What to do with Taurus ex-girlfriend

I've been seeing this Taurus for about a little over 2 months. Things started out pretty fast and we were definitely attracted to each other. We almost saw each other everyday until I had to go away for a week. During the time i was away, i would email her daily but then her responses were few and far between. She did put it out there that she missed me and wanted me back asap. Anyways, when i got back, she became a bit more distant for a week then suddenly she said we needed to take a break, said that she liked my personality and everything but... she couldnt explain any further. She did hint about her age factor and I was all for being with her as I'd fallen head over heels for her. I had already thought about her in my future and did mention that to her. So I gave her the time and space, sent her flowers in between in which she responded by text. "The flowers are beautiful, i've been thinking about u a lot but i dont know about my heart, sorry" After a few days later, we met to talk. That's when she told me she can't see herself loving me in the future and would like to be friends. I said i would have to think about it but also told her how i really felt about her, told her that I really loved her even though it was only a short time together. I know how stubborn Taurus can be when they have their mind set(reading a lot of forums and post). Would there be any way to change this? I know i'll have to be patient and willing to do so, but also girls love the chase and I should be persistent if i want her back right? It's not like i cheated on her or lied to her. I would never do that kind of thing and she knows.

So now since Valentine's day is just around the corner, i've asked her out on sunday nite. She was actually suprised that i called her but couldnt commit to an answer. Later in the evening she msgs me asking, "what are we gonna do sunday? I'm kinda burdened" I replied saying that we'll just go out, have dinner. there's a special menu that ends this wk that i would like to try." but she never responded. Now the question, I've been told by my taurus guy friend I should just msg her, "made the reservation at 8 on sunday, let me know if u would like to go or i'll need to find someone else" Would that be a good way to get her persuade her? Was taking her to very romantic French restaurant.

Any help would be appreciated! I know it's long but thanks for reading.

she's not smitten with you...anymore.

what's her venus?

i have a hard time letting genuinely nice people down. instead of being direct and saying how i really feel, i soften the blow as the aim is not to hurt or harm this person. they didn't do anything wrong, i'm just not feeling them in that way and the sad part is, that's as much frustrating for them as it is me.

i mean, i want to find someone who genuinely cares for me and here this person is, making a genuine effort to do just that. and what do i do? i'm simply not into them and for the life of me, i can't make myself run "hot" for them.

based on the way she's reacting, i'd say this one is better left alone. once we've resigned you to a certain role, it's very difficult to change our minds.

not sure what the venus is? How do i find out? I know her birthday's Apr 25, other than that i'd be clueless.

btw, that was a quick response! I appreciate it! I know in the back of my head i'll have to find somehow to let go if it doesnt work... at least hopefully i wont regret as much cuz as I sincerely tried to work things out and not just be an a $ $ about it.

She's not exactly jumping at the chance to go out with you.
She's been honest and told you she doesn't love you - which must be hard for some people as generally any hurt caused comes with guilt so there's a risk element in being honest.
She's not sounding excited at all if she's saying she feels "burdened".

Perhaps it's best not to ask her out with you, you could be setting yourself up for some major disappointment.

you know, i've really thought about it. I guess in a way, i also want to settle down with someone. She's got the qualities that i like, things like being loyal, honest, beautiful, family first kind of attitude, can be jealous, possessive. So we do have a lot of things in common and certain understanding. The only downside is she a bit flirty and I really tried to hold back on being too jealous/possesive/clingy but perhaps i ultimately failed as i'm not used to that. I do have the typical qualities of a scorpio but i also dont want to hurt the other person i care so much for. I do want her to regret her choice but... again holding back and trying for that small glimmer of hope.

I guess the only thing i'm stuck on is, she should have some feelings for me and either is confused and just happened to think that it wont work anymore. So that's where I want to try to win her back and make things work. I mean she went to do little things like go out of her way to cook for me, so on and so on. I cooked for her too. I bought her all sorts of little gifts while i was away and gave it to her when i got back. She clearly liked it and told me she's liking me more and more. But then suddenly everything goes south. Based on what i read so far, taurus feelings can go either way if their not yet in love right? which happens to take awhile.

Anyways, I thank you all for your responses. I always love to hear other's perspectives as sometimes love is blind right? There's no b.s. about it here and its really straight to the point which is what i wanted. I'll probably let her off the hook and tell her that she doesnt need to meet me and see what happens. I guess it'll be the end after that, as i don't think she's the type to initiate a msg or call to someone first. (culture thing, so the guy doesnt get the wrong idea, lol)

actually, i question i wanted to ask. Do taurus females take in to account what friends say into their decision? Reason why i ask is during the time away, i know she met a lot of new girl friends and started to hang with them more. Thx again!

you said something that creeped me out.

to paraphrase, she flirts a lot and you have some typical scorpio traits.

