There is Just No Winning!

You guys were such a good help prior, so I figured I'd seek your opinions again. My last post was about my bull and I becoming troubled, and we got past that, but we're back in the trouble pit again. My guy had been at my home for a few weeks and it was cool. He went to visit family about a week ago about 9ish (I know that for a fact). Since I always lock my doors because I'm here alone, I told him to call me when he was on his way back, but I dozed off ten something.

The next morning when I woke up, there were over 30 calls from him, six from my teen who is currently out of state, and two from my leasing office. It was the second call from the office that woke me up. I was informed that there had been complaints of him constantly knocking at my door from midnight to almost 8 in the morning. He'd sent text messages saying he was here, and that he was gonna sleep in his truck because I wasn't answering, even though he lives three minutes away.

None the less, I was pissed and had him gather his few belongings and go home after I expressed my disapproval. He really caused trouble at my complex. When I asked him why he'd done that a few days later, he said he doesn't know what came over him and that he "went crazy." He even threw a bottle of water on my third floor balcony smh.

At any rate, I told him I was a bit afraid of him because of his actions, and he said that he knew he messed up and that he wouldn't rush me when it came back to getting back on track. We did not break up.

Fast forward to a few days ago...I find out I'm now almost five weeks pregnant±, which probably explains my sleeping habits. Now, he's treating my pretty cold. Night before last after I'd told him about the pregnancy earlier that day, I told him good night and "I love you," and his reply was "see you tomorrow." Wow. About an hour later I asked him why he didn't say I love you back, and if it was because I was pregnant or if he found me disgusting or something, but he didn't answer me.

Yesterday, he didn't speak to me at all. The entire day. Nothing. First he darn near ruins my living situation, then, he just goes cold on me because I'm pregnant. I'm an Aries woman (4/18), and I'm gonna handle my business regardless of this unexpected situation, but what gives with this guys actions??

I clueless!

Posted by Koniucha
Is the baby his?

I would definitely have a sit down with him and discuss where things are going for sure.

Yes, this is his child. I'm not one to cheat. He knows that and he knows this child is his. I'm not sure how we could converse when he shut me out. I don't want to put his personal business out there, but I know his fears are due to him having severe financial difficulties, as well as this being his first child.

We are both in our late 30's, and I assumed we could converse about this like adults. Unfortunately, he thinks otherwise.

Hmm I hope everything is good. You knew though going into this that you weren't on the same page right. Some red flags sparked and never communicated among you guys. Now yuo are prego.. I am sorry. This is exactly why I need a stable income just in case an accident happens where the baby daddy doesn't own up to it. I will be able to take care of my child without him...

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Hmm I hope everything is good. You knew though going into this that you weren't on the same page right. Some red flags sparked and never communicated among you guys. Now yuo are prego.. I am sorry. This is exactly why I need a stable income just in case an accident happens where the baby daddy doesn't own up to it. I will be able to take care of my child without him...

Oh I'm good on my own for sure. I learned a long time ago to never depend on anyone for anything. I sincerely hope he pushed harder to come out of his problems. I encourage him and speak life into his goals and abilities, but he has to put the work in. I am already preparing myself for my addition, and I'm going to make sure we always have.

Be patient with him but also let him know he has a responsibility. Try not to be so harsh with your words because it will only close him off even more. If you are aware of his financial situation, then know that this may have took a blow at him. Sometimes aries are a bit in your face and pushy and he may need a second to get his thoughts and plans in order because that is a life changing events. Try to find a different approach to try and get him to open up and share how he is feeling. If he is a good man he will not leave u to taking care of the baby solo. Taureans are providers but we do panic when it come to money and being stable. We are a bit chaotic when we are not stable in the money dept. I know not a man but hopefully this helped a lil

Good point, Honeybunniee.

I didn't really realize that. In an be a bit harsh at times. lol and behold, he "out of the blue" asked me if I was off work (maybe he wanted to talk), but ended up offering to drop me off and pick me up since I not off. He seemed calm and not angry. I still couldn't look him in the eyes.

When I got out he didn't pull of instantly as normal, he sat there for a few...as if he was watching, then finally pulled off. I think the best thing for me to do is let him breathe and continue to handle my business, while he gets himself together.

Well....

I got tired of the cold shoulder and confronted him. Bottom line, he said it's the baby that has him distant. This little one was not in the least way expected, and he isn't ready for a child right now. I basically told him that I can't handle how he's treated me, and to go his way and id go mine because I don't want the heartache of feeling as though he's cheating on me or hates me for having this child. I'm hurt but I can't afford to sulk and dwell on him; not with me having to take responsibility of this situation.

I think it's best if I cut off contact after today and do me....life my life and make the best life for my little family.