Aqua_09
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How do I deal with this Aquarius guy—
Well in this situation, it's kind of hard to make the call of what you should do. If you & him were a little more closer & knew eachother other than just "someone else's friend" then I think things between you & the Aqua would be a little bit more clear & pronounced.
Is there any established communication b/w you & him personally, or is everything you 2 know about eachother coming from someone else who knows you both very well? That's the key. I think he doesn't know much about you & is probably on the "low" trying to find out as much info as he can. I think he might like you too (rather it's b/c of your good looks or the good things he's heard about you) & b/c you & him don't have an established route of communication, he's not going to be quick to rush in & make that move. He's just observing, testing the waters & he's doing this b/c he's leery about wanting someone that he personally can only get to know through what others tell him.
When he found out that you liked him, he might've backed up a little (avoidance) b/c he might not have wanted you to get your hopes up & make a move towards him (which is a good thing b/c that means that he's not sure he likes you & just in case he's right about you liking him, he doesn't want to lead you on & cause conflict).
Plus, it's probably scaring him that he likes you & doesn't even know why, he hasn't had the "regular" experience or practice in getting to know you by being around you all the time & having enough time to critique you to the bone. He likes what he sees from a distance, but b/c he's not comfortable with what he knows about you (very little) his way of making sure that he doesn't let his emotions or his lust for you cloud his inner intuition is to avoid you or have a slight distance from you. It's not you. It's all him. He's doing this out of protection for himself. Oh trust me, he's doing this b/c he doesn't want to give you the wrong impression OR b/c he's not yet ready for you to make a move (just in case you were just waiting on him to admit he likes you). Try getting some personal communication with him established. It'll take away that wall that he has
Is there any established communication b/w you & him personally, or is everything you 2 know about eachother coming from someone else who knows you both very well? That's the key. I think he doesn't know much about you & is probably on the "low" trying to find out as much info as he can. I think he might like you too (rather it's b/c of your good looks or the good things he's heard about you) & b/c you & him don't have an established route of communication, he's not going to be quick to rush in & make that move. He's just observing, testing the waters & he's doing this b/c he's leery about wanting someone that he personally can only get to know through what others tell him.
When he found out that you liked him, he might've backed up a little (avoidance) b/c he might not have wanted you to get your hopes up & make a move towards him (which is a good thing b/c that means that he's not sure he likes you & just in case he's right about you liking him, he doesn't want to lead you on & cause conflict).
Plus, it's probably scaring him that he likes you & doesn't even know why, he hasn't had the "regular" experience or practice in getting to know you by being around you all the time & having enough time to critique you to the bone. He likes what he sees from a distance, but b/c he's not comfortable with what he knows about you (very little) his way of making sure that he doesn't let his emotions or his lust for you cloud his inner intuition is to avoid you or have a slight distance from you. It's not you. It's all him. He's doing this out of protection for himself. Oh trust me, he's doing this b/c he doesn't want to give you the wrong impression OR b/c he's not yet ready for you to make a move (just in case you were just waiting on him to admit he likes you). Try getting some personal communication with him established. It'll take away that wall that he has
Try to establish some kind of direct communication with him. Start your OWN friendship with him so that everything you know about him (and VICE VERSA) came from only you two & not from others. If an Aqua doesn't feel that they observe you correctly & efficiently through their OWN eyes (versus someone else's eyes or thoughts) then they will never really follow through with that person. He's an Aqua & you know how we do it. He needs to personally be around you & know that everything he knows about you came from him being around you & him using his "Aqua powers" to decide if your worthy of pursuing. He's trying not to let his lust or his "pre" hearing about you drive him to make too quick of a decision.
Go up to him. Talk to him for yourself. Don't come off as just "Hey, oh by the way, I like you." Establish a friendship with you. B/c if you don't, he'll only be able to rely off of the person that he knows you through & half of the time, he won't even fully trust that source, b/c he believes his OWN mind & his own observations is the truest source, over anyone else's. He's playing the lust game with you. If he didn't want you to notice him, you wouldn't be getting signals that he wants you to notice him. He wants you to notice him (even though he's not sure if he's ready to make a move) b/c at the same time, he's not ready to completely get you out of his mind either.
