Its so hard not to contact Aqua for answers.

My Aquarius man has Venus in Aries so he came on very strong in the beginning...now after 6 months he has totally cooled off. I have found myself doing most of the contacting over the last week since I had a little emotional outburst on Wednsday(he came over for an hr and left), but he still responds and we have great conversation via text...it takes him a few hours to respond now though.

I've noticed that the course of events that have recently occured in my relationship are what usually happen when things are coming to an end. However, I've also noticed that other ladies dating this sign who back off and give him his space usually fair well...is it really that easy? Is that REALLY all aquarius men need is space. What else can I do?

Even with the distance he is still the kindest and most captivating man i've met in life. Its just so hard not to want to know why he's gone distant. I really would love some help...I'm slowly sinking. 😢

Posted by AquaLady
My Aquarius man has Venus in Aries so he came on very strong in the beginning...now after 6 months he has totally cooled off. I have found myself doing most of the contacting over the last week since I had a little emotional outburst on Wednsday(he came over for an hr and left), but he still responds and we have great conversation via text...it takes him a few hours to respond now though.

I've noticed that the course of events that have recently occured in my relationship are what usually happen when things are coming to an end. However, I've also noticed that other ladies dating this sign who back off and give him his space usually fair well...is it really that easy? Is that REALLY all aquarius men need is space. What else can I do?

Even with the distance he is still the kindest and most captivating man i've met in life. Its just so hard not to want to know why he's gone distant. I really would love some help...I'm slowly sinking. 😢

hmmmmm i believe ALL men need space every once in awhile. They don't want you all into their butt 24/7. I mean, they like that you care and are always around and being there alot, but jesus louise, sometimes a man wants to go into his garage and make things or take care of his car or build something. Unless you're there beside him handing him tools, or helping him or getting under the car.

Have your own HOBBIES, girl. Believe me, men will come running to you like you're a pot of honey. They just don't know what to do with you because they see a woman who needs them and also doesn't need to be tied around with a rope.

Read this article??

http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2572759-why-men-love-bitches-from-doormat-to-dreamgirl---a-woman-s-guide-to-hol<BR>
A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

—Many people lack the basic equipment to be in a relationship and there's nothing you can do to change it. You can't take a skunk and dip it in per

—Many people lack the basic equipment to be in a relationship and there's nothing you can do to change it. You can't take a skunk and dip it in perfume and hope it becomes a puppy. Eventually, the perfume will wear off and you'll still have a skunk on your hands.??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

—Men don't respond to words. What they respond to is "no contact".??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
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—Once you start laughing, you start healing.??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
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—You always want what you can't have.??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
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—The bitch does not stop moving to her own rhythm. This, in and of itself, prevents her from becoming off-balance like a nice girl who abandons her routine.??
?? Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

All quotes from link. women should get it to help them out, cause it seems alot of men are just disappearing from them.

now i dont recommend being a bitch but somehow the article explains that the opposite of DOORMAT is being a bitch. *shrug*

AquaLady,
I agree it is difficult to give them that space.. I mean us women like our space too but for men it seems like they like days or even weeks of space to come to terms with what ever emotions they feel. Or do there own thing. From my experience and what i have been advised on here, is that keep yourself busy.. thinking too much into it is just going to put you down just thinking about it. He will come to you.. he likes you.. he's interested in you. Aquas are all known to be independent and like space to do there own thing.

Have you spoken to him directly if everything is ok? Something bothering him?

I've been with an aqua for little over a year now and yes, it's hard to sit back and give that space. I let mine contact me first about 80% of the time. It feels much better to know he thinks about contacting you and does so because he wants to than to think he's responding because he has to out of politeness. Plus, when there is a delay in response (hours) it doesn't drive you crazy feeling ignored and wondering why they haven't responded yet.

I suggest waiting on him to contact you next. But after a week or so, I'd send a quick cute text like "Hey you! Just wondering how you are and how things are going in your world. So what's new? Aliens come get you yet? hahahaha!". Or something extremely silly that will make him laugh because then he'll remember how fun you are. (In case my text suggestion sounded stupid, just know I have a goofy sense of humor).

I've always heard if you can make an aqua laugh, you're more likely to be "in".

Stay strong!!!!

Posted by truecap
I've been with an aqua for little over a year now and yes, it's hard to sit back and give that space. I let mine contact me first about 80% of the time. It feels much better to know he thinks about contacting you and does so because he wants to than to think he's responding because he has to out of politeness. Plus, when there is a delay in response (hours) it doesn't drive you crazy feeling ignored and wondering why they haven't responded yet.

I suggest waiting on him to contact you next. But after a week or so, I'd send a quick cute text like "Hey you! Just wondering how you are and how things are going in your world. So what's new? Aliens come get you yet? hahahaha!". Or something extremely silly that will make him laugh because then he'll remember how fun you are. (In case my text suggestion sounded stupid, just know I have a goofy sense of humor).

I've always heard if you can make an aqua laugh, you're more likely to be "in".

Stay strong!!!!

