Aqua messing up w a Gemini man.

So yeah, here it goes, This is a very aqua thread language.

I started seeing a Gemini man. here's the Butter... I drove to his house, we sat down, he jumped all over me ( I didn't even have time to realize if I really liked him ) but he kissed me, touched me, and it led to a Great Sex session. Boom ! there's that.

A week after, We talk again, I drive to him again, Boom ! again jumps all over me as soon as I cross the entry door... Great Sex Again.

So even tho, I'm really not thinking anything about it, I have no expectations, we don't talk a lot. it does been bothering me a little bit that he is very pushy and I always end up seeing him when he wants ( we both really busy to be honest, but I have 2 days off a week and he is self employed ) so I think he can figure out better times for us to hangout. I loveeeee the sex. But I also like to talk and get to know the person I'm ducking with. we do talk a little but never things like personal stuff. He don't ask me I dont ask him and it goes like that.

Now, this is the thing.. Even thoooo Im not sure if I really want to Date him, I would want a little bit of closure, (maybe to try and figure out if we got anything else than sex in common)

I know gem are players and I'm date to think he is probably seeing other ppl. But Idk I kinda want to get to know him a little bit more and dont know how to go about it.

Is either that Or I just tell him I cant see him anymore and I dont think it'll work out.

Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

Posted by Arinoaqua

I think you are my age or older...you know how dating works, right?

If you wanted to get to know him rather than fucking why did you agree to go to his house before a proper date?

You should know what your expectations are before you get involved with someone and make them clear from the beginning.

I did not have plans to get into a relationship with him, and I wasn't expecting to have sex with him on the first day either.... he kissed me by surprise and one thing led to another. We are adults and none of us is a saint. just saying.

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Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

I wouldn’t say that Gemini really cares about how early or late you have sex to determine how worthy someone is of a relationship. We will spend time with those we like and if it happens it happens.

Yep. I have never put people into "only fuck" or "date" categories.

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Yup. I have started hooking up with a guy and ending in a relationship.

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Posted by Moon_River

Just put it all out there and see where he’s at. Hopefully he respects you enough to be honest with you and won’t try to manipulate you for his own desires.

See where the cards lie and decide what works best for you in the long run.

He fucked her without even trying to get to know her.. Don't trust this dude at all!

And so did she...

Yeah, but she is making it sound like that's not how she wanted to start things off. He clearly did and went for it. I'm just saying, if she wanted to get to know him first she should have stopped him from getting fresh and been up front about what she wanted from the get go, otherwise she can't have any expectations. I'm not trying to place blame here..

Yeah, she sounds like she didn't want to have sex but did so anyway, which is kind of baffling to me.

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Guys, No, I wasnt expecting to have sex, it just happened. I dont think thats hard to understand.

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Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

I didn’t know he made you dinner. Did you not get a chance to talk over dinner?

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We talk about what we doing at the moment, we joke we laugh, but we don't talk about personal stuff.... I had a past relationship with a Gemini before and they seem to be very reserved with their true feelings... is that what it is?

Like regardless if we just fucking.... I want to know what he likes and dislikes.... i want to know if we have similar interest... if we like things in common.....

Posted by SolitariusLupus

Posted by Onimusha01

Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

I know you didn't, but you were talking as though you were unsure about what you wanted with him. And I just felt that since you guys skipped right to sex you may have backed yourself in a corner.. but clearly all of us Gems are quite different. Lol

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Nah, im good. !lol

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Posted by Arinoaqua

If I’m going to someone’s house for a date I have already decided whether or not I’m open to the idea of having sex with them.

Am I the only one?

I would never go over to their place unless it was with other people unless I felt like I’d be fine if something went down. Same with having people over.

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I have gone to guys houses and just drink and chill... no sex. Im not a girly girl , im mostly around guys all the time. So, I'm also not scare to go to a guys house. I just don't bring them to mine .

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I just want to say that I wholly reject the idea that if you have sex with someone quickly you're a slut and no longer worthy of a relationship. People who think that way are old-fashioned boners.

If you think that's what I am saying, then you've been misreading my text..

I was reading this subtext in both the OP's post and your responses, that if you have sex with a man he will think this. My response is, he can shove that up his ass if he thinks that way. But yes, probably a good idea to get that read on someone before having sex.