EEP!

yes, we can be naturally flirtatious and naive and ultimately nymphs if not careful. we can inadvertently raise the ire of a SO and really will be clueless in some regards because no matter how interested he, he and he was, we're with you so what are we fightin' about?

taurus likes peace. even the most combative subjects want peace deep down. sure, passion, fire, emo can appeal to us from time to time but ultimately, the notion of having repetitive battles with our partner will drain us emotionally.

if i begin to think/see a future with someone that is wrought with internal struggles, i naturally begin to pull back. i can't fall head over heels when everything in me is screaming "DANGER"...no matter how much i love someone. maybe she sensed the crazy scorp in you with regard to her flirting? maybe your "intensity" is unappealing? maybe she's envisioning you standing over her shoulder or making her piss and shit with the bathroom door open so that you can be "together at all times?"

taurean assessments/judgments may be wrong in the end but they're based on some very primal and fundamental urges. if it doesn't feel right, it ain't right. if it tastes nasty, it's nasty. a man who taps into/satisfies all 5 senses has a better chances of going the long haul. doesn't sound like you've done that.

as for friends, no, i do not let them sway me. her friends are not to blame for her actions. if she's headed in the opposite direction romantically, she chose to and her alone.

finally, i dunno if you can actually win us over. in general, if you didn't get me at hello, you won't get me. if you got me at hello and i subsequently said goodbye, "WHY ARE YOU STILL HERE WHEN I SHOWED YOU THE DOOR—"

again, don't mistake her wishy washy responses with indecision. she sounds decisive and you sound like a great guy...which might be why she's having so much trouble saying "leave me alone." plus you're a scorpio and you fuckers are thick as rhino shit. yall interpret "breakup" as "please try again." crazy bastards.

ps: her venus sign. you should do her natal chart and yours then post the results
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal

Wow.. flip the genders around and it's another run of the mill "He's Not That Into You" 😢

"made the reservation at 8 on sunday, let me know if u would like to go or i'll need to find someone else"

This would cut zero ice with me, it would make me feel like I'm being asked an as afterthought. Everyone here has made excellent points. And I will echo that friends do not sway me at all concerning my romantic inclinations. I will listen to them, but make my own decision. My choice, my blunder..or victory to absorb if you will. My feelings on the line, not theirs.
And define "age factor". There's a distinct possibility if the gap is ?+ years it would make it hard if not impossible for her to see a romantic future with you. "?" is there because that's all personal what one will accept or not depending on that internal sliding scale.

Thanks again, you've all made valid points.

"plus you're a scorpio and you treetrunkers are thick as rhino butter. yall interpret "breakup" as "please try again." crazy bastards"

lol... yes, that is true. Answer needs to be black or white for us.

The age gap between us is 3yrs, me being 33.

her natal chart:
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Taurus 4.54
Moon Virgo 6.13
Mercury Aries 16.15
Venus Gemini 19.00
Mars Leo 27.48
Jupiter Virgo 0.15 R
Saturn Virgo 20.50 R
Uranus Scorpio 24.20 R
Neptune Sagittarius 22.26 R
Pluto Libra 20.00 R
Lilith Libra 2.18
Asc node Leo 26.53

my natal chart:
Sun Scorpio 24.09
Moon Aquarius 7.35
Mercury Sagittarius 10.15
Venus Scorpio 8.06
Mars Leo 7.32
Jupiter Cancer 5.15 R
Saturn Leo 29.59
Uranus Scorpio 12.52
Neptune Sagittarius 15.05
Pluto Libra 15.36
Lilith Gemini 23.07
Asc node Libra 14.28

venus in scorpio = stalker

I am in a relationship with a Taurus girl. I too have tons of Scorpio in my natal chart (pluto, venus, moon, mercury)

All i can say is that a Taurus knows what she wants. And if it isn't you.... theres really not much you can do about it.

But they are attracted to status, the finer things, a sense of security, and crave attention. It seems like you've done most of these things. BUT like it's been said.... she needs freedom and space. Every single decision she makes has to be hers. So you pressuring and trying to win her over isn't gonna help.



Oh and the venus in scorpio thing? Not true. I'm a venus in scorpio. I just know exactly what my Taurus is thinking and exactly what she needs at any given moment 😉

So just an update. I decided last saturday to just cancel the meeting as I didn't get a response from her and thought she probably just wanted to be left alone. I really thought about not wanting to burden her further so I just msg'd that we didn't need to meet on sunday and perhaps some other time. Again, no response so i thought that would be it.

To my suprise, on sunday she msg'd me and asked if we were still going? I had already cancelled the reservation the day before but luckily there was still space available for the pre-valentine's dinner, so i quickly booked it and told her yes. So before we were to meet, she asked if we could go grocery shopping together (as i did this w/her a few times before)

Now here's the thing, you know how usually stores will have those ladies that cook some food so you can sample. Would you be hand feeding someone the food if you had no interest or just wanting to be friends? (ok, maybe i can understand close friends, that maybe you've known forever) but this was not just once or twice but also happened while I was driving back to her place after shopping. Ok, my hands were on the steering wheel and she did ask if i wanted any and i said i was ok, but she just placed the food into my mouth so how could i refuse. I really wanted to avoid any awkwardness but all this was a bit suprising, almost like nothing really happened.