A WEEK! I would die! Funny thing is he contacted me about 10 minutes after I posted & sent me a picture he took of me about 4 months ago in the middle of the night.

I use to contact him only in response...that's always worked for us until he pulled away then I got scared.

I realize that I can get pretty mundane if I don't catch myself...he's probably bored with my "How's your day". He always sends me his highlight of the day which is always entertaining. I stay busy but maybe I'll try being a little more interesting.

Hey, just give him time and he will come around. I have a tendency to do that too...especially if I'm feeling drained or overwhelmed, but it's usually more than one thing that makes me withdraw like that. Is he stressed out recently? Are things going on in his life that could be bothering him?

The worst thing to do right now is to cling, or to make him feel like he is being clinged onto. Keep your distance but still make contact and be sure to ask him how he's doing. Also, be wary about bringing up anything "heavy" or your outburst until he brings it up, if he does.

He's actually has a lot going on in his life right now (finances & friends). He's also been sick. So, his behavior is definitely justifiable. It's just hard when you have everything you've ever wanted right in front of you...aqua men are amazing...the slightest movement in the wrong direction is disheartening.

The other day I told him I wasn't contacting him anymore because he takes hours to respond now. He just ignored me and went right back to normal conversation...I think he's getting use to my outbursts but I need to get a grip!

Posted by Angeleyes17
AquaLady,
I agree it is difficult to give them that space.. I mean us women like our space too but for men it seems like they like days or even weeks of space to come to terms with what ever emotions they feel. Or do there own thing. From my experience and what i have been advised on here, is that keep yourself busy.. thinking too much into it is just going to put you down just thinking about it. He will come to you.. he likes you.. he's interested in you. Aquas are all known to be independent and like space to do there own thing.

Have you spoken to him directly if everything is ok? Something bothering him?

Thanks Angel! He says everything is ok but I know he's dealing with a few things at the moment. I just need to be that understanding partner that stays supportive/positive and doesn't add extra strife when he's going through something. I stay pretty busy so I'll just add something to get me through the tough times??_specially since they??ll be occurring more frequently :-) Maybe I??ll start blogging.

Posted by AquaLady

Posted by truecap
I've been with an aqua for little over a year now and yes, it's hard to sit back and give that space. I let mine contact me first about 80% of the time. It feels much better to know he thinks about contacting you and does so because he wants to than to think he's responding because he has to out of politeness. Plus, when there is a delay in response (hours) it doesn't drive you crazy feeling ignored and wondering why they haven't responded yet.

I suggest waiting on him to contact you next. But after a week or so, I'd send a quick cute text like "Hey you! Just wondering how you are and how things are going in your world. So what's new? Aliens come get you yet? hahahaha!". Or something extremely silly that will make him laugh because then he'll remember how fun you are. (In case my text suggestion sounded stupid, just know I have a goofy sense of humor).

I've always heard if you can make an aqua laugh, you're more likely to be "in".

Stay strong!!!!

A WEEK! I would die! Funny thing is he contacted me about 10 minutes after I posted & sent me a picture he took of me about 4 months ago in the middle of the night.

I use to contact him only in response...that's always worked for us until he pulled away then I got scared.

I realize that I can get pretty mundane if I don't catch myself...he's probably bored with my "How's your day". He always sends me his highlight of the day which is always entertaining. I stay busy but maybe I'll try being a little more interesting.

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Funny, I get the highlight too. It's like "did this and this today" or "got this and this done". Never hi, how are ya. So I try to follow suit and be more entertaining. And I can tell when the texting conversation gets boring or there's not much excitement, he signs off faster, so I try to keep it to more interesting topics. One day it was the zombie apocalypse for crying out loud!!! But we did make a lot of jokes about it. lol!

Seriously, chill out on the Aqua man. Getting hobbies are important. Volunteer for a charity. Aqua men for me are actually really easy to deal with because they are a fixed sign. I always know what they are going to say next...I just managed to look surprised at their "random" outbursts. 🙂

Yeah, I agree with firewater. They're not that hard if you can deal with your own insecurities. That's where women have problems. The longer you are with him, the more secure you'll be because you'll either be used to it or will figure out it is a routine and consistent behavior for him. They definitely need a secure and independent woman!

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
Seriously, chill out on the Aqua man. Getting hobbies are important. Volunteer for a charity. Aqua men for me are actually really easy to deal with because they are a fixed sign. I always know what they are going to say next...I just managed to look surprised at their "random" outbursts. 🙂

I usually stay pretty busy. However, my insecurities were definitely getting the best of me...BUT he's back now. We linked up last night and ended up meeting with friends for a few beers and lively conversation. I guess I just have to get use to him because this was the first time he's distanced himself from me like this. Now that I've gotten a chance to experience it I know what to expect next time.

One thing I am curious about is how often they do this. It's taken 6 months for him to pull away but should I expect it more frequent since things are getting more serious?

You step back and let him make the moves and contact. Then you can judge for yourself whether he's into you or not by how much he persues you.

Decide if this is something you can live with and accept if it does happen again. Who's to say he won't keep doing it or if this will be the only time.