Need help to understand Aquarius man who got

I told him later that hurt me, we talked about it how we didn't plan to move so fast, and he explained he was really busy with work now and made it seem like he wouldn't have time for me, so I (jokingly) said "oh ok, so I guess this won't work since you live far and work so much," but I didn't mean that I didn't want to try. He got offended by that and thought I was already trying to break up with him. I explained I was joking since it seemed he was making excuses but he was hurt and said we can talk in the morning.

The next morning I invited him over for breakfast He came over, seemed different and distant, but I tried to keep it light and cheery. We cuddled a bit but not sexually, although he sort of started that but stopped himself. We started to talk about how things went fast and he said we should have some "restrictions" so that if things don't work out it will be easier to detach if we don't get too physical. I've never had a guy tell me that or want to move slowly physically so I respected that but it also didn't feel natural to regress, filter ourselves or stop what feels like such an intense connection (his words). But I do value that he wants to get to know each other beyond sex first and I guess was just so shocked and admire that that it threw me off. Anyway, he had to go work shortly after but I figured he would at least text me that night. But nothing.The next day nothing again for the first time since we had met.

Next morning I had a weird dream about him that really freaked me out and also made me angry for him detaching instead of talking to me. So I sent him a long text basically saying I thought he had more respect for me and us than to disappear without telling me he wants some space. He called immediately saying we already talked about this stuff and that he felt we're stressing each other out over small things so questioned how it would be when we face bigger issues. Before we had a chance to get into a conversation, he said he had a meeting and we would talk later. A few minutes later he sent me a cute video and a text saying "something to cheer you up" to which I responded "Can I just give you hug right now?l I thought that would maybe calm things down and that he would call me later when he was free.

Instead no word from him all day for the second day. I meditated deeply on this situation to get some clarity. So I texted him tonight basically saying that I realized his point of view and that until he's ready to talk me I just wanted to apologize for my reactions or doubting him/this and that I hope we can get past this as I love our connection. He hasn't responded yet which is unlike him from what I've seen so far. So I would love some responses to help me better reflect on this and how to approach it now, as I'm so scared that I may have pushed away someone who could really be someone I see myself with. I would really appreciate some advice on how to approach this is I really want to be with him. Thanks!

Try not to over think it.

You want it to work but seemingly you are the one actively destroying it.

That's exactly what I'm doing aquasnoz! That's what he told me too. I'm seeing that might be a recurring thing for me once I feel close to a guy. But I don't think I've met a better guy than him before so I'm terrified that my overanalyzing and us moving fast may have made him rethink things with me.

He wrote back this morning to say thanks and that he will be in touch. So I'm trying to give him space to talk to me when he's ready. I just pray that we can move past this and get back to the amazing connection we have.

I guess my question now that I realized what I'm doing and apologized for it and told him I can understand his point of view, is how to talk to him and let him know how much this means to me without freaking him out or making him think that I don't know what I want. Cuz I know I want to make this work and it has showed me a lot about myself that I want to work on. Since he is a water sign it can feel like he flows in and out a lot but I think my earthy ways are also still adapting since I'm so grounded and constant. That balance seemed to be a perfect match until I started over thinking and he freaked out that we moved too quickly.

Aquarius just appears to flow in and out, maybe it's my perception but we've got methods to our madness. PS we're an air sign 😉

Tell him the truth, you freaked out, you like where it's all going, maybe not hold back so much and just enjoy it.

He freaks out because when you put on the brakes, he thinks he's forcing it to move too quickly. Honestly just enjoy every random moment with him, where ever it goes.

Thanks aquasnoz! I will try to do that. I guess I worry now that being vulnerable will ruin what we had, but the beginning is all about figuring each other out anyway, on top of all the fun and intense chemistry.

Just an update...he texted me back this morning to say thank you for my apology for freaking out and hoping we can move past this and said he'll be in touch. Then just texted me tonight at 8:30 to say he's still at work and when I responded in a cute way asking if I should bring him some hot chocolate then (it was obviously a joke since he's over an hour away, but thought he would at least respond).

This really hurts and is so confusing since I can't talk to him in person. He has a really busy and important job so I know sometimes he has to work a lot. But since he went from texting and calling me everyday and wanting to see me so much to nothing and not really responding to me, it feels like he already moved on but hasn't had the heart to tell me. I know all this sounds crazy for just 11 days since we met but it's cuz the connection was so right, that's what made me freak out that it was too good to be true.

I guess I have no other option now than to just do nothing and accept that I pushed away a good thing. Just wish I could hug him right now and take away all this confusing energy.

Hi hellihelli. I am sorry to hear about your story and I know bad it sucks when the things work this way. One thing is for sure: what happened between you two is not an astrological issue and his zodiac sign really does not matter. What matter is that he's a guy. And a polite one. He actually did his best to avoid hurting you. What happened between you two is very common. Two people like each other very much and go on a few dates and everything is perfect TILL…….one of them shows signs of insecurity. And it is so disturbing and so confusing for both "partners". So, I actually don't like to write so many details because you might not be interested but I want you to question yourself a little and do some self work before you go on dating, otherwise, one mistake like this can leave you with scars, making you more and more insecure with each guy you'll be dating from now on. Go on forums, on Youtube and see what self work is all about, search where you did wrong so you know what to do right next time when you'll find a great guy. And don't forget, usually, it is not just you, surely he has some issues as well. But it his problem. Good luck and don't be disappointed. Ok?

@ Reila thank you for taking the time to write this! You're so right and I see I got swept up in all the good feelings not realizing I haven't really made my peace yet with the end of my last relationship that ended ambiguously for other reasons. It's true, at the end of the day it's not about knowing his astro sign and how to approach that, it's about inner reflection and being accountable for our own actions and what they attract. I see that and am more mad at myself than anything cuz he was so into me and instead of going off that amazing buzz I started to question it. So sad that something so good could die so fast but you're right it has taught me a lot in a few days. Just did a long beach walk to clear my head and throw out the negativity in the ocean and try to absorb positive energy and sunshine. I still pray he just needs some time to think but will give us a chance. But ultimately if he doesn't at least I see what kind of energy I put out there that got me to this. Big hugs to all ðŸ'œ

Hey Hellihelli! Yes it is your responsibility to be balanced and to actually manifest it into your life. Words are words, actions are actions. But now I am just wondering, why pray for him to eventually give a chance TO YOU being with him? Why are you lower and why is he higher and why are you waiting for someone to give YOU a chance? What, are you second hand or something? Is he a prince and are you're a beggar? I don't get it.
A real relationship takes so much more than pretty eyes and butterfly in your stomach because eventually the butterfly will go away and you need to make sure the man you choose to obsess over is ready to commit to you even in those times when you will be imperfect or insecure. The minute this man felt your insecurity, is the minute he walked away. It is not because he is a bad person. It is because he is a weak individual who expects his partner to always be perfect, laughing and flirting. He is not ready to commit to a normal human being. That's why I told you in my previous post that you need to make some work within yourself before anything else because the irresponsibility of this man made you believe you are unworthy of him, that you are not enough and you'll walk in life thinking bad about yourself. IT IS NOT WORTH IT! Don't have a walk on the beach honey, go in the centre of the city and look around to see how many attractive guys there are! And yes, some are not ready for healthy relationships, but SOME are, and that's what you need to work for. Work to get the guy who gives you butterflies but stays with you when those sensations go away and works with you and lifts you up. So, in short words, fuck this guy for whom you have walks on the beach thinking you're the beggar and he's the charming prince, and go take care of yourself.