kristalaries
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14 Years
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HELP! Cancer guy now gone & need a break!! *sobs*
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We're both in our 20s, ambitious and working on our career. He works as an accountant in a reputable company and earns well, but has to support his whole family (mom & disabled dad, also his unemployed sister). His biggest insecurities is that I would leave him for a better, rich man someday. That's what he always told me. Here are the things he told me
"Before I met you, I am so confident and I'm never afraid. But now, I am so afraid to lose you."
"I can only take you out to modest places, no fancy dinings.. I'm afraid you accept another man that can solve all your financial problems instantly and give you expensive gifts."
"Please be with me, we can have a simple life together, I am not rich but I believe I can make you happy."
7 mor
He always told me that he loves me so much, while asking whether I love him as much? I said..well 10% of yours LOL. Because it's not easy for me to fall..but oh BOY I WAS WRONG I DID FALL. Just the Aries mind is so difficult to admit it.
The Conflict
Tax period is coming and Mr.Cancer is super busy doing and reviewing office tax reports. He works late at night. We usually meet once a month (since I am also busy) but keep communication intense everyday. Due to the tax period, communication also decrease 50% .
I start to notice a change of pattern and I dislike it. Less communication. One day, he texted me saying he just got back from office at 7 morning not sleeping all night, because of doing taxes & audit.
He sent me a short text, saying he just woke up. While I checked his FB, he was online posting status since 2 hours ago and saying hi to a girl.So I checked his status and found out he was OL all night posting stuff while he was supposed to be working. I confronted him and he said that his nephew is using his FB,not him. My friends keep telling me that he lies. So, I told him that he is EVIL and that I hated him.
He said "Up to you..Kristal"
Then he asked for a BREAK. He said that he needs TIME. To think if this is what he really wants. OMG, my heart is shattering in pieces.
I can't accept the break I started to get hysteric and send suicide threats since I am EMO as well.......
He send me this text "I also want everything to be Ok like before. But listen Kristal, we need TIME. We can still be like before. I won't hang up your call. Give us time. I love you Kristal, but you are demanding, u didn't believe me, u have big ego. And it seems all are my fault. I need time okay, we will cool down. I p
"Before I met you, I am so confident and I'm never afraid. But now, I am so afraid to lose you."
"I can only take you out to modest places, no fancy dinings.. I'm afraid you accept another man that can solve all your financial problems instantly and give you expensive gifts."
"Please be with me, we can have a simple life together, I am not rich but I believe I can make you happy."
7 mor
He always told me that he loves me so much, while asking whether I love him as much? I said..well 10% of yours LOL. Because it's not easy for me to fall..but oh BOY I WAS WRONG I DID FALL. Just the Aries mind is so difficult to admit it.
The Conflict
Tax period is coming and Mr.Cancer is super busy doing and reviewing office tax reports. He works late at night. We usually meet once a month (since I am also busy) but keep communication intense everyday. Due to the tax period, communication also decrease 50% .
I start to notice a change of pattern and I dislike it. Less communication. One day, he texted me saying he just got back from office at 7 morning not sleeping all night, because of doing taxes & audit.
He sent me a short text, saying he just woke up. While I checked his FB, he was online posting status since 2 hours ago and saying hi to a girl.So I checked his status and found out he was OL all night posting stuff while he was supposed to be working. I confronted him and he said that his nephew is using his FB,not him. My friends keep telling me that he lies. So, I told him that he is EVIL and that I hated him.
He said "Up to you..Kristal"
Then he asked for a BREAK. He said that he needs TIME. To think if this is what he really wants. OMG, my heart is shattering in pieces.
I can't accept the break I started to get hysteric and send suicide threats since I am EMO as well.......
He send me this text "I also want everything to be Ok like before. But listen Kristal, we need TIME. We can still be like before. I won't hang up your call. Give us time. I love you Kristal, but you are demanding, u didn't believe me, u have big ego. And it seems all are my fault. I need time okay, we will cool down. I p
The Aftermath...
I realize that I love him. He touches my soul. He's gentle and sweet and so understending, so nurturing. And he was also a great lover who knows well how to touch me correctly.
From the usual 10-12 texts and countless IMs per day..reduced to only 4-5 texts and no IMs. I feel so empty and miss him so bad. One thing he always wanted to hear from me is when I say I love him..so I texted him that I love him..and that I miss him, and that I am sorry...but he didn't reply as promptly as before. Sometimes he didn't reply at all.
On March 30, I texted him and reminded him that March 31 is my birthday and that I expect him to call me on March 30 midnight..to wish me a happy birthday. And he replied "Tonight I can't call because I have a flight at 4am morning to do taxes for our company's branch office, so I must sleep early tonight."
I was thinking that this will be a crappy birthday as I arrive home from work before midnight, a friend phoned to wish happy birthday and I heard a call waiting beep. So I said, hold on..when I checked..it's Mr.Cancer. He called me to wish a happy birthday but the line was so bad his voice sounded robotic so we only have a short conversation. But I was happy on my birthday.
