ScorpioFemale79
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He may be leaving.....
My advice is to support whatever he decides to do. If you hold him back, he could eventually resent you for that. If you support him, he will appreciate that support and know that you've got his best interest at heart and will know that you're in his corner. That's a good feeling and he will associate it with you.
Do mean he will be traveling a lot? You can still keep in contact with him and you can see how into the relationship he is if he keeps in constant contact with you. My guy is out of town about 50% of the time and he contacts me every day. It's not that bad them being gone so much once you get used to it. When he is here, we make the most of the time we have together and we are happier to see each other and don't take each other for granted. When he's gone, it gives each of us space from each other and allows us to miss each other. If he gets this position, you'll just have to let go of some of your scorpio possessiveness.
If its that you need him at work, then you'll still be able to talk to him and he can keep you stable and sane from a distance. You can still get the support you need.
Do mean he will be traveling a lot? You can still keep in contact with him and you can see how into the relationship he is if he keeps in constant contact with you. My guy is out of town about 50% of the time and he contacts me every day. It's not that bad them being gone so much once you get used to it. When he is here, we make the most of the time we have together and we are happier to see each other and don't take each other for granted. When he's gone, it gives each of us space from each other and allows us to miss each other. If he gets this position, you'll just have to let go of some of your scorpio possessiveness.
If its that you need him at work, then you'll still be able to talk to him and he can keep you stable and sane from a distance. You can still get the support you need.
Oh and it takes a lot of courage to be open and honest with someone and allow that vulnerability through. I've learned not to regret the openess. It always seems to make things better. I mean, they can't know what you want or need unless you tell them and they won't understand your point of view unless you share it. I'm happy that it turned into a positive for you!
I don't regret being open. I've always been comfortable with him.
But if he applies for that job, its in another department and he'll definitely get it. Because its on a high management level, he'll be traveling alot and in meetings alot so he'll rarely be in the building but even if he's in the building his new department will be in another part of the building so i'll literally NEVER see him.
Plus i don't want to work for anyone else. I really don't. At the time my job was available i was working in another deparmtent and was leaving the company and TOP management asked me to consider (my current position) and the only reason why I took it was because i'd be working alongside/for aqua man who is one of the few people I actually like being around and being able to discuss things with and he's just as intelligent as i am so in some ways he challenges me and I need that to be happy in my career.
I don't want to work for/alongside anyone else. I really don't.
I mean i only took this job because of him and so if he gets that other job then what reason do I have to stay.
But if he applies for that job, its in another department and he'll definitely get it. Because its on a high management level, he'll be traveling alot and in meetings alot so he'll rarely be in the building but even if he's in the building his new department will be in another part of the building so i'll literally NEVER see him.
Plus i don't want to work for anyone else. I really don't. At the time my job was available i was working in another deparmtent and was leaving the company and TOP management asked me to consider (my current position) and the only reason why I took it was because i'd be working alongside/for aqua man who is one of the few people I actually like being around and being able to discuss things with and he's just as intelligent as i am so in some ways he challenges me and I need that to be happy in my career.
I don't want to work for/alongside anyone else. I really don't.
I mean i only took this job because of him and so if he gets that other job then what reason do I have to stay.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I know its selfish of me but he really what helps keep me sane and patient. Although we had an open conversation, I don't think he realizes he actually is important to me. At this stage he said he doesn't know if he wants to apply for the job but I'm hoping if I'm honest with him about wanting him around then maybe he'd reconsider.
I know its selfish and I don't want to hold him back but I need his presence 😢
Thoughts?
Here are mine...
I know it's hard to let go of people who are important to you, but please re-think those thoughts you are having. Especially the paragraphs I quoted.
Posted by BlueSandCacoonPosted by ScorpioFemale79
I know its selfish of me but he really what helps keep me sane and patient. Although we had an open conversation, I don't think he realizes he actually is important to me. At this stage he said he doesn't know if he wants to apply for the job but I'm hoping if I'm honest with him about wanting him around then maybe he'd reconsider.
I know its selfish and I don't want to hold him back but I need his presence 😢
Thoughts?
Here are mine...
I know it's hard to let go of people who are important to you, but please re-think those thoughts you are having. Especially the paragraphs I quoted.click to expand
I don't want to let go 😢 I had a close friend who moved away suddenly (he let me know 2 weeks before he was moving) it was short notice and a shock and I was depressed for 6 months.
But if he talks about it more to me, then I'll be honest with my thoughts. I've always been honest with him so I won't pretend I'll be happy for him because in some ways I won't be if he decides to apply.
We'll see what he says I guess.
And by the way he doesn't need the job, he already owns a business and teaches at university so he pretty much works for this company for fun.
keep that in mind people!
keep that in mind people!
You are completely right and I know you are.
Not that he needs the job I'm not sure why he's applying. More than likely because like me we care about the growth of the company and currently most of the management positions are filled with idiots who make things worse and he knows how to fix the problems, and he does. Very few of us in the company actually know what we're doing.
