aries & aries - he got cold as ice

Hello!

First, I am new in this forum, but so much in love that any insight will help and secondly I apologise if the grammar is not perfect, english is my third language, so please be gentle.

I am aries and he is also aries (both are born on same year - ox). We have known each other for long time, but haven't seen a 6-7 years, then suddenly we met again and the connection between us was enormous, it was like match made in heaven. First 2.5 months were like fairytale, everything happened so fast and we both felt like we have been together for ages. He was more aggressive, calling and texting every day edc. As we are living in different cities then we met once or twice per week, but it was ok for us. Then suddenly something happened. He started to ignore me, he promised to call me back and first it took some days now months. Within a week he canceled our meeting twice, only explanation was that he was tired. I tried to talk about that, he said that he feels that I want too much from him, what was not true and I know that there is something deeper. When we were together then everything was ok again, he even said that if we are together it feels so right.

I ended it in december, I explained to him that he really hurt me and if there is anything I can change then I will do that, because I really love him. A week later he called me, we talked about 1.5 hour and he said that he is not sure that we should brake up and in case if I wan't to be back to together then it will be ok. We met a week later, he said that he do not have time for me and as we both are going away for few months, then we should discuss it again in spring (but I am the dearest person in world and the only one who he thinks about). Also he included that if we gonna have some romantic relationship with others then we need to let other know about that. Next day we met again he wanted me to stay longer, but he didn't call me, so I called him, he was cold as ice again, I asked if could come to his place and the answer was NO, because he is so tired and will go to sleep, 2 hrs later he was still awake. Next day we met, I asked if he is seeing somebody else and the answer was no, somehow I don't believe that. Next 3-4 days he sent me some lovely texts and I haven't heard from him 1.5 months. Can somebody light me, what is going on?

I have no idea, I'm an aries but I'm not a male. I'm trying to put myself in his position - being an aries and all, but it doesn't make sense to me. I'm pretty upfront and honest in relationships. The only time I might ever seem distant is when I'm not that interested.
I really don't know.

He wants the best of both worlds so he I can only really conclude that this Arian guy isn't devotedly in love with you. Aries can love very deeply and fiercely and this doesn't sound like him at all, how old is he? Maybe there's a maturity factor.

Easy to say then done I know but let him go and move on.If he feel for u he will surely come back after whatever hes going thru and u be in charge then._??_

Thank you.

Yes, he is all most 30 🙂. As a Aries myself I do not understand him, he should be honest and upfront, but he likes to play some games, even though we agreed to be ourself's not wearing any masks and definitely not playing any mind games.

I have thought about it so much and I think there are 3 main possibilities:

- there is somebody else, all though he says that there won't be any other woman in her life expect me.
- he analyzed his feelings and got scared. Many times he has said that he would have never thought that he will find somebody like me, all those months has been a real magic for him. Once he said that I am to good and kind for him. Maybe he is just so scared that I will hurt him, all though I have said that I will never do something to hurt him.
- he really his occupied with his work, but everybody should find few minutes to text or call per week. Especially when he has time for Facebook, Whatsap edc.

Anyway if he is not interested why he contacted me again after I already had ended our relationship. Why bother sending texts that he misses me and is thankful for our past, present and future. He even said that it would be super nice to travel together around the Asia and maybe we find a way to spend some time together as we both are in same region at the moment. So go figure. Ideas, plans and nice words, no action 😢

Yes, that's the thing. I ended it, he contacted me again after a week, we somehow agreed to be together, because we both felt that it is not right to break up (he even said that, if I want to be without him, then I have to end it (again), because he feels that it is right to be together. So I agreed, because I really thought that it was the worst decision what I had made). Anyway it seems that it is right to move on, although I truly love him. I just do not see any reason why I should contact him if he is the one who disrespected me.