Oooh Wee!

So some of the Virgos might remember The drama I had with my Virguy some time ago. Well I since moved on... Kinda. So I have been seeing an Aquarius (I know, another difficult match up) He too is very detached emotionally. I digress. The Virguy seemed to have given up on the relationship as I did. One small problem. He still has one of my vehicles at his house. What tha?! I have attempted many times to arrange a trade of all personal items, and wrap this thing up. He finds some excuse to delay. Okay what's the deal? Virgo's are the type to CUT YOU OFF completely. Why is he so resistant to completely let go? I understand he loves me, I also love him... blah, blah, blah? I have played his little game only to see what the hell is going on in his head. I am VERY fond of my Aquaguy and don't want to lose him over some old ish. He doesn't know what's goin down. I do realize this can go either way. The man might just not want to deal with me. In that case, park my ride outside. Stash the keys under the seat, and let me pick it up on my own...So confused by the Virgo mind.


Ready for some Virgo analysis...no matter how brutal lol! =)

If you just really want your car and nothing else...

What is the point of worrying about what is on his mind?Who cares?

Why is there only one set of keys to it?

Communicate with him in business-like manner and stick to conversation about car only.
Set an actual time pick it up.
He probably doesn't want to get blamed for unattended car stolen with keys in it.More contact with you.
I despise cling and can spot it a mile away.


1)Go to a dealer and get master key made.
2)Get plates and insurance for it.
3)Send him 30 day notice by certified mail
4)Day 31 show up with police to get it.
5)Change locks to whatever keys are on said ring.


But if you want to use the car as a bridge to keep lines/tabs on him,then you're just gonna get more of the same.


I broke up with the cancer on Christmas,so he'd get the point.

I don't hate the man Vulcanlass... I want to know what's going on with him. I care for him as another human being on earth. That's the point. Your suggestions are a bit harsh and are unlike me. Which further proves my point. He doesn't have those extreme actions you guys are prone to, making me wonder if something is wrong. If he needs to talk to me about something (other than us). I have not been "clinging" to him. I have only texted regarding the truck. Even that has been sparse. I am concerned b/c He does have some "issues". The truck is in his garage which is the reason I haven't just shown up to get the thing, and I know if I show up when he is there, I can get it. Btw i'm not using the truck as a bridge. He is. I am just giving him space to think. He is resisting so there must be a reason. Virgo's are about business. Period. If you guys act otherwise, there is definitely a reason as it is out of character.

I'm sorry that you dislike Cancers so much that you had to ruin a Christmas for someone. That was a terrible thing to do. I'm not the one you broke up with. So don't dump your leftover animosity onto me. Not all Cancers are alike. I'm sure the poor sap doesn't know it yet, but he'll be happier. I am much happier now that the Virgo and I are not a couple. I wouldn't want to deal with you and i've only seen one post from you.

@Brown69:sorry to see the things with you and the virgoguy didn't go well and you're not together.
wish you if happens to meet another virgoguy and you'd like to form a relationship with him,the sitution will end happy🙂

wait! can i ask you a question,if you don't mind of course ?

Did you have a problem in communication with the virgo guy? Concidering differrent ways of thinking etc...
a common language is not an easy thing to achieve with virgo people i know,so i wonder if it is a cancer experience as a whole or it's my individual one

Posted by VulcanLass

I broke up with the cancer on Christmas,so he'd get the point.

I was dead-wrong when I gave you shit about how horrible and emotionally abusive you were to your children, according to what you wrote in that thread several months ago .... because you aren't an emotionally horrible mother ....

.... you're an emotionally horrible person across the board ....

Brown69, I didn't remember you at all, which is odd because I rarely forget things.

Anyway, I went back to read up on you and only got so far, and stopped .... because it was all I needed to know.

Back in September, you had said you've been with this Sept born Virgo for 3 years, and was living with him at that time (which explains why a car of yours would be there) ... anyway, you also said that he lies to your face, and cheats on you ... not only did you know these things were happening, you also commented on how much you loved him and didn't mind that he'd do those things because he made you feel loved and protected.

It is important for you to get a grip here, because you obviously are still not comprehending the terms of relating that you set by allowing this disrespect to happen to you, since you are here saying you want to understand what is going on in his mind ... for you to ask that, means you still aren't getting it.

What is going on in his mind is that you are nothing, nobody, and you don't matter ... so he isn't even going to bother caring about your car, or what you want or need.

Now, if he decides that he wants to tap into that thang .. he might put on a show for you .. otherwise, he views you as nothing, so he's not going to bother to be bothered by you.