And now, he's off to the branch office at a small city (a bit remote). He texted me shortly "Sorry, bad signal here"
Friends told me to forget him and leave him. But honestly, I love him and I told him that. I even ditched my ego and write apologies on sms, telling him that I will be more understanding, trusting and loving.
Please help me..will he come back to me? It hurts..I just spend time reading this forum while crying at night in my bed after arguing with him and realized that I learned too late. I should've just go with the flow..
Sorry for the long post
Sad Aries Girl
I realize that I love him. He touches my soul. He's gentle and sweet and so understending, so nurturing. And he was also a great lover who knows well how to touch me correctly.
From the usual 10-12 texts and countless IMs per day..reduced to only 4-5 texts and no IMs. I feel so empty and miss him so bad. One thing he always wanted to hear from me is when I say I love him..so I texted him that I love him..and that I miss him, and that I am sorry...but he didn't reply as promptly as before. Sometimes he didn't reply at all.
On March 30, I texted him and reminded him that March 31 is my birthday and that I expect him to call me on March 30 midnight..to wish me a happy birthday. And he replied "Tonight I can't call because I have a flight at 4am morning to do taxes for our company's branch office, so I must sleep early tonight."
I was thinking that this will be a crappy birthday as I arrive home from work before midnight, a friend phoned to wish happy birthday and I heard a call waiting beep. So I said, hold on..when I checked..it's Mr.Cancer. He called me to wish a happy birthday but the line was so bad his voice sounded robotic so we only have a short conversation. But I was happy on my birthday.
And now, he's off to the branch office at a small city (a bit remote). He texted me shortly "Sorry, bad signal here"
Friends told me to forget him and leave him. But honestly, I love him and I told him that. I even ditched my ego and write apologies on sms, telling him that I will be more understanding, trusting and loving.
Please help me..will he come back to me? It hurts..I just spend time reading this forum while crying at night in my bed after arguing with him and realized that I learned too late. I should've just go with the flow..
Sorry for the long post
Sad Aries Girl
The texts got cut by forum due to character limitations, here are the texts messages Cancer guy sent me..after the argument and when asking for a break..please help me analyze them:
He send me this text "I also want everything to be Ok like before. But listen Kristal, we need TIME. We can still be like before. I won't hang up your call. Give us time. I love you Kristal, but you are demanding, u didn't believe me, u have big ego. And it seems all are my fault. I need time okay, we will cool down. I promise you. May you give us time?"
"I won't date another during the break because I need TIME to think about what my mistakes are."
"Don't talk about suicide, because it's useless. I won't change my mind. I just want to think, and u need too. So don't force me"
"I don't love you like this suicidal, so don't make me erase my love"
"We can still talk, but we need a break"
"Come on honey, don't do this. Don't make me hate you. If you do that, I won't get back to you anymore. The choice is in your hand."
"I'm serious with you, but your behavior like this, made me think about it again. is this what I really want? I need time to think about it, so do you."
"If you believe me, then you will give us time. Believe me, everything will be fine. Can you?"
He send me this text "I also want everything to be Ok like before. But listen Kristal, we need TIME. We can still be like before. I won't hang up your call. Give us time. I love you Kristal, but you are demanding, u didn't believe me, u have big ego. And it seems all are my fault. I need time okay, we will cool down. I promise you. May you give us time?"
"I won't date another during the break because I need TIME to think about what my mistakes are."
"Don't talk about suicide, because it's useless. I won't change my mind. I just want to think, and u need too. So don't force me"
"I don't love you like this suicidal, so don't make me erase my love"
"We can still talk, but we need a break"
"Come on honey, don't do this. Don't make me hate you. If you do that, I won't get back to you anymore. The choice is in your hand."
"I'm serious with you, but your behavior like this, made me think about it again. is this what I really want? I need time to think about it, so do you."
"If you believe me, then you will give us time. Believe me, everything will be fine. Can you?"
The huge fight was 3 days before my birthday. And he actually planned to celebrate my birthday after he fiished doing tax report (which is on April 10, 2011). I agree with his plan, but after the fight, I ask him about his plan to celebrate birthday with me and here's his answer (text) "I will spend time for your birthday, so it's okay. Goodnight Honey"
Today..
I only get 1 text from him so far. He is in a remote area.
My friends told me to forget him, when they first met him, they said he's too cute to be true.
I am hurt. I feel so down. I am crying. I want him back, I want things to be okay again like before. I found wineaux's post about Cancer men and she said that the best way to deal with Cancers is not to be demanding and go with the flow. Perhaps I was going with the flow in the beginning when I didn't feel that much for him, and I was occupied with my own things (I look so independent in his eyes, even when he's being clingy) and made him so clingy and crazy.
But when he knows that I checked his FB and was upset that he went FB-ing past midnight when he was supposed to be working as well, he can't understand my anger...
I need help & advice..