But as far as my patience and sanity, what I mean by that is he's always has been protective of me not sure if its because I work with him or work alongside him or if its because we've always had a comfortable friendship and I've known him for years. But since the company is filled with scheming assholes, he can't be there to defend me anymore and save me.
Its hard to explain the work evironment we are in but the one thing that we have the same view on is putting immature high school games at the door and focus on what needs to get done and having fun doing it at the same time.
Who will be my butch cassidy 😢
Not that he needs the job I'm not sure why he's applying. More than likely because like me we care about the growth of the company and currently most of the management positions are filled with idiots who make things worse and he knows how to fix the problems, and he does. Very few of us in the company actually know what we're doing.
But as far as my patience and sanity, what I mean by that is he's always has been protective of me not sure if its because I work with him or work alongside him or if its because we've always had a comfortable friendship and I've known him for years. But since the company is filled with scheming assholes, he can't be there to defend me anymore and save me.
Its hard to explain the work evironment we are in but the one thing that we have the same view on is putting immature high school games at the door and focus on what needs to get done and having fun doing it at the same time.
Who will be my butch cassidy 😢
I'm so glad you both were able to have an open conversation about it finally!
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I'm not sure what to tell you because I'm not there. I think unless without a really good reason, trying to restrain someone from bettering themselves is not a good thing to do. I know If it were me, I would probably consider what you would have to say. But, if it was something I really wanted to do, I think even if I were not aware of it conscientiously, I think subconscientiously I would resent you for it or at least regret not going for it.
Something to keep in mind. Probably one of the things you will find most appealing about Aquarius men is you are almost always accepted for who you are usually. Problem is they usually expect this in return. IJS
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I'm not sure what to tell you because I'm not there. I think unless without a really good reason, trying to restrain someone from bettering themselves is not a good thing to do. I know If it were me, I would probably consider what you would have to say. But, if it was something I really wanted to do, I think even if I were not aware of it conscientiously, I think subconscientiously I would resent you for it or at least regret not going for it.
Something to keep in mind. Probably one of the things you will find most appealing about Aquarius men is you are almost always accepted for who you are usually. Problem is they usually expect this in return. IJS
What I meant is that our company is full of scheming assholes and for that I only communicate with a few of them. Him being one of him. Him especially since I've known him the longest (for years) and despite our difficulties I have always been able to trust him and believe things he tells me.
As far as the protector thing. I guess people that I do talk to have always randomly said he's very protective of me, but he's able to as of right now because we work in the same department but once he leaves...he can't do that. Its so easy for these scheming assholes to sabotage you in front of the top bosses.
Plus because I communicate with only the people I trust who aren't petty and scheming, if he leaves, who will I talk to...the other ones work in other departments and unless we take lunch together I don't really get to talk to them.
Plus we share the same visions and ideals as far as company growth is concerned and we communicate well professionally and if I have to work with anyone else, it'll just be daily disappointments and I don't wanna be here anymore.
This is not saying he is going to apply for the job, all he's said was he wasn't sure if he wanted to, because his new bosses would be the two most meanest ones in the company so he doesn't think he's willing to deal with that.
But doesn't this aqua man not think about what'll happen to me without him?
As far as the protector thing. I guess people that I do talk to have always randomly said he's very protective of me, but he's able to as of right now because we work in the same department but once he leaves...he can't do that. Its so easy for these scheming assholes to sabotage you in front of the top bosses.
Plus because I communicate with only the people I trust who aren't petty and scheming, if he leaves, who will I talk to...the other ones work in other departments and unless we take lunch together I don't really get to talk to them.
Plus we share the same visions and ideals as far as company growth is concerned and we communicate well professionally and if I have to work with anyone else, it'll just be daily disappointments and I don't wanna be here anymore.
This is not saying he is going to apply for the job, all he's said was he wasn't sure if he wanted to, because his new bosses would be the two most meanest ones in the company so he doesn't think he's willing to deal with that.
But doesn't this aqua man not think about what'll happen to me without him?
I am dating an Aqua man and he travels like 40% to 50% of the time. I love him with all of my heart and I can't imagine holding him back from his dreams. For one thing if he agreed to it, he would resent me forever and it would kill the love between us. I have seen things get ugly when an Aqua man felt as though his significant other was holding him back. It was like a scary hurricane and though he stayed with his wife because of their kids. He refuses to talk to her. It's sad to see. Now, he could have handled things a lot better but, the fact of the matter is that in mature love there is no room to hold your partner back. If you want to rock the school girl kind of affection that will end up with you crying by the side of the road and having a breakdown on DXPNET then by all means tell him not to take the job.
I am not saying this to be a typical heartless Aries. I just want to be 100% real with you because many Scorp females try yo control relationships and their partners. You cannot control an Aqua man for very long. If you are able to do so chances are you have one surly Aqua man on your hands. Think about it.