Nah, I don't give a shit what he or any dude thinks. I'm mostly just focusing on what she said she wants and she just went about it backwards is all I was getting at.

You're being pragmatic, and I'm being philosophical. What you're saying is probably more useful. lol

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hahah you guys are on your own conversation hahaha idk

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Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

I didn’t know he made you dinner. Did you not get a chance to talk over dinner?

We talk about what we doing at the moment, we joke we laugh, but we don't talk about personal stuff.... I had a past relationship with a Gemini before and they seem to be very reserved with their true feelings... is that what it is?

Like regardless if we just fucking.... I want to know what he likes and dislikes.... i want to know if we have similar interest... if we like things in common.....

Yeah, I get it. What’s stopping you from initiating those convos?

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this is the thing... I'm not yet sure where I want this to go,... And I don't want to make it seem like I want into a relationship cuz thats something Im not sure yet. I know its confusing... lol

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Posted by Arinoaqua

I think you are my age or older...you know how dating works, right?

If you wanted to get to know him rather than fucking why did you agree to go to his house before a proper date?

You should know what your expectations are before you get involved with someone and make them clear from the beginning.

I did not have plans to get into a relationship with him, and I wasn't expecting to have sex with him on the first day either.... he kissed me by surprise and one thing led to another. We are adults and none of us is a saint. just saying.

No, were not and sometimes it’s more fun when things happen spontaneously like it did.

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Heck yeah! I have no complains about having sex with him at all.... if I enjoyed the sex... I can give a butter what a man thinks of me bc we had sex on the first date.... what I think of me its what matters to me... hahaha

Besides, for men it doesn't even matter..... I remember having sex with a guy 30 min after we met and we ended up in a 3 years relationship. Another one I tried to make him wait like 3 months as soon as he got it ... he disappeard.... So for me sex doesn't make a difference if a guy wants to be w you or not.

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Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

I didn’t know he made you dinner. Did you not get a chance to talk over dinner?

We talk about what we doing at the moment, we joke we laugh, but we don't talk about personal stuff.... I had a past relationship with a Gemini before and they seem to be very reserved with their true feelings... is that what it is?

Like regardless if we just fucking.... I want to know what he likes and dislikes.... i want to know if we have similar interest... if we like things in common.....

We are pretty hesitant to open up unless we see that from the person we are talking to. But if we are into you we’d be asking questions about you to learn more about you.

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This is exactly my point where I want to get... someone finally got it.

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Posted by SolitariusLupus

It's too late now. You let him jump your bones instead of putting your foot down, the ball is in his court. Should get to know the person first, but you let him skip right over that. He ain't gonna back track now. So now if you start to develop feelings and think you might wanna date him, it's likely gonna be messy due to the way things started out. And please don't think I am passing judgement, I'm not. You guys just went about it a lil backwards and that generally doesn't have a good outcome.

Uhm. I did not mention feelings, I don't have any feelings as for now... But see, I've seen we are both very smart, and that I like about him with the little talks we have between sex sessions. I'm really not sure if I want to date him and that's what I want to find out... if we have things in common, only way to find out is talking about us... whish we don't do. I though of going with the flow, but I'm the kind of person where I need sex and conversations... otherwise it gets boring for me if you cant feed my intellectual mind as well.

However, on the first sex date, he also cooked for me and he was very proud of it and bragging about giving me the best first date ever.... and of course I thought it was a very nice gesture.

I didn’t know he made you dinner. Did you not get a chance to talk over dinner?

We talk about what we doing at the moment, we joke we laugh, but we don't talk about personal stuff.... I had a past relationship with a Gemini before and they seem to be very reserved with their true feelings... is that what it is?

Like regardless if we just fucking.... I want to know what he likes and dislikes.... i want to know if we have similar interest... if we like things in common.....

We are pretty hesitant to open up unless we see that from the person we are talking to. But if we are into you we’d be asking questions about you to learn more about you.

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i just though of just initiating the conversation and just start asking him, I did kind of told him that I wanted to have more conversations after we saw each other the first time... The 2nd time, after having sex we sat down, he got me a beer and He actually talk about things.... and it was cool.... but it wasn't like about personal stuff.

Like I really have 0 expectation right now... which is awesome and avoids me from getting feelings for him..... but its like i want to have a " Cool Friendship" kinda that. while i figure it out lol. I just dont know how to do it w geminis.