gemini64
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My former Virgo coach..could never figure him out
If he was "interested" in you... there's an issue!!!
And more disturbing, I'm wondering also why you're even asking about the attraction someone in THAT role had for a teenage girl?? There's a bigger issue there IMO!!
And more disturbing, I'm wondering also why you're even asking about the attraction someone in THAT role had for a teenage girl?? There's a bigger issue there IMO!!
Why did you make a second topic about the same issue?
You presented a strong image, did not show your feelings and took responsibility.
You give us the impression this was a facade. To him, he believed you were strong enough to take the criticism and become refined from it. If you showed your true feelings, he would have sympathised.
Either that or he knew you were soft and was trying to get you to stop pretending and show it.
Caj, this was actually her first post on the coach topic, you responded to her 2nd, which she posed with a rather different slant... in essence I suppose these posts are in-fact two different questions -
Post #1 "Did my dreamy coach have a thing for me?"
Post #2 "Why did my coach criticize me all the time?"
As I see it, the 2nd post was a manipulative strategy to get the answer she wanted to hear on the first post.
Post #1 "Did my dreamy coach have a thing for me?"
Post #2 "Why did my coach criticize me all the time?"
As I see it, the 2nd post was a manipulative strategy to get the answer she wanted to hear on the first post.
Posted by lildol
Caj, this was actually her first post on the coach topic, you responded to her 2nd, which she posed with a rather different slant... in essence I suppose these posts are in-fact two different questions -
Post #1 "Did my dreamy coach have a thing for me?"
Post #2 "Why did my coach criticize me all the time?"
As I see it, the 2nd post was a manipulative strategy to get the answer she wanted to hear on the first post.
That's what I thought as well.
lildol:
my gemini curiosity wants to know why you are such a snip? seriously, i posted my first post the other day and since then, you've attacked me and my integrity?
other posters responded with their opinions, which i appreciate, but didn't go after me as if i was some hated enemy. you did. just what about my post(s) makes you
so pissed off? it's almost comical to read your responses.
and FTR, i posted this thread a few days ago; i noted there weren't any replies, and thought perhaps it was due to the fact my post was too lengthy etc. so i posted a second one making in more concise and with one question. I've seen other posters do similar. i didn't realize it was a crime to make a second post if the first one went unanswered. is that in the dxpnet rules or regs? if so, point it out to me please.
i am on several message boards. I am an inquisitive and fun loving person. I have a great family and a great job. In fact, my husband and I are celebrating our 13th anniversary tomorrow. So i feel blessed. I can adapt in all situations and deal with all kinds of people. but i don't care for self absorbed people who find fault in others for whatever reasons. it's a waste of time.
my experience has taught me that if i don't care for someone's post, i simply don't read it or comment on it. it's not rocket science.
obviously, you have concluded so many misconceptions about me at this point, nothing i say can change your mind. oh well. that's life; win some, loose some.
FWIW, i think all people have common needs, despite signs etc. and two of those are trust and respect. since you and i don't personally know each other, we can't obviously develop the first one. but we can demonstrate the second on a consistent basis. at least, that's what i try to do with people who are a challenge. i do it every day in my line of work.
good luck to you and what ever makes you happy.
my gemini curiosity wants to know why you are such a snip? seriously, i posted my first post the other day and since then, you've attacked me and my integrity?
other posters responded with their opinions, which i appreciate, but didn't go after me as if i was some hated enemy. you did. just what about my post(s) makes you
so pissed off? it's almost comical to read your responses.
and FTR, i posted this thread a few days ago; i noted there weren't any replies, and thought perhaps it was due to the fact my post was too lengthy etc. so i posted a second one making in more concise and with one question. I've seen other posters do similar. i didn't realize it was a crime to make a second post if the first one went unanswered. is that in the dxpnet rules or regs? if so, point it out to me please.
i am on several message boards. I am an inquisitive and fun loving person. I have a great family and a great job. In fact, my husband and I are celebrating our 13th anniversary tomorrow. So i feel blessed. I can adapt in all situations and deal with all kinds of people. but i don't care for self absorbed people who find fault in others for whatever reasons. it's a waste of time.
my experience has taught me that if i don't care for someone's post, i simply don't read it or comment on it. it's not rocket science.
obviously, you have concluded so many misconceptions about me at this point, nothing i say can change your mind. oh well. that's life; win some, loose some.
FWIW, i think all people have common needs, despite signs etc. and two of those are trust and respect. since you and i don't personally know each other, we can't obviously develop the first one. but we can demonstrate the second on a consistent basis. at least, that's what i try to do with people who are a challenge. i do it every day in my line of work.
good luck to you and what ever makes you happy.
Posted by gemini64
lildol:
my gemini curiosity wants to know why you are such a snip? seriously, i posted my first post the other day and since then, you've attacked me and my integrity?
other posters responded with their opinions, which i appreciate, but didn't go after me as if i was some hated enemy. you did. just what about my post(s) makes you
so pissed off? it's almost comical to read your responses.
and FTR, i posted this thread a few days ago; i noted there weren't any replies, and thought perhaps it was due to the fact my post was too lengthy etc. so i posted a second one making in more concise and with one question.
LMAO Nothing wrong with posting something a 2nd time, however despite you saying you thought that "perhaps is was due to the fact it was too lengthy" it was just as long - it just had a completely different slant, which is why I stated above that they were, in-fact, two different questions. The questions I stated above...
That being said, as I stated, the 2nd post was a manipulative strategy to get the answer you wanted to hear on the first post - that, indeed, your coach, back when you were a teenager, wanted you oh so bad (you even mentioned him again in another post in regards to the Virgo stare). And clearly, you want him to have wanted you - you stated so yourself: "I started feeling a chemistry with him, but didn't really understand why. I often wondered if he felt the same chemistry?" and "I often wondered if he had feelings for me deeper than I realized at the time." And I'm sure you've often wondered what things would have been like if you acted on your demented thinking...
And I never went after you... JUST CALLING IT AS I SEE IT! And, I also find it rather amusing that you get so angry and defensive for being called on it!!! That speaks VOLUMES!
BTW, good luck trying to dress your husband up as your former tennis coach to fulfill that fantasy.
"BTW, good luck trying to dress your husband up as your former tennis coach to fulfill that fantasy."
LOL. you never give up, do you? well thanks for giving me a good laugh tonight. i don't need to dress up my husband in anything to fulfill a fantasy. he's a stud, period. i wouldn't trade him for anything. and besides, i'd kick his cute a $ $ in a game of tennis anyway. i'd rather have a challenge as i do thoroughly enjoy some major competition.
and FTR, my coach was a father figure to me as my own father was an abusive alcoholic. because that is personal info, i left it out. now, does that paint a clearer picture for you?
probably not.
anyway, you keep living your bitter life. i will enjoy mine, and some of the new kind and generous friends i've meet so far on this board.
Cheers!
LOL. you never give up, do you? well thanks for giving me a good laugh tonight. i don't need to dress up my husband in anything to fulfill a fantasy. he's a stud, period. i wouldn't trade him for anything. and besides, i'd kick his cute a $ $ in a game of tennis anyway. i'd rather have a challenge as i do thoroughly enjoy some major competition.
and FTR, my coach was a father figure to me as my own father was an abusive alcoholic. because that is personal info, i left it out. now, does that paint a clearer picture for you?
probably not.
anyway, you keep living your bitter life. i will enjoy mine, and some of the new kind and generous friends i've meet so far on this board.
Cheers!
So you felt "chemistry" towards who you looked up to as a father figure? That is quite disturbing.
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