Friends told me to forget him and move on..but I still want to give it another try..
Please help me answer these questions bothering my mind :
1. Will he forgive me? I sent countless apology texts to no avail and only cold replies
2. How long will this "break" take?
3. What is the best thing to do during this break?
4. Will he keep his words and promises?
5. Will he contact me again?
In the midst of this confusion and sadness, I find it still sweet that he called me as a surprise on my birthday.
But now..it seems he disappear again. I miss him, I miss his daily texts and IMs. Advice please.
I only get 1 text from him so far. He is in a remote area.
My friends told me to forget him, when they first met him, they said he's too cute to be true.
I am hurt. I feel so down. I am crying. I want him back, I want things to be okay again like before. I found wineaux's post about Cancer men and she said that the best way to deal with Cancers is not to be demanding and go with the flow. Perhaps I was going with the flow in the beginning when I didn't feel that much for him, and I was occupied with my own things (I look so independent in his eyes, even when he's being clingy) and made him so clingy and crazy.
But when he knows that I checked his FB and was upset that he went FB-ing past midnight when he was supposed to be working as well, he can't understand my anger...
I need help & advice..
Friends told me to forget him and move on..but I still want to give it another try..
Please help me answer these questions bothering my mind :
1. Will he forgive me? I sent countless apology texts to no avail and only cold replies
2. How long will this "break" take?
3. What is the best thing to do during this break?
4. Will he keep his words and promises?
5. Will he contact me again?
In the midst of this confusion and sadness, I find it still sweet that he called me as a surprise on my birthday.
But now..it seems he disappear again. I miss him, I miss his daily texts and IMs. Advice please.
Some of his astrological stats :
Sun in Cancer, Moon in Aries, Venus in Leo.
I'm going to the Venus in Leo board to read more about these characteristic traits.
Kristal
Sun in Cancer, Moon in Aries, Venus in Leo.
I'm going to the Venus in Leo board to read more about these characteristic traits.
Kristal
I've been thinking..during this tough period..I have to treat myself well. Even if it's not working..perhaps I will book myself a holiday in a tropical resort and try to forget him.
I remember long ago in 2008 had a Cancer boyfriend also and when we break up, it took me 1,5 years to forget him! Cancers do left footprints in my heart.
I remember long ago in 2008 had a Cancer boyfriend also and when we break up, it took me 1,5 years to forget him! Cancers do left footprints in my heart.
I just return from dinner..with some friends. The food is nice, the ambiance is good..but something is missing in my heart and mind..it's Mr.Cancer. Anyways, I don't think I can hang on this long or maybe I can..let's see about that. Just a quick update..😉
Too fucking long and no, I will not bare.
I miss him so much.. 😢
SOmebody please give insight regarding my problem..oh how I wish I didn't explode because of his online flirting. I should just go with the flow and pretend I didn't know, to avoid any arguments. Now the break is already happening.
SOmebody please give insight regarding my problem..oh how I wish I didn't explode because of his online flirting. I should just go with the flow and pretend I didn't know, to avoid any arguments. Now the break is already happening.
Ok, I'll read it after doing my homework, I promise.
You questioned his integrity, and probably for good reason. All this is way too complicated, if he was really that interested then you wouldn't be dealing with this right now. Leave it alone, he may or may not be back, that's your answer.
Posted by kristalaries
We were just dating for 7 weeks so far.
This is as far as I got. Can you imagine what 7 months would be like?
King of Libra -- thanks for ur advice and I will think about it, for my own goodness' sake.
Mr Crabby ---thanks for dropping by
Claire -- Yeah, I made excuses for him, perhaps it's defense mechanism, refusing to see the flaws. But i hope things will unfold for the better. It's just I hate hanging on and uncertainty. Maybe it's thrilling up to an extent..but I can get quickly bored if the situation remain static for long. He is still in remote area until April 4, and he planned to spend my birthday with me on April 9, 2011. I will keep you all updated on how things will evolve. I am hoping for the best. I was so happy with him. I want it again 🙂
LunarLady --I hope I get good results. I am hurting and it's sad to know that he's not interested anymore. Hard to accept, because he used to be so jealous and clingy. Ohhh i'll miss that.
Mr Crabby ---thanks for dropping by
Claire -- Yeah, I made excuses for him, perhaps it's defense mechanism, refusing to see the flaws. But i hope things will unfold for the better. It's just I hate hanging on and uncertainty. Maybe it's thrilling up to an extent..but I can get quickly bored if the situation remain static for long. He is still in remote area until April 4, and he planned to spend my birthday with me on April 9, 2011. I will keep you all updated on how things will evolve. I am hoping for the best. I was so happy with him. I want it again 🙂
LunarLady --I hope I get good results. I am hurting and it's sad to know that he's not interested anymore. Hard to accept, because he used to be so jealous and clingy. Ohhh i'll miss that.
shellshocker -- we were just together for 7 weeks indeed and ...I keep thinking that's it's my fault to pick a fight and get angry because of his antics. I regret it. Have I not been angry, maybe we are still okay right now...but inside I am holding grudges.
amethyst -- sorry i am so shattered. I was not realizing that I love him until he asked for a break.