This is something you need to look at for yourself, because it will be the demise of your relationships .... if you overlook being abused and calling it 'love', then you will get this abuse every time.

A person is suppose to have honor, and respect for themselves, first and formost ... if you don't care to be cheated on, then nobody is going to care to respect you.

It becomes apparant why you don't just go get your car ...

Ummm... I ended the relationship people. Have since moved on to another. I realize he was wrong in his unfaithfulness, hence the breakup. I was very confused by his actions back then as I am now. No one has ever treated me that way. I blamed his addiction. However I am unwilling to discuss anything in the realm of he and I romantically. I am however willing to hear him say " I need help", and I am willing to help him get help. He has had my back in the past even though he was wrong in his other actions. We all make mistakes right? It is the human condition to have flaws. I have made a few errors in my life. Only God can judge us. In the end, he has lost me as a mate, there is no recovering that. I appreciate your replies.

Posted by quo vadis?
@Brown69:sorry to see the things with you and the virgoguy didn't go well and you're not together.
wish you if happens to meet another virgoguy and you'd like to form a relationship with him,the sitution will end happy🙂

wait! can i ask you a question,if you don't mind of course ?

Did you have a problem in communication with the virgo guy? Concidering differrent ways of thinking etc...
a common language is not an easy thing to achieve with virgo people i know,so i wonder if it is a cancer experience as a whole or it's my individual one

We did have communication difficulties. Yes. He didn't communicate at all unless he was drunk. Then it was all incoherent babble/apologies...Otherwise he was very quiet.

"Ready for some Virgo analysis...no matter how brutal lol! =)"

@Brown69.Asked and recieved.Okay then.Wondering how's he's doing ,go right ahead.By acting on this thought passive agressively(dangling the truck issue and how you are going about it's retrieval or not) is a self made situation and very contrived to stay in touch with him.You should admit to yourself that it is a control issue on your part.You are expecting him to keep up any type of contact and be fine with it.Sometimes a friendship with the ex just can't happen.You are expecting him not to be hurt,not to act way differently than you think he should react to you and then you get upset because he's being all pissy..So,he's suppose to be "thinking" while you diddle around.Do you really expect him to say,"gee this break up thing is working well for me also,no "issues" here".By his behavior,he is sending you the message ,"no it is not okay".Not everyone has to roll with being in a murky-I'm-still-friends-with-my-ex- head place because one person won't let it go.You want-I'm not dating you,but I am still part of your life whether you want it or not,and he's suppose to say,'sure ,if it's working for you then that's all that matters".You are trying to put him in a box and save him for plan b ,when you get tired of playing with the Aqua.Make up your mind,either you can go get the truck or he's resisting it.Did he ask for the space or did you deciede to give it to him?If you know that Virgo are all business,then what makes you think you can change that dynamic.If you really respected jug boy,then you would have got this cleaned up asap and concentrate on what's in front of you.Basically here you're asking how to keep the Virgo on the back burner(by getting Virgos would be reactions to aid you in keeping him tied in emotional strings),rather than give him an honest break up and hope that he is still single when you get back from your little adventure.

I never said that I hate any or all Cancers,dear.You projected that one onto me.I don't have the "animosity",you seem to think that I have.I just gave you what you wanted..".As far as my ex,and Christmas break up ,was to put lid on a dying relationship.Someone had to do it.I took responsibility to not let it drag on.I have seen the post friend break up routine,it turns sour,when someone gets a new mate.Wanna see thinly veiled pleasnatries,sheeeh.

*thinks to self* should I respond now or later or not at all to PA.Let's think about this logically.Well,if I respond now,she would think that I was upset and that she has made some sort of great point on her imaginary score card.But If I respond later then she thinks that she's scared me off the forum and everyone is stuck llistening to her as if she's some sort of authority on,on,on,what?oh yah,Virgos.And if I don't respond at all she'll think.... Hmmmm.It is interesting how she waited to jump in to say something when I was just clarifing my positon with something that had nothing to do with her.Maybe she's upset because she thinks that I stole her shtick or that I answered before she did.No,no,wait,I get it now,her broken record tactic, expecting me to start a pissing contest with her in the middle of someone elses',hoping I'll rant wildly.Then she'll befriend the op and say something like-see,Virgos feel the need to defend themselves, ::: shakes head:::

I have heard you Vulcanlass... I have stated my intentions, and rationals. There are no ulterior motives here. I have no reason to hide my intentions. If you can't take it for what I said it is, so be it. Maybe you should consider that there ARE nice people in this world. Thank you for your opinion. Have a pleasant night.