Playing "cat & mouse" or "Hard to get" is fun sometimes in the beginning. But after a while, you 2 have to be adults & quit wasting eachother's time & just go for the kill. I mean, come on now, eventually you 2 are going to have to meet eachother half way & just talk already lol.
Go up to him. Talk to him for yourself. Don't come off as just "Hey, oh by the way, I like you." Establish a friendship with you. B/c if you don't, he'll only be able to rely off of the person that he knows you through & half of the time, he won't even fully trust that source, b/c he believes his OWN mind & his own observations is the truest source, over anyone else's. He's playing the lust game with you. If he didn't want you to notice him, you wouldn't be getting signals that he wants you to notice him. He wants you to notice him (even though he's not sure if he's ready to make a move) b/c at the same time, he's not ready to completely get you out of his mind either.
Playing "cat & mouse" or "Hard to get" is fun sometimes in the beginning. But after a while, you 2 have to be adults & quit wasting eachother's time & just go for the kill. I mean, come on now, eventually you 2 are going to have to meet eachother half way & just talk already lol.
WOWWWW thanxxx so much! i tried to make sense of most of it.. from the things that i've experienced and a lot is probably trueee! u seem to be an expert in knowing aquarian guysss! well this is what i wanna tell u..
There is almost NO communication between us, even though he is in one of my classes! but the couple of times we did talk we came across as people who didnt knw anything about each other, i mean we were both faking it basically, but our conversations were GOOD (and i guess this is because we are both excellent conversationalists) he was pretty open considering we're kind of playin stalker games on each other. what you say is true about closing that communication gap because we really arent getting anywhere, BUT the only reason i dont talk to him is because i think im gonna come across as a WEIRDO...he might be quick at making assumptions about my character and think that i wanted him all along and have no self-respect or dignity. i dont knw if that makes senseeeeee at all but thats the way i take it..and i thnk he has pride and he might start thinkin too much of himself if he gets the feeling that he HAS made an affect on me. for some reason in the classroom situation you dont really have a lot of freedom, usually you are listening to the teacher or doing work at the desk..and becuz of tht i dont want to be RANDOM if i talk to him. but maybe im jus waiting for it to happen. AS SOON as we're out of class tho, i think both of us return to our excited state of minds lol and therefore more happens outside class...a couple of times he did some weird stuff around me and we end up having the weirdest coincidences! What i wanna knw is why HE is so scared of making a move, i mean im an Aquarian myself and i still JOKE around a lot of things, i dont really care if he sees me looking at him....and i DONT really avoid him or try to hide but im REALLY GOOD at playing it cool with my feelings...so things have settled if he was initially backing away cuz of me. For some reason i believe he's really good at hiding it too, either that or he just thinks a lot becuz i can never tell if im on his mind in class. BUT if ur right about his own personal judgement of people and the protection for himself then a lot makes sense. Theres seems to be something else tho..i justttt cant figure it outtttt...
There is almost NO communication between us, even though he is in one of my classes! but the couple of times we did talk we came across as people who didnt knw anything about each other, i mean we were both faking it basically, but our conversations were GOOD (and i guess this is because we are both excellent conversationalists) he was pretty open considering we're kind of playin stalker games on each other. what you say is true about closing that communication gap because we really arent getting anywhere, BUT the only reason i dont talk to him is because i think im gonna come across as a WEIRDO...he might be quick at making assumptions about my character and think that i wanted him all along and have no self-respect or dignity. i dont knw if that makes senseeeeee at all but thats the way i take it..and i thnk he has pride and he might start thinkin too much of himself if he gets the feeling that he HAS made an affect on me. for some reason in the classroom situation you dont really have a lot of freedom, usually you are listening to the teacher or doing work at the desk..and becuz of tht i dont want to be RANDOM if i talk to him. but maybe im jus waiting for it to happen. AS SOON as we're out of class tho, i think both of us return to our excited state of minds lol and therefore more happens outside class...a couple of times he did some weird stuff around me and we end up having the weirdest coincidences! What i wanna knw is why HE is so scared of making a move, i mean im an Aquarian myself and i still JOKE around a lot of things, i dont really care if he sees me looking at him....and i DONT really avoid him or try to hide but im REALLY GOOD at playing it cool with my feelings...so things have settled if he was initially backing away cuz of me. For some reason i believe he's really good at hiding it too, either that or he just thinks a lot becuz i can never tell if im on his mind in class. BUT if ur right about his own personal judgement of people and the protection for himself then a lot makes sense. Theres seems to be something else tho..i justttt cant figure it outtttt...