I am burying myself in work today..I don't see him in IM. I am so sad. I am crying now, my heart is hurting. I have to forgive him and forgive myself.
I am sorry if I sound like a lunatic, but I got hurt bad. It's hard to fall in love and when I fall, I fall deep.
I am burying myself in work today..I don't see him in IM. I am so sad. I am crying now, my heart is hurting. I have to forgive him and forgive myself.
I am sorry if I sound like a lunatic, but I got hurt bad. It's hard to fall in love and when I fall, I fall deep.
I wish it's so easy to erase him from my mind. I really wish we never meet.Going through this sucks. I'm hurt badly. How can something that was so fine 7 weeks ago turned this cold? I can't understand it. Is it purely mind games on his part? I saw some new girls he add on his FB. He always said his FB is managed & operated by his cousin. My friends say that's just a cheap excuse.
I guess perhaps....maybe..as hard as it sounds..maybe it's time for me to move on.
I guess perhaps....maybe..as hard as it sounds..maybe it's time for me to move on.
I really don't know what to do..with mr.Cancer.I keep telling that I want to move on that maybe it's time to forget him, but in my heart I still want him. I miss the moments we shared, even it was only 7 weeks together. I miss him. I want things to get back like before..
I will not check his FB anymore..it's hurting to see him adding females there. Maybe it's what they call the Cancer harmless flirting? Online flirting? Is it possible that you are so busy and need your cousin to manage your FB account and post status periodically? He has a Blackberry and can easily do that from his smart phone...my friends think that it's such a cheap excuse and blatant ridiculous lie.
How to undo my feelings? Part of me still wants him back. I miss him so much.
I will not check his FB anymore..it's hurting to see him adding females there. Maybe it's what they call the Cancer harmless flirting? Online flirting? Is it possible that you are so busy and need your cousin to manage your FB account and post status periodically? He has a Blackberry and can easily do that from his smart phone...my friends think that it's such a cheap excuse and blatant ridiculous lie.
How to undo my feelings? Part of me still wants him back. I miss him so much.
Im sorting my thoughts out now..I hope things will get better for me, for us..
In the mean time...I will :
1.keep up & polish up my beauty regime..look beautiful for myself
2.get busy
3.get active
In the mean time...I will :
1.keep up & polish up my beauty regime..look beautiful for myself
2.get busy
3.get active
King of Libra & Amethyst --thanks for the insights. As much as my heart hurts..I find that meditating helps..I just visualize him smiling and hugging me..and instantly I feel so much better..as if I just met him in person. I can't wait to do it again...I miss him sooo much
Yeah maybe King..
I'm so smitten..I need him in my life. But I'm slowly allowing myself to heal as well.
I'm so smitten..I need him in my life. But I'm slowly allowing myself to heal as well.
@Kristal: He came on very strong with you. I don't think he was being fair to suddenly drop all that because now HE is busy. As an Aries you come on strong. His Aries moon probably does the same for him. He may be stressed since its tax time so pull back and wait for him to come to you. I am sure he will.
I just asked my Cancer friend and he said...Mr.Cancer might be out there looking for other women...but when he can't find what he want..he'll get back to me..
For 3 days I monitor his phone is off, IM off and his FB also no updates for 3 days..seems he disappeared..
For 3 days I monitor his phone is off, IM off and his FB also no updates for 3 days..seems he disappeared..
Posted by TheLadySagittarius
@Kristal: He came on very strong with you. I don't think he was being fair to suddenly drop all that because now HE is busy. As an Aries you come on strong. His Aries moon probably does the same for him. He may be stressed since its tax time so pull back and wait for him to come to you. I am sure he will.
He's in remote area now..no phone signal (I send sms to him and get no delivery report), also his IM not on (it's usually on 24/7 since he's using Blackberry).His FB status also 3 days no update yet.
Thanks for the kind comment..I also feel that he'll be back. I just need to be patient 🙂 and stay beautiful
Posted by Noosiekins
The more you push, the worst it'll be... leave him be....
From one Aries to another... ps...there are other fishes in the sea 🙂
I realize my mistake..from this matter...
Never ever let my emotions explode and create EMO drama/suicidal..some guys can handle it..and they become so protective to me..but not all guys can handle it. I have to deal with jealousy/anger in a more civilized way..
I need an outlet for my jealousy/anger...this is the lesson I learn from Mr.Cancer case..
I am still here..some friends around checking on me and encouraging me to live life and be happy always. I am trying to do it now..I have cried..cried so hard..and drown myself into regret. I also forgave myself. Maybe this experience is a lesson for me to learn...I have learned it..
