gray area

i was in gray area with a dude for about 3 months, then I had to end it and he proclaimed, "I'm not ready." Well well well now we hung out the other day since we hadn't talked in like a month or so, and he asked me to be his valentine. um, huh— what do I do?
Aquarius, an emotional conquistador ( see this article http://jezebel.com/5022624/dudes-today-the-emotional-conquistador-is-the-new-sexual-conquistador)? Like would he just ask me to be his date to see if I would say yes and then not follow through? I am extremely suspicious here. I was in total shock when he asked me and kind of didn't respond, he had to ask again and I said yes. Ah, this is weird! Advice, help, in general? Aquarius dude with venus in aquarius too, I am scorp/sag cusp, mostly sagittarius.

Are you the Aquarius or is he? If he is the Aqua then I wouldn't personally look too deep into the "be my valentine" comment. If this guy already made up his mind that you are not an emotional/intellectual match for him, then he might say alot of flirty or confusing things with no harm or ill intentions. But of course, it's understandable that the person being told those words can easily be confused and/or refilled with those same emotions. 9 times out of 10, he didn't say the comment to spark up any kind of interest (on your part) again. It was simply just something flirty to say. And of course there's always the possibility that he might've said the comment to see how you'd react. But if this guy already made the decision not to be "ready" & if he is actually content in his decision, then it is what it is. If this guy wanted any kind of re-spark with you, he'd just come out & tell you that he wanted you to be his for longer than just Valentine's day.

Now on the other hand, if you're the Aqua then I wouldn't analyze the comment any more than you have to. If this guy wasted your time for 3 months just to come back up from the water & say "Oh and by the way, I'm not ready" then that means that this guy is not emotionally available (for probably a ton of reasons) & that any kind of relationship with him wouldn't ever be stable & based on secure & mature emotions. And naturally since Aquas are easily turned off by "time-wasters" & people who can't make it clear what they want (and actually go after what they want), this guy should be someone that you should ignore or cut off communication with, since he still has the ability to play around with your emotions, even if just a little bit.

And hey, it might be the truth that this guy likes you enough for you to be his Valentine's gift, but Valentine's day is only 1 day out of the year. The true question is whether or not this guy wants your company or wants your heat for 365 days a year.

Alot of men may have an interest in someone, like everything about the woman & still have the ability & mindset that he can't see himself with her long-term. It's not fair to give "mixed" signals, no, but at the same time men are always going to men. So as women, we just have to learn how to read between the lines. It's not good enough that this guy wants you worthy of for Valentine's day, but not for anything more. That's the bigger picture of it all. And to be honest, he may not even realize how confused or irritated he's made you, b/c if he's mentally made the decision that he wasn't ready, then his actions & words after that decision was made aren't necessarily geared towards trying to rekindle anything. They are just simply words & comments that might not have any deeper meaning behind them

Well he is the Aquarius, not me.
And he told me he wasn't ready but he said we should still hang out and be friends. I said no I need time/space I'll be the one to initiate that. So now he is initiating hanging out and now he asked me out on a date, for Valentine's. It is true it is stirring up my emotions 😢

yeah you guys were totally right, it was disappointingly superficial.i had to let that one go. i did get closure, i am just frustrated now i wasted so much time on him, and i sort of feel conned knowing the whole time he was not ready but he still gave me just enough to hope he would change his mind. oh well ive learned a big lesson!!!