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Well one, the BIGGEST trick men have been playing on women since the beginning of time is getting us to believe that confidence and/or making the first move (chasing after what you want) is supposedly some kind of turn off, more than a turn on. Aqua men are very good at separating the women from the girls. And in their minds, they will never chase after you no matter how much they really want you b/c to an extent, they will stop wanting you if they can sense that you are lacking the confidence to go after what you want.
PLUS, you 2 are both Aquas & it's no secret that Aquas hate to go first in anything. We hate making the first move. And in this situation, one of you is going to have to put down the pride and go after one another. If not, all of this "crush" stuff is a waste of time. I can tell you now, an Aqua man is LESS likely to make the first move, over an Aqua female, so if that makes any sense to you then I'd recommend you go ahead & be very direct & go after what you want. After all, the worst thing that could happen is him blow you off & reject you all together, & in that case, I'm assuming you'd lose all your cravings for him at that point anyways. If this guy really is digging you the way you think & the way you're feeling him, then trust me, there's only GAIN (not loss) from making the 1st move. You have GOT to find a way to stop all the kiddish mind games between you two b/c trust me, Aquas are not so desperate that they will keep their eyes on one person. Even though we know it's rare to find ourselves a good match, we will NOT stand around & wait on someone to have balls either. We'll just simply (and over night) stop liking that person all together & in your case, if you keep waiting around & beating around the bush, it'll be just your luck that it's too LATE when you finally do chase after him.
Keep in mind, he doesn't know that you're an Aqua & that you are just like him. All he sees is this girl that he's eyeing b/c he secretely likes her. BUT, a part of him doesn't feel bad for making the first move b/c he sees up front that you are not one to chase after what you want. And trust me, Aquas will relate you not chasing after them, to you not being a chaser of anything else in your life that you want (and of course, that's not a GOOD thing). 6 months from now (if this continues) I'm GUARANTEEING you that he won't like you anymore. You gotta make the move quick & just have confidence that he'll respect you for it more than not
PLUS, you 2 are both Aquas & it's no secret that Aquas hate to go first in anything. We hate making the first move. And in this situation, one of you is going to have to put down the pride and go after one another. If not, all of this "crush" stuff is a waste of time. I can tell you now, an Aqua man is LESS likely to make the first move, over an Aqua female, so if that makes any sense to you then I'd recommend you go ahead & be very direct & go after what you want. After all, the worst thing that could happen is him blow you off & reject you all together, & in that case, I'm assuming you'd lose all your cravings for him at that point anyways. If this guy really is digging you the way you think & the way you're feeling him, then trust me, there's only GAIN (not loss) from making the 1st move. You have GOT to find a way to stop all the kiddish mind games between you two b/c trust me, Aquas are not so desperate that they will keep their eyes on one person. Even though we know it's rare to find ourselves a good match, we will NOT stand around & wait on someone to have balls either. We'll just simply (and over night) stop liking that person all together & in your case, if you keep waiting around & beating around the bush, it'll be just your luck that it's too LATE when you finally do chase after him.
Keep in mind, he doesn't know that you're an Aqua & that you are just like him. All he sees is this girl that he's eyeing b/c he secretely likes her. BUT, a part of him doesn't feel bad for making the first move b/c he sees up front that you are not one to chase after what you want. And trust me, Aquas will relate you not chasing after them, to you not being a chaser of anything else in your life that you want (and of course, that's not a GOOD thing). 6 months from now (if this continues) I'm GUARANTEEING you that he won't like you anymore. You gotta make the move quick & just have confidence that he'll respect you for it more than not
Remember, you 2 are Aquas. Just like you're good at playing your feelings cool, so is he & MOST other Aquas. 2 Aquas in relationships is a wonderful thing b/c of the similar mindsets & similar thought processes between both people. BUT the hardest part in 2 Aquas being together is how they actually meet & make it official. Just like you don't want to appear to be a "weirdo" he's feeling the exact same way. And just like you have alot of pride & aren't one to chase after someone first (or make the first move) he is the SAME way.