Perhaps it's time for me to grow up. Men can cheat and lie and have other girls on the side..it's not my problem, it's their problem. Maybe it's time for me to ditch my EMO ways and being suicidal LOL. I was so happy with mr.Cancer..I miss his texts..his calls and his sweetness
WINEAUX is right...I cried reading her advice..when she said..Cancer men need a partner who is content with what he can give and grateful for that. I should've read wineaux's advice earlier and perhaps none of this would've happen. I am changed now.
The cheer up posts really give me hope and positivity. Aaah..how good it will be when Mr.Cancer returns to me. It will be a happy, happy day 🙂 I miss him so much. Last night in my dream, he came to me and we went out for dinner..I was so happy..the dream was so realistic.
Tonight before sleep, I will meditate again thinking about him. I know..I know..that he still loves me..I can feel it..I feel it now...
When he comes back to me, I am more mature, understanding and not jealous...in control of my emotions. Hugs & have a great weekend everyone, Kristal the Aries girl.
Perhaps it's time for me to grow up. Men can cheat and lie and have other girls on the side..it's not my problem, it's their problem. Maybe it's time for me to ditch my EMO ways and being suicidal LOL. I was so happy with mr.Cancer..I miss his texts..his calls and his sweetness
WINEAUX is right...I cried reading her advice..when she said..Cancer men need a partner who is content with what he can give and grateful for that. I should've read wineaux's advice earlier and perhaps none of this would've happen. I am changed now.
The cheer up posts really give me hope and positivity. Aaah..how good it will be when Mr.Cancer returns to me. It will be a happy, happy day 🙂 I miss him so much. Last night in my dream, he came to me and we went out for dinner..I was so happy..the dream was so realistic.
Tonight before sleep, I will meditate again thinking about him. I know..I know..that he still loves me..I can feel it..I feel it now...
When he comes back to me, I am more mature, understanding and not jealous...in control of my emotions. Hugs & have a great weekend everyone, Kristal the Aries girl.
Posted by ImpressMe
He will be back. The real question is will you want him back?
Thank you for the positivity..
Yes I want him back! But I won't take things too seriously..just go with the flow 🙂
Posted by ImpressMe
@ kristalaries??_.GF know your worth. Trust me, once you know your worth. I guarantee you that you won't fall for this shit again. You??ll be alright. Sweetheart it's ok to feel what you are feeling. These very feelings that you have —right now?? is what going to strengthen you.
Thank you..you're so kind to me 🙂
These sad feelings of hurt, shock and dissapointment..I feel them getting more neutral daily
Yesterday I was crying..so hard and so painful my heart...today I am more calm...
Yesterday I listened to this song "Heart of The Matter" by India Arie..and I cried..These lyrics made me cry..
"I've been learning to live without you now
But I miss you sometimes
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning them again
I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it's about forgiveness
Forgiveness
Even if, even if you don't love me anymore"
I saw him online on IM now..and I just send messages but he didn't respond..
It hurts so bad..I think I will avoid IM for awhile..
Why is he ignoring me—
I'm hurting...
It hurts so bad..I think I will avoid IM for awhile..
Why is he ignoring me—
I'm hurting...
*crying now*
SIGH.............wish anyone can understand what I feel
SIGH.............wish anyone can understand what I feel
Posted by MaddyPosted by kristalaries
*crying now*
SIGH.............wish anyone can understand what I feel
You have to relax girl. You're being obsessed over this guy. You have to calm down, step back get ahold of yourself.
Do you have a life besides depressing over some guy? Do you work? school, hobbies, friends family? anything you enjoy doing?
Stop contact him, how do you want him to miss you when you're not giving him time to do so?
How old are you anyway? 14, 15?
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I'm in my 20s now..I'm sorry but I lost control yesterday. I wish just wish I can turn back the clock and not be jealous EMO..perhaps he is still with me right now..and I am not devastating like this.
I am trying to keep myself busy this weekend and avoiding IM for awhile
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Kristal you are an idiot. Instead of stabbing this motherfucker, you became suicidal? Get a fucking grip. He is cheating on you emotionally and probably has a couple of chicks on the side. You don't "LOVE" him. You are in love with your idea of a man who is 'sweet, caring, nurturing' - HE IS NOTHING LIKE THAT. Trust me. Male Cancers manipulate, lie, cheat, and steal if it is what they feel like doing.
Grow a bigger set of ovaries and stop moping.
Yeah..I guess I am the fool perhaps..because when he's around, I was always happy and he's so sweet. I do miss his caring messages and phone calls which would fill my daily schedule. I think I really need time, really need to gather myself back again 🙂 Thanks for your caring message, King
Posted by Maddy
You don't need to apologize. Get yourself together, he is not the only guy in the world. Been there done that. You got to relax, let things flow. Think, who would want a girl that can't control herself? Calm down, things would turn out good. Enjoy your weekend
Ohh Maddy you give me a light of hope here..you said that "things would turn out good". Thank you for these words..I do believe that nothing is a coincidence in life. Me going on this forum, is also not a coincidence.