There was also a heart necklace that i bought for her (which was supposed to be a gift for her on valentine's) but I gave it to her all wrapped up the night of the break-up(1wk before valentines) as i already had a sense that we were breaking up. When i did give it to her, I didn't tell her what it was but did tell her it had a significant meaning as I told her that she already owned my heart as I had completely fallen head over heels for her. So it was really nice that she wore it, told her i looked good on her and asked if she really liked it and she replied yes.

Got to the restaurant had wine, talked casually about what we did during the week, enjoyed the food. While we were talking, she asked me for my opinion on possible business opportunities for her future, whether or not if someone should tell a girl to get a boob job or not, how she met her ex's gf(guy before me), etc... would these questions still qualify as testing questions? to see how i react?

Now what i didnt mention is i actually wrote about my thoughts, feelings, and regrets on my FB page as i thought we weren't going to meet or speak to each other again. (pouring out my feelings if you will) and she told me she read before i picked her up to go grocery shopping so kinda made me wonder.

So after dinner, i drove her back to her place. Normally i would just drive up to the door and get out to walk her to the door but she didnt seem like she wanted to go yet. So we parked and started talking again. I asked her what she thought about dinner, told her that she looked amazing all night and eventually got to a point where i just had to ask her what kind of relationship did we have? She hesistated and said friends. I told her how i felt about being friends, that it would be possible and maybe really good friends over time but ultimately if she found someone new that it would difficult at this point in time. I asked her the same question in return, how she would feel and said she would feel sad but she wouldnt be able to do anything about it. She told me she never had any bad time while she was with me and that her feelings changed but she wasnt too sure either. In the end, she did say it would be nice to still go out and i told her i would always be there for her if she ever needed me. Took flowers that i had bought out of the trunk and walked her to the door. Gave a long goodnite hug, wished her a happy valentines day and we said our goodbyes.

I'm still somewhat confused about what happened and what to think but i really wish i could just figure out or pin point what she really wants and needs to be that everything for her. I definitely want to give her her space and freedom and have been doing that. anyways, that's my update.

Hi,
I'm a late arrival,but before I say anything...what does this mean?

"She did hint about her age factor "

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The age gap between us is 3yrs, me being 33. "

never mind. 🙂

I say... find yourself another Taurus. The things you said you like about her, are the same things I like about Taurus.. and its very very typical of them to have those traits. *hugs* guess you are joining the 'scorpio addicted to taurus' club. Don't worry, we have drinks. 😉

Your synastry is good for a Scorp and a bull.but she has venus in Gemini,which is not a good placement for anyone looking for a deep,long term relationship.not saying it's not been done...but it's not exactly a grounded placement.
she's going to be hard to pin down...specially with that somewhat critical virgo moon.

I'll be honest...I don't think you're the only iron she's got in the fire.
if you're crazy about her,give it some more time...because to me it sounds like she's torn.

A Scorp/Taurus relationship is extremely hard to work out.you are blessed with pretty good synastry,so I really hope that helps.

Thanks Bella and Impulsv for your responses. I do want this to work out... somehow. The only thing i dont know is, how long should i back off? Silly question, as it's probably different for everyone. But i guess it's also the "out of sight, out of mind" thing that i'm afraid of.

Cutiebullie: i know, i know... i'm being a fool & possibly just wasting my money and could spend on someone who would possibly appreciate me better/more. but what can i say... that's me.
I just dont want to regret for not doing something that i shouldve done or until i can tell myself (& kick myself in the arse) to leave it alone and carry on.

Anyways, i've been laying low, doing things i normally would. its almost been about 2wks since i've had any contact with her. I did post on my facebook few days ago about being sick and she did respond to that, saying that she was sorry to hear and hope that i got better soon. I guess more of a caring friend way but it also hints that she does check on me. Torn? possible but oh well... i can only ride it out and hopefully it'll be a bit smoother

Posted by FootballDB428
I am in a relationship with a Taurus girl. I too have tons of Scorpio in my natal chart (pluto, venus, moon, mercury)

All i can say is that a Taurus knows what she wants. And if it isn't you.... theres really not much you can do about it.

But they are attracted to status, the finer things, a sense of security, and crave attention. It seems like you've done most of these things. BUT like it's been said.... she needs freedom and space. Every single decision she makes has to be hers. So you pressuring and trying to win her over isn't gonna help.



Oh and the venus in scorpio thing? Not true. I'm a venus in scorpio. I just know exactly what my Taurus is thinking and exactly what she needs at any given moment 😉

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