aries plus aries - conflict?

I am veyr friendly and open person. I have never had problems in making new friends. The problem is that all of my friends are now or then my sister friends. She is an introvert, more lazy person. Who prefers sitting or being in bed than doing anything.

So i am the alpha, she is beta. Or I am the one who does something and she waits.

The same for friends. It was me who always had a lot of friends, me who always introduced my friends to her. Of course everyone likes her but it was me and its me who must do work to make things happen, friends, work, etc.

I am 26 she is 24.Its always like I make new friends and she is the one that MAYBE gos to a party maybe not and when she does- boys usually chase her because people dont know her- she is new person in a social circle. Because she never makes work to make new friends or make new things happen.

Its not because i am jealous its just not fair. The same when it comes to wokr, studies. She does everything after me.

I had an invitation for a new years party. They are my friends. I mean I had to make work to make new friends. And in 1.5 year my social circle changed for different, better ( i dont know). And she is always after me. SHe stays in the same social circle or even sometimes without, being alone in bed, not doing anything , waiting for everything to happen.

Im fed up.

How old are you?

26

So you hate the fact your coat-tail-riding sis is stealing your thunder.

Posted by joanne_p
26

I asked because this, below, confused me.

Posted by joanne_p
Its not because i am jealous its just not fair. The same when it comes to wokr, studies. She does everything after me.

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Life isn't fair. Deal with it. Speak to your sister if you are unhappy about her behaviour (although I find nothing wrong with it).

Posted by Libramiss
You don't want her to be friends with your friends? Is that it? You said she is an introvert and she seems more laid back. Why does it bother you so much that she isn't as much of a go getter like you? She is your sister. Don't you want her to be happy? It does seems like you are a bit jealous of her. She is younger so ofc she will do studies and work after you. And so what if boys chase her? Why does it bother you unless you are jealous.

You bitchslapped her, I don't think she's coming back.

its always been like this.

she even studies the same because she didnt know what to choose so chose after me.

and she had almost every material, notebook of mine.

i know life is unfair. my friends from my social circle and from group work hard. i work like them.

they have siblings of course they like my sis but its always like everything comes to her more in a laid back way, more uncomplicated because i am the 1st one to make everything...........