It would be a terrible thing to know that you 2 would've been great for eachother had one of you just stepped up to the plate & made the first move. Compatibility & love is such a rare thing & it'd be a shame to know that 2 people couldn't & refused to establish that b/c of pride & shyness. Go after what you want. You'd be suprised. All it might take is for you to make the first move & from then on he might become an open book to you (and hopefully make you feel it was worth it to chase after him).
I'm not saying go up to him and say "I want you right now" b/c I know as an Aqua you'd never do that, regardless of how much you wanted that person. You're an Aqua, come on! Use that creative mind of yours to find a way to get this guy to realize what he's missing out on. He won't believe that he's missing out on something he can't see, or hasn't gotten to know yet.
It would be a terrible thing to know that you 2 would've been great for eachother had one of you just stepped up to the plate & made the first move. Compatibility & love is such a rare thing & it'd be a shame to know that 2 people couldn't & refused to establish that b/c of pride & shyness. Go after what you want. You'd be suprised. All it might take is for you to make the first move & from then on he might become an open book to you (and hopefully make you feel it was worth it to chase after him).
I'm not saying go up to him and say "I want you right now" b/c I know as an Aqua you'd never do that, regardless of how much you wanted that person. You're an Aqua, come on! Use that creative mind of yours to find a way to get this guy to realize what he's missing out on. He won't believe that he's missing out on something he can't see, or hasn't gotten to know yet.
And hey, I understand that your only way of seeing him through sharing the same class with him, can be kind of a challenge. But then again, that's what makes this all the better. Think about it: There are 2 stubborn, prideful & shy Aquas who secretely admire eachother whom are sitting in the same class together. The very fact that he admires you (and has given you the signs that he does) means that he's already heard or seen something about you that he likes. The problem is, there's only so long he'll hold on to that liking for you w/o personally getting to know you.
Since you both know of eachother through mutual friends then your best bet would be to get the mutual friend slightly involved. It might take an outside force who's unbiased & whom has no reason to use pride to bring you 2 together. The least you can do is try. If you're giving out signals that you like him too then eventually he's going to be turned off, b/c he's going to wonder why you won't just put down your pride & stubborness & make the 1st move. And Aquas love partners that are just like themselves BUT showing an Aqua up front (before he even gets to know you) that you are too shy, prideful or stubborn is not a good thing. Once an Aqua already loves you and/OR likes you enough (on a personal level) he can deal with the pride and the stubborness. But Lord, it won't be something he'll grow to accept if he barely knows your last name.
Good luck to you. I hope you're able to come up with someone creative in order to spark his interest in you even further. Find a way to let him know that you like him beyond him just being your classmate. It's going to be hard & tough & almost like you're not being yourself but then again, it all depends on HOW BAD you want him.
Since you both know of eachother through mutual friends then your best bet would be to get the mutual friend slightly involved. It might take an outside force who's unbiased & whom has no reason to use pride to bring you 2 together. The least you can do is try. If you're giving out signals that you like him too then eventually he's going to be turned off, b/c he's going to wonder why you won't just put down your pride & stubborness & make the 1st move. And Aquas love partners that are just like themselves BUT showing an Aqua up front (before he even gets to know you) that you are too shy, prideful or stubborn is not a good thing. Once an Aqua already loves you and/OR likes you enough (on a personal level) he can deal with the pride and the stubborness. But Lord, it won't be something he'll grow to accept if he barely knows your last name.
Good luck to you. I hope you're able to come up with someone creative in order to spark his interest in you even further. Find a way to let him know that you like him beyond him just being your classmate. It's going to be hard & tough & almost like you're not being yourself but then again, it all depends on HOW BAD you want him.
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