Today..my Cancer friend (she's female) also said the same thing to me..that she believes Mr.Cancer will contact me again perhaps a few days before April 9, 2011.
I went out on my weekend, watched a movie, dinner and spend time with close friends. I'm trying to keep hope, but not be too hopeful.
Honestly, it hurts. And I am in process of healing now. For sure, this incident taught me a lesson, to handle my emotions better, to be in control, to stay grounded, not give in to my EMO antiques..because not every guy can deal with it. I think it's about time for me to grow up and be a mature person...
I've been reading many relationship articles and basically learning how to communicate better and handle myself better. So when Mr.Cancer (or a better guy) returns, I am prepared and ready to handle the emotional ups and downs of a relationship without resorting into EMO drama and suicidal remarks.
Posted by ImpressMe
Mannn, see that's why i can't treetrunk with some Cancers because i would treetrunk a cookiemonster up if they play with my emotions. I know it's not the right way but damn some people just need a good slap in the face.
LOL thanks Impress 🙂
Exactly but perhaps I am already smitten by him. Honestly, I still have so many questions in my mind..so many "WHY'S"—
I'm trying hard to move on now..I checked my diary..my goals..my plans..and I'm writing a list on steps to pursue them.
If Mr.Cancer is a player and he's only playing with my feelings, thus using this opportunity as an escape route..I hope karma smacks him in the face. LOL I feel better after writing that. Someday I hope, he feels what I am feeling right now.
Posted by EmotionalMoon
OMG women run for your life. He sounds twisted.
Some of my friends told me that they don't trust him and that I shouldn't either, while Mr.Cancer keep telling me to trust him. Due to what they are saying, I broke into an emotional explosive burst and resorted to EMO drama suicidal threats. I did get a lot of response from scared Mr.Cancer trying to calm me down..but after that, he hides behind work excuses. He said that on April 9, he will celebrate my birthday with me. It will be 5 days from now..if he keeps his words.
My Daily Horoscope (ARIES) said this for today..
"Mastering the idea of unconditional love can be a life-long adventure, but it doesn't have to be. Accept others for what they are today. Don't judge. Don't criticize. Don't try to change them."
It really fits into my situation right now. I learned so many lessons, valuable lessons,these past few days after the Mr.Cancer incident.
"Mastering the idea of unconditional love can be a life-long adventure, but it doesn't have to be. Accept others for what they are today. Don't judge. Don't criticize. Don't try to change them."
It really fits into my situation right now. I learned so many lessons, valuable lessons,these past few days after the Mr.Cancer incident.
It's been just 7 weeks and I admit it HURTS bad..
I remember him always asking me "Do you love me already, Kristal?"
Because he knows it's hard for me to fall in love, I need time. When he's gone..I realize that I feel it.
Lessons for me :
1. No more explosive emotions & jealousy
2. No more EMO dramas & suicidal threats
3. Be more calm & content
4. Treat myself well when facing hurt (eat, sleep on time, self care)
I was a mess when he asked for a break. I didn't eat at all...I didn't have the WILL to do anything. Today I'm much better. But I still feel the hurt and pain.
My heart goes out to anyone who is also feeling the same and is in the same boat as me..please stay strong...
I love you, Cancer man.. 😢
I wish things can back to normal again..
I miss your text messages, our daily IMs and your daily phone calls checking in on me
This HURTS
I remember him always asking me "Do you love me already, Kristal?"
Because he knows it's hard for me to fall in love, I need time. When he's gone..I realize that I feel it.
Lessons for me :
1. No more explosive emotions & jealousy
2. No more EMO dramas & suicidal threats
3. Be more calm & content
4. Treat myself well when facing hurt (eat, sleep on time, self care)
I was a mess when he asked for a break. I didn't eat at all...I didn't have the WILL to do anything. Today I'm much better. But I still feel the hurt and pain.
My heart goes out to anyone who is also feeling the same and is in the same boat as me..please stay strong...
I love you, Cancer man.. 😢
I wish things can back to normal again..
I miss your text messages, our daily IMs and your daily phone calls checking in on me
This HURTS
Posted by kristalaries
It's been just 7 weeks and I admit it HURTS bad..
I remember him always asking me "Do you love me already, Kristal?"
Because he knows it's hard for me to fall in love, I need time. When he's gone..I realize that I feel it.
Lessons for me :
1. No more explosive emotions & jealousy
2. No more EMO dramas & suicidal threats
3. Be more calm & content
4. Treat myself well when facing hurt (eat, sleep on time, self care)
I was a mess when he asked for a break. I didn't eat at all...I didn't have the WILL to do anything. Today I'm much better. But I still feel the hurt and pain.
My heart goes out to anyone who is also feeling the same and is in the same boat as me..please stay strong...
I love you, Cancer man.. 😢
I wish things can back to normal again..
I miss your text messages, our daily IMs and your daily phone calls checking in on me
This HURTS
You don't consider your many, many posts of heartache and sobbing explosive emotions and EMO drama?
