only contacted me ONCE every couple days. Sometimes he disappeared for days without contacting me. It's been over a week we hadn't see each other.

Two days ago he sent me short msg "I had to leave for work again.. it must have been hard for you" I replied telling him it must have been harder for him and showed him my support but I haven't heard from him since.

I'm kinda worried here.. is it really because of the new job or do you think he's over me already? Is he pulling away from me? I'm really confused. If it's really because of the new job, what can I do to let him know that he doesn't need to feel bad for me and that I support him regardless. I really do like him and want us to stay together.

On side note though, how do I tell if a taurus male is sick of me or kinda done with the relationship??

Hm did he actually say he was not interested in you but he also has a new job it takes time and you must have patience and keep communication and honesty at all times.

No we hadn't gone there yet. We hadn't even seen each other for two weeks now. Only talked over texts so I don't know anymore. I think he's not into me anymore so I have no more hope for this relationship.


Also, I am clingy but how can you tell?

You've been dating for a while but it sounds like it's only been two weeks and after the first date he declared he wanted a relationship with you to which you agreed.

That right there just doesn't sound right then throw in you've both come out of relationships only five minutes ago.

I wouldn't necessarily say you're clingy but what I would say is it's been far too much far too soon with little to no breathing space or common sense. I'm sure it all seemed wonderful and I'm sure he did and said all the right things and to you it felt good, and it probably felt good to him too... At the time. Now, reality is setting in and perhaps he's not quite sure he wants to enter into another relationship so soon and/or with you. I wouldn't take it personally. It's just not a great situation or timing.

I would back off and if he comes back to you or contacts you then just relax and see what he says. If you meet up again then you can rewind and say you'd like to take things slow and just date to get to know each other. He'll do one of two things: if he likes you and is available/ready for you then he'll stick around and take it slow. If he doesn't come back to you or doesn't want to take it slow, was just looking for sex, isn't ready for you or any other reason then he'll probably disappear or be flaky etc. Don't take it personally.

Hmm could be that he's not over his ex yet (or the heartache of the breakup) and just wants to find some comfort in you at the moment.

My ex tells me he talks to girls, goes on dates with them, but as soon as they get clingy he backs away. He offers up this info without me asking. I try to keep him out of my life as much as possible.

He still tells me I have his heart (it's been a year..)
If he really loved his ex or was with her for a while, I would take it easy and not be so clingy. Be patient, but if you can't do that, move on.

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Posted by jane84
Hmm could be that he's not over his ex yet (or the heartache of the breakup) and just wants to find some comfort in you at the moment.

My ex tells me he talks to girls, goes on dates with them, but as soon as they get clingy he backs away. He offers up this info without me asking. I try to keep him out of my life as much as possible.

He still tells me I have his heart (it's been a year..)
If he really loved his ex or was with her for a while, I would take it easy and not be so clingy. Be patient, but if you can't do that, move on.

Why are you still in contact with yours? Doesn't that make it harder for him to move on?

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Believe me I try to tell him this. His Mother is hurt that I stopped all contact because she loved me. His niece is mad at me because I treated her like a daughter and stopped contact. His whole family loved me. But I stopped contact all so that he could move on and so could I. But I'm not a mean person. It's hard when you see someone going through a hard time. So that's why if he catches me to talk I let him speak. He even says it wouldn't bother him if I still talked to his family and that if any new woman wanted to get upset about that then they could go. He said that they don't understand why he wants to stay friends with me. He asks them if they've ever been with someone that long and if they say no then he tells them they don't understand. I said I understand where they are coming from, I wouldn't either and that he needs to stop finding ways to contact me (came to my work to drop off flowers, a gift, and a letter for "closure" then wanted to continue talking. This man is persistent. I'm even moving jobs soon so he won't know where I work. I don't contact him, he finds my family, my friends through social media, he asks people to look at what I'm doing on social media. He won't go away or move on. He said if it's not me, he'll never marry again. He said, "I'm a Taurus, you know I'm stubborn." I told him I feel bad for the girls you meet. You need to stop trying to talk to me and move on.