Have I waited too long?

I dated an Aries man around two to three years ago, but we lost contact after he had medical issues and stayed at a hospital for some months. He was without a way to contact me and we simply drifted apart. For a time I was concerned he might have just wanted to break away without hurting me by saying this happened, but we are both mature enough to let the other know if it wasn't working out. So I never said a word of it, I was honestly ashamed to even expect him to do that. He is one of the most responsible and honest Aries I have met yet.

A year and a half ago I got ahold of him again and we chatted for days, weeks. Just discussing our lives, our career, living conditions, simple things to pass the time by. Here and there he would hint that we should get together when our schedules were even and we had days off to ourselves. He seemed interested and I feel as though I strung him along too much perhaps, I didn't want to be too forward in case he wanted to take the lead instead. But I ended up without internet for some time before it went anywhere, therefore unable to email him for five or six months.

I got ahold of him again and we've been talking for the past week. Again just simple conversation, light hearted and mostly oriented around how our lives are. When I begin to think he's merely being chivalrous in responding to me, he suddenly compliments me or subtly flirts, asks me about certain things. He always keeps up the conversation, he doesn't let it drop and seems to up the level of his teasing/taunting every few responses. But, here's the thing - I'll mention I'm going somewhere, hiking or otherwise, he'll express a desire to go but says work has him tied down. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, as far as I know he is in management and I respect him for that. But mixed signals leave me stranded, I don't want to push if there's a pull.

Usually I don't care to be pursued, but he has always given me a sense of adventure and confidence when we were together. I am competitive, I adore a challenge - and he was always up for surprising me. It's enthralling if he's trying to be mysterious, but I'm concerned that I might have gone too long without contacting him, or worried he may he may feel ignored. I figured if anyone may know how to read it best, it would be the Aries community.

When is the last time he contacted? Usually Aries are the ones to pursue, especially the men.

He contacted me 3 hours ago while I was out, I was about to respond. And yes, normally I don't like to be pursued, but he has a natural sense of level headed control that I instantly respect.

Scheduling time might be unbalanced. Might sound according on his time, being a manager, when he has free time, he should be the one contacting if he has been wanting to go out, at least. Gives him thrills of the chase.

I try to stay as neutral as I can about these things but I can't help but hope he isn't only being chivalrous. I could use a gym partner or hiking friend, he offered to take me to the gun range once excitedly when I told him I considered getting a handgun license. The closest of my other friends don't share my need for exploit. I can wait patiently however, I'm busy under my roof as well. I almost get the feeling he's playing coy.

Brian - oh yes, I have had many Aries friends. I've always loved how they say things with an assertiveness where most would be nervous. One was so tenacious that, even after asking him we remain friends, still to this day continues to flirt restlessly. I left my wallet in his car once and he told me that in returning it he rightfully deserved a kiss. &As to "won't give you up", you reminded me that this man that I am concerned for now has Rick Roll'd me on many dates. Even bought me a Rick Astley cd out of humor the one day we had gone to a secondhand cd and book store.

Aries is one of the only signs I can remain friends with after a relationship so long as everything is resolved. I can sacrifice romance for an awesome rival as long as they can.

Posted by deivaleonne
I figured if anyone may know how to read it best, it would be the Aries community.

Read what?

I mean, I suppose it depends on what happened as well, but the Aries friends I have, have been very understanding and aren't ones to hold grudges.

&impresssme -- To read the situation.

Posted by starlover
delva who is that in your default pic? 🙂

- Asking me? That's Tom Hardy, as Heathcliff.

Sorry Champ, I nearly missed your response. Yes, I believe I told him over an IM that my internet had gotten shut off for a while.

star, I knew I liked you. I didn't see the older movie, I plan on watching it soon. Wuthering Heights is a favorite read of mine, Heathcliff is my most favorite character of any story I've read.

I have scorpio placed in my Moon, Ascendant, Venus, and Pluto haha. I'll definitely let you know. I adore how passionate the story is, though painful.