You can't change yourself to fit a Crab, we can see right through it. You are also projecting your pain and suffering all over this forum and Crabs pick up on this. I don't read your posts personally, I don't have to... I already know you are very emotionally needy.
Best thing is to just move on....
shell -- what is wrong with being EMO-needy? it's not a bad thing. I don't hurt anyone..maybe my EMO drama/suicidal threats were too much (that's my mistake) but being a bit needy..I don't think it's bad especially after realizing that I love him
I am here to learn, perhaps vent and sob, grieve..this is a healing process for me..right now. Who doesn't want happiness? We're all searching for it and we deal with sadness in different ways 🙂
I am here to learn, perhaps vent and sob, grieve..this is a healing process for me..right now. Who doesn't want happiness? We're all searching for it and we deal with sadness in different ways 🙂
I mean..it's just a phase of being EMO-needy right now..a phase..on how I hang on to memories and try to deal with my pain & hurt. This is a forum and I can bare open my thoughts emotions here, without having to appear professional and image conscious. I think it's safe for me.
To kristalaries and speaking as a male Cancerian,
My advice is just to stop trying to contact him and making all these assumptions as to how he's thinking until at least your birthday. Like someone already said, you should give him the time to miss you and stop showing how needy you are by always stalking him and hitting up his Blackberry whenever he's signed in. How you're acting and what you're doing right now is only going to help drive him off. I mean you're telling him that you're going to kill yourself because he's not there and HE has to convince you not to do so? You need to get a grip, especially since your relationship hadn't even been on that long relatively speaking. If he said that you guys are going to hang out on your birthday, then just wait till then until you go off the deep end with recriminations, depression, and all these strong emotions. If you want to be with him, then give him time, space, and the benefit of a doubt. You're not giving him none of it right now.
Now saying that, I do wish the absolute best for you and I hope you get everything you wish for.
Hilarious. So we have "no balls" because we don't like to be controlled by those who become "needy" and "emo" (to quote your own wording) if they otherwise couldn't get their way? Cool story, but that anecdote of yours only proves how unsuited *you* are for being with a Cancer rather than showing how we lack balls. The ones who are suited for us wouldn't have a need to control us in the first place. And lol, the last thing they would ever accuse us of is a lack of *balls*.
My advice is just to stop trying to contact him and making all these assumptions as to how he's thinking until at least your birthday. Like someone already said, you should give him the time to miss you and stop showing how needy you are by always stalking him and hitting up his Blackberry whenever he's signed in. How you're acting and what you're doing right now is only going to help drive him off. I mean you're telling him that you're going to kill yourself because he's not there and HE has to convince you not to do so? You need to get a grip, especially since your relationship hadn't even been on that long relatively speaking. If he said that you guys are going to hang out on your birthday, then just wait till then until you go off the deep end with recriminations, depression, and all these strong emotions. If you want to be with him, then give him time, space, and the benefit of a doubt. You're not giving him none of it right now.
Now saying that, I do wish the absolute best for you and I hope you get everything you wish for.
Posted by Noosiekins
From an Aries to another...
It's our need to control the situation that makes us EMO and needy... trust me...I KNOW... UP and DOWNS...like a fucking rollercoaster...Until you realize that you don't need him to be happy... you will not be able to "go with the flow"
Cancer guys have NO BALLS....Aries do... and they can't take it..they don't like to be controlled...they need to feel that they can come and go whenever......
Personally...now that I'm happier... and talking to various guys....(just to eh get back into the swing of things) I realized how I just LIKED the idea of having my Crab.... but really we weren't a match... i need someone w/ a bit more Fire... or well Balls!
Hilarious. So we have "no balls" because we don't like to be controlled by those who become "needy" and "emo" (to quote your own wording) if they otherwise couldn't get their way? Cool story, but that anecdote of yours only proves how unsuited *you* are for being with a Cancer rather than showing how we lack balls. The ones who are suited for us wouldn't have a need to control us in the first place. And lol, the last thing they would ever accuse us of is a lack of *balls*.
Anyone got a shotgun?
Posted by Noosiekins
From an Aries to another...
It's our need to control the situation that makes us EMO and needy... trust me...I KNOW... UP and DOWNS...like a fucking rollercoaster...Until you realize that you don't need him to be happy... you will not be able to "go with the flow"
Cancer guys have NO BALLS....Aries do... and they can't take it..they don't like to be controlled...they need to feel that they can come and go whenever....
Personally...now that I'm happier... and talking to various guys....(just to eh get back into the swing of things) I realized how I just LIKED the idea of having my Crab.... but really we weren't a match... i need someone w/ a bit more Fire... or well Balls!
Noosie, thanks for your caring post. It's already April 5, 2011 and no news from him. I am determined to live my life with enthusiasm and positivity. Just the thought of IM..I can't bare it. I need to get OL to talk to friends and colleagues..but looking at his ID "online" and not getting replies from him HURTS. I have been avoiding IM for 3 days now.