I am not saying this to be a typical heartless Aries. I just want to be 100% real with you because many Scorp females try yo control relationships and their partners. You cannot control an Aqua man for very long. If you are able to do so chances are you have one surly Aqua man on your hands. Think about it.
Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
I am dating an Aqua man and he travels like 40% to 50% of the time. I love him with all of my heart and I can't imagine holding him back from his dreams. For one thing if he agreed to it, he would resent me forever and it would kill the love between us. I have seen things get ugly when an Aqua man felt as though his significant other was holding him back. It was like a scary hurricane and though he stayed with his wife because of their kids. He refuses to talk to her. It's sad to see. Now, he could have handled things a lot better but, the fact of the matter is that in mature love there is no room to hold your partner back. If you want to rock the school girl kind of affection that will end up with you crying by the side of the road and having a breakdown on DXPNET then by all means tell him not to take the job.
I am not saying this to be a typical heartless Aries. I just want to be 100% real with you because many Scorp females try yo control relationships and their partners. You cannot control an Aqua man for very long. If you are able to do so chances are you have one surly Aqua man on your hands. Think about it.
Don't think your being heartless at all, and I don't want to be the person that he resents because he'd feel like I was giving him an ultimatum. We aren't even close to that even happening. He's just deciding if he wants to apply or not, and he's leaning towards no but everyone else is suggesting he apply for the job. Like I said if he applies he'd get it.
But once he's over there, I'll be all alone, with some replacement who I may not even get along with...who probably doesn't even care about my ideals/visions/etc. who just wants me to be their work *itch lol.
Have a really hard look at what you communicated with us on this topic then reflect on that sentence:
"and I don't want to be the person that he resents because he'd feel like I was giving him an ultimatum" This is exactly what you're suggesting because you want him to be happy but you don't because then he'll leave.
This has been going on for a long time and when you say open discussion did you actually make your thoughts clear or any part of the feelings you've been telling us? I will agree with you it is a selfish gesture and I hope you realise a lot of what's causing this bitterness is what you have created for yourself.
I think it's time to stop wallowing in this. Get to the bottom of it already, what do you want? a relationship? a confirmation of the discussed feelings? Or just having someone around at work to forever fantasize about?
Do you not feel bad having someone dictate your feelings for however long this has been going on for?
"and I don't want to be the person that he resents because he'd feel like I was giving him an ultimatum" This is exactly what you're suggesting because you want him to be happy but you don't because then he'll leave.
This has been going on for a long time and when you say open discussion did you actually make your thoughts clear or any part of the feelings you've been telling us? I will agree with you it is a selfish gesture and I hope you realise a lot of what's causing this bitterness is what you have created for yourself.
I think it's time to stop wallowing in this. Get to the bottom of it already, what do you want? a relationship? a confirmation of the discussed feelings? Or just having someone around at work to forever fantasize about?
Do you not feel bad having someone dictate your feelings for however long this has been going on for?
Yep me too that's the hardest part because I know he's considering applying because it must be important to him.
But he's human and I know how humans are. They make promises but once they get acclimated somewhere they never do what they say they will do (i.e. "Nothing will be different" or "I'll keep in touch"). I do care about the company but its gonna be a tough battle at least in my department without him.
The only reason I know he was considering applying was because he told me last week when we were having our "talk" for whatever reason. Though I find it surprising that all the times I tried to leave he didn't want me to, but here he is 1/2 deciding to apply for a position in a department that's on the other side of the building, its practically the same thing.
I don't know what's going to happen. The application is due Wednesday, so we'll see what he does. If he brings it up to me again, I'll let him know how I feel about the possibility of him not being around anymore but I'll also make sure he knows I won't hold him back from something he may want.
Maybe its fate. Who knows?
But he's human and I know how humans are. They make promises but once they get acclimated somewhere they never do what they say they will do (i.e. "Nothing will be different" or "I'll keep in touch"). I do care about the company but its gonna be a tough battle at least in my department without him.
The only reason I know he was considering applying was because he told me last week when we were having our "talk" for whatever reason. Though I find it surprising that all the times I tried to leave he didn't want me to, but here he is 1/2 deciding to apply for a position in a department that's on the other side of the building, its practically the same thing.
I don't know what's going to happen. The application is due Wednesday, so we'll see what he does. If he brings it up to me again, I'll let him know how I feel about the possibility of him not being around anymore but I'll also make sure he knows I won't hold him back from something he may want.
Maybe its fate. Who knows?
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Everyone we know has been suggesting to him alot to take this higher position and I know he'd do well in it, but if he takes it, he will always be gone and I'll never see him anymore 😢
I know its selfish of me but he really what helps keep me sane and patient. Although we had an open conversation, I don't think he realizes he actually is important to me. At this stage he said he doesn't know if he wants to apply for the job but I'm hoping if I'm honest with him about wanting him around then maybe he'd reconsider.
I know its selfish and I don't want to hold him back but I need his presence 😢
Thoughts?