Taurus/Aries and Libra/Sag

Hey all,

I am a new member of this forum but have frequently floated around topics and what not for a couple of months now. I wanted to pull you all for a second to ask a basic question. Does this combo work? I have filtered through most of the threads here and I have not seen much discussion about this pairing; which makes me assume that this pairing is rare?

Let me digress for a moment and just state my basic chart: I'm a Taurus/Aries/Libra with Mars/Venus on Cap/Gem. I don't exactly know what all that means but I suppose I have a contradictory personality which makes sense for all the spontaneous choices I tend to have randomly at random times. Ahahha.

Anywho, this Libra has been my sporadic friend for about 7 years. It's one of those friendships where you can totally M.I.A. it for months and then call randomly and talk for 5 hours or more just catching up with life/love/work/and randomly joke with for several days. But more recently, we sort've had this mutual confession that we had both developed feelings for each other around the same time. It was great that we were on the same page. I suppose its very common for most Libras to take the relationship really quickly and surprisingly my usually guarded self let down my steep wall of steel and allow myself to be exposed emotionally to him. I kid you not, there was no game, he was reciprocating the openness.

Then about a month ago, we had put a label on or relationship (bf/gf). I told my bff about the label and she was shocked at how fast (2 months of dating) the relationship was going. I wanted to see if he also thought the pace was too quick and he thought it was at a fine pace. However, his sister also thought the same which then he realized that we should slow things down. Take a step back from the label. NOW---this decision to take a step back has left me insecure. He had assured me that taking a step back doesnt necessarily mean he had less feelings but he wanted to go on a healthy pace. I agreed with him because it was logical. I understood his logic but this insecure feeling i have leaves me wanting to run before he finds a way to hurt me. My walls have been down but I am now debating whether or not to raise them again.

I don't know, this whole post seems like I'm just venting but let me focus a little and ask the questions in a bulleted manner:

* Does this pairing work? (if we were only to look at signs alone and not our background as long time good friends and his overall maturity)

* Am I tripping— Am I letting my selfish need of security get in the way of being patient and possibly have a great relationship with someone I can call my friend and partner?

I find that every Sagittarius woman I have ever dated I have never forgotten about.
For what it's worth.

Ahahaha. Funny enough, even though our friendship was sporadic; I was never really able to forget about him. I suppose it was the same for him. the random phone calls and text messages that would happen throughout the year that would jump start our substantial, yet short, communication phase was pretty much 50/50.

Even funnier, when we both realized that we had *feelings* for each other. We were both surprised with ourselves and that the other should feel the same way. It was completely platonic before all this started happening. I am pretty good at keeping things quite platonic with my guy friends--and I have many guy friends, some I find attractive. This Libra guy is 1hr and 15 min away. So, out everyone of my guy friends; he was the least likely candidate for my romantic interest.

I was with a Libra man for a long time (engaged) and Libra's are pretty notorious for falling in AND out of love very quickly. I have a lot of Libra's in my family and as friends now and growing up, and most of them are rarely without a significant other. It's as if the world will stop spinning on it's axis if "GASP" they are single for a minute.
They do fall in love quickly (I don't), but even if I personally don't believe it; to them, they are all butt deep in love - until they aren't.
They aren't bad people though.

Posted by USCTaurusGal
I was with a Libra man for a long time (engaged) and Libra's are pretty notorious for falling in AND out of love very quickly. I have a lot of Libra's in my family and as friends now and growing up, and most of them are rarely without a significant other. It's as if the world will stop spinning on it's axis if "GASP" they are single for a minute.
They do fall in love quickly (I don't), but even if I personally don't believe it; to them, they are all butt deep in love - until they aren't.
They aren't bad people though.

Same here.Libra and Taurus both being ruled by Venus have more in common than you'd think.had one of my own for 5 years...20 some years later we still have a bond and speak regularly.with your moon sextile his sun,and your rising the same,possibly conjunct his sun....it could be something great.
like USCTG says,they are relationship men,and do move fast.

Welcome btw. 🙂

Yeh, it was quite fast in retrospect. I was surprised how fast I also let it happen despite the fact I tend to tread carefully and have a whole gang of tests lined up before a guy reaches the level he is with me. I've been meaning to talk to him about this whole "taking a step back" issue. It's not that I am completely irrational and don't think it's a good idea, rather, I've put myself through a shitload in the past relationship and foolishly did so without a solid commitment from the other party. Long story short; had a relationship for 7 years, he cheated, expected me to heal on my own, I tried to do it alone, didn't work, I do one of my infamous volcanic eruption-in-yo-face blow-ups, he blows up, everything blows up, break up, back together again, repeat. (yeh I was a fool.) So, I guess what I'm saying is--- I absolutely do not want to be that fool again. Yet, I feel so conflicted in bringing this up because I feel like I'm being selfish in some way saying "HEY! I need commitment now!" at the same time I'm thinking, why the hell am I the one always bringing things up about this relationship. Gah, I think I'm just frustrated because I can no longer read him after the whole "step back" thing. The phrase "hot and cold" comes to mind when I have to describe his behavior.