I will still go OL today but will not scroll down to see whether he is OL or not. I just talk to friends and colleagues instead.
I learned valuable lessons here...that being EMO-drama-suicidal doesn't always get us what we want.. 😢
I still need a lot to learn and improve...good lessons in life..what a high price huh!
I'm OL now on IM and I saw him OL also..I send him message & text but no reply..
So, I am chatting with friends and colleagues now..🙂 Need to get used to this 🙂
I will still be OL because I want to keep in touch with my friends 🙂
If he's not responding me..then that's it..I believe that I am a good person and I will meet better men as well
So, I am chatting with friends and colleagues now..🙂 Need to get used to this 🙂
I will still be OL because I want to keep in touch with my friends 🙂
If he's not responding me..then that's it..I believe that I am a good person and I will meet better men as well
I read this Cancer forum and some people have bad experiences with Cancers..some have happy endings..I do wish I have a happy ending with Mr.Cancer..
But honestly..I'm getting used to not talking to him already..it's been 4 days so far 🙂 I admit I miss him, but getting used to here.
I have Cancer best friends as well, and they are very caring people 🙂
My Cancer best friend taught me the art of diplomacy because as an Aries sometimes my direct ways can be uncomfortable for certain people 🙂 She's the best!
But honestly..I'm getting used to not talking to him already..it's been 4 days so far 🙂 I admit I miss him, but getting used to here.
I have Cancer best friends as well, and they are very caring people 🙂
My Cancer best friend taught me the art of diplomacy because as an Aries sometimes my direct ways can be uncomfortable for certain people 🙂 She's the best!
Today still no news from him..sometimes I feel sad..
I'm trying to be happy and enjoy my life
I'm trying to be happy and enjoy my life
Posted by ImpressMe
You know what, you??re right. He is loving and caring. He cares about you so much that he doesn't answer your phone calls, your text messages, and your IM??s on line. Oh yea, he really cares about you. Not to mention all the wonderful things he said to you and that made you just want to rescue him and hold him close to you.
Tell the mother fucker to grow up and stop being a pussy. Man up. That is what the hell you should have told him. WTF??_this dude selling you dreams. Tell him keep it 100 with this 50 cents ass. Please.
I am so happy you drop by and post here..I really need support during these difficult times. I don't know what to think about him anymore. I made mistakes..and so did he..why not be brave and accept, forgive & give a chance? I don't understand his thinking.
LOL some of the things you wrote made me laugh... 🙂 Thanks & hugs from Kristal the Aries Girl.
Posted by ImpressMePosted by kristalaries
My Cancer best friend taught me the art of diplomacy because as an Aries sometimes my direct ways can be uncomfortable for certain people 🙂 She's the best!
You probably taught her how to speak her mind. Not close up and go in her shell when shit hits the fan. Relationships goes too way. You're trying to convince yourself that this guy is a caring person. This guy doesn't care about your feelings right now.click to expand
LOL yes..she often ask advice from me..how to communicate her mind/thoughts in a nice proper way to a difficult relative, partner..etc.
And she also taught me to be more diplomatic because I tend to be blunt 🙂
Impress, I hope I can deal with this situation well 🙂 please send me strength 🙂
MY MISTAKE
I checked his FB
He was online last night and added new girls
One girl..she looks just like me
I don't know what to do now..I am crushed inside
I guess..maybe it's OVER 😢
I checked his FB
He was online last night and added new girls
One girl..she looks just like me
I don't know what to do now..I am crushed inside
I guess..maybe it's OVER 😢
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My Story
I'm an Aries girl, dating a Cancer guy. We were just dating for 7 weeks so far. He was quickly falling in love with me on our first date. Things were nice. In the middle of the movie, he held my hand tight. I wasn't feeling anything yet still but I am already smitten because he's cute and so sweet. Anyways, on our daily conversations, he told me his insecurities, how he's afraid that some better guy might come along and take me away from him, as he consider me good looking. I admit, I do work hard to keep my physique and take good care of myself. I just brushed it off and go along with my day, and said something to calm him.
He can text me 10 times a day, and expecting me to reply all the time, when sometimes I have things to do, job interview to attend and my own personal & health problem to deal with. The times when I am hard to reach (due to being busy), he was going crazy worry and keep calling me to know whether I am okay. He even get upset one evening after a job interview I attend where I don't immediately inform him about the interview place (because I am so caught up in my busy day, so no time to text. I just text him when I am in a cab on the way home).
Back from interview, Mr.Cancer called furiously wanted to know if there is a guy who tried to hit on me, or the new boss trying to make a move on me LOL. I said to him that none of that is happening. He was so angry jealous and he keep telling me that he's scared I might leave him for someone better, because he is still beginning his career and has less money because had to support his family & disabled parent. I keep telling him that "No, way..nobody did that and I am NOT Interested." I had to calm him down awhile and honestly was a bit put off because I also had many things to deal with..but things are fine after that.