P.S. Totally cool to have you and USC answer my first post evaH 😉 from the looks of it ya'll seem to be the cool peeps around here. Now wheres VB? bahahahahhaha and btw, thanks for the welcome!

*gliding across thread in ball gown* 🙂

Posted by venusianbull
*gliding across thread in ball gown* 🙂

LOL .. You silly bullette 😉

LOL The one and only. 😉

@ SeeingRed - thanks for the compliment (although I'm only cool maybe 1 day out of the month 🙂 ).
Libras are tricky, because they are all about the balance/scale thing, so (in my opinion) they are always balancing things; whether it's relationships, work, etc. In my Libra relationship, he just moved SO fast. Told me he loved me after 2 months (I said it and felt it maybe close to 9 months into the relationship). He had been with his girlfriend since their Freshman year of college (so almost 2 years they were together); then they broke up, and then it was me. I told him right off the bat, "DO YOU! You just got out of a relationship and need to sow some oats and just have fun!" He didn't want anything to do with that! I never wanted him to feel like he missed out on anything, so I gave him thousands of "outs." When we were in love and both in sync, it was the best thing in this world! But, when it wasn't ... it was an awful feeling; especially since we had been together through college, moved across the country together (twice) and in our 7/8 years together; we lived together for 5 of those years. I can say, it's doubtful I will ever live with a man again, unless we are married, and EVERYBODY knows how I feel about marriage on this forum, so I'll likely get hit by lightning sooner than get married!
My only advice is to tread lightly. That doesn't mean you shouldn't jump on the roller coaster ride and have fun, but just be aware that they can be a fickle lot and their "I'll love you forever," may not be your same definition of, "I'll love you forever."

Posted by venusianbull
LOL The one and only. 😉

I don't want to hijack SeeingReds thread, but hows that crab...errr, ummm, how's your toe? 😢

Posted by Xfactor
I find that every Sagittarius woman I have ever dated I have never forgotten about.
For what it's worth.

That statement is worth a lot actually...

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by venusianbull
LOL The one and only. 😉

I don't want to hijack SeeingReds thread, but hows that crab...errr, ummm, how's your toe? 😢

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Actually it's much better thanks. 🙂 Must have just jammed the almighty hell out of it. Hehehehe, now it's a semi-crippled crab.

^^^Oy, semi-crippled crab 😢

bahahha! you guys are funny. Hijacking threads are always fun.

But it's sad news to say. Libra stepped way back and dropped the "Let's just be friends" on me on his friend's Halloween party. His excuses: I'm too social (hahahah) and was not as conservative as he had originally thought I was (LOL-to-the-MAX). My response: after 7 years, this part you know of me and did not think I would be judged in this way by you who knows exactly how I feel about being conservative.

His excuse number 2: Focus on your internship and career goals and financial matters. Your ambition and what's in my heart will eventually separate us. My response: My internship,career goals, and finances are all handled. Funny how you chose to decide for "us" that these are issues and would prematurely think of these separating us before the relationship had even begun.

Excuse number 3: You're ideals are in disarray. My response: It seems to me that my ideals are straight. I am more certain about what I want and what my ideals are; at least currently. His response: ::silence::

To me, I just found it as a check list of things to hold onto so he can push away. Obviously, I know him more than you guys on the boards. But I'm open to wake-up call bashing 😉.I honestly think he's scared. He told me that he was moving too fast and that I too, was moving too fast. It would have been better, and easier for me to accept and understand if he just said "I'm not ready for a relationship."

I know I can't maintain a platonic friendship with him. I know the hurt and control necessary for that type of relationship after dating a long time friend. And honestly, when this happens, it tends to become FWB and I am far too conservative for such a loose relationship like that (no offense to anyone).

But I feel conflicted, because I know I have deep feelings for him. As much as I want to fight for this one and show the holes in his excuses-- I know that one cannot change a person's heart. Anything I can say would be wasted effort. So, I'm taking what he says at face value, even though it's so frustrating seeing the holes in his excuses.

You know? Life would be so much easier for a man we chose if they would just lie down and accept their fate. Just suck it up like a good lad and let us make you happy. 😉