Crazy confusion with a Cap girl

Soooo, not really sure what to make of what happened today. Kinda embarrassing, it was! There's a girl - a Cap girl - who started working at the place where I volunteer a month ago. She used to volunteer there too so i've known her a little bit for two years. Anyway, I offered to help her in her job role, kind of like a PA, as I know how hard a place it can be to work in and I knew she'd need help. So, for the last month or so i've been doing that and I really came to like her, and she seemed - SEEMED - to like me. I'm a Virgo, btw, so the connection was there, i'm sure of it. She does have a boyfriend, however, and I don't think I factored that in strongly enough, although, the signs she was giving me kind of made me dismiss him a little bit. Tactical error?

Anyway, so having read A LOT into Capricorn girls I felt like I knew what signs to look for if she liked me. Well, she was giving them all! She was super open with me about anything and everything in her life. Her childhood, certain issues in her life. She smiled the biggest smile any time she saw me. She'd seek me out and come sit with me. But she'd also sometimes bit a lot cooler and distant, but then the next day she'd be back but even bigger and more open. It seemed kind of classic Capricorn. Sometimes there were little tests. She wouldn't reply to the odd text, but i'd always remain consistent, warm and friendly towards her. Some tests seemed even more obviously like tests. For example, last week she gave me her work diary and asked me to look after it for her whilst she did something, telling me to be very careful with it as it had all her ideas in etc. I mean, there was no need for her to give me the diary, but it was almost like she wanted to see if I was capable and responsible. But maybe I read into it too much.

Also, there were two times when I made slight forward movements towards her. One time I gave her flowers (within a certain more innocent context) and the other time I told her she was beautiful after she'd told me she was wanting to lose weight. On both occasions she immediately 'opened up to me' about having seen an ex-boyfriend from 5 years previous and wondering about getting back with him, even though, of course, she has a boyfriend. It was such an irrelevant and random thing to say to me, but me and my mate and my mate's girlfriend took it as her way of letting me know that her relationship with her boyfriend wasn't secure and she was open to movin

on. Again, I took this as a sign. Another weird comment she made was when I jokingly complimented her on arranging the tea and coffee mugs very neatly, to which she replied (with a little grin) 'i'll make a good little housewife'...??!! It was - like a few other things she's said and done - so artificial, abstract and forced, that to me it had to mean she was forcing hints to me into situations.

So all these things are building and each week i've kind of upped it a little bit to give her more of a clue that I like her. So yesterday I send her an email with a description of a Capricorn girl in it asking her if it fit her, as she had no interest in astrology and I thought she'd be curious to read about it. Also, it was a chance for me to make a few comments on the description and how I saw it related to her. One of the things it said was that Capricorn girls can be insecure about their looks, so I commented along the lines of 'I hope to God you are not insecure about your looks cos you are incredibly beautiful'...

I thought I was being a little charmer, alas, this morning I go into volunteer and her line-manager pulls me to one side and tells me that she had shown him the email and was worried about it because of my inappropriate comments about her being so beautiful. FUCK. I'm obviously sat there feeling a bit gutted, embarrassed and confused, but keeping it as cool as a Virgo can. The line-manager suggests she come in and we talk it through together. She basically says that she felt like my comment (plus the previous flowers) suggested I had romantic feelings for her and she wanted to make it clear that she didn't see me like that and that she didn't want me to think she was leading me on. Now, I don't believe she was consciously leading me on, and I completely accept that I came on too strong, that for all my reading up on Caps I ignored the cardinal rule of being very, very patient. But there really were sooooo many signs there! I'm a committed doubter, but in this situation I was like 'she defo likes me!' I had no doubts. But then this. I hold my hands up to fucking up, but I don't understand her actions.

Anyway, a part of me feels like this is another test, but maybe i'm just being delusional. I'm full on baffled. Would a Cap girl go this far to test someone? What's weird after all of that is that she still wants me to work with her, and she was happy to draw a line under it all, and the way she sat there and scrutinised me, it really seemed like I was being assessed in that situation. Anyway, so having played it all down and obviously denying any romantic intentions whatsoever to her I suggest we draw a line under it and she agreed, and we both said we were happy to forget about this and just carry on as before. Which I can do easily, and maybe she can.

So, what do you all think? I've clearly made a mess of this situation, but I find it impossible to believe that she wasn't interested in me, but I guess I took small hints and small movements to be stronger than they were and, unfortunately, responded a bit too strongly to them to the point where this craziness unfolded. Do you think she could like me and still have this happen? Do you think she never saw me like that at all and i've just imagined it all? Could it even be another test of some sort to see how I respond (my response will be impeccable cos that's how we Virgo's roll)...?? I just don't know what to make of it all. Such a weird unfolding. Also, can I redeem myself from here? Even though this has happened, could she ever see me in that romantic light, or is this fuck up forever tainted what could have been?

Okay. I'm a cap girl. For some strange reason, I tend to feel really comfortable with virgo men. Like an instant friendship. Conversation is easy with them and I find myself opening up and telling them things that I probably wouldn't tell someone else. There is a connection there. An understanding. A comfort. A best friend for ages sort of feel. Like a soul mate connection. However a soul mate connection doesn't have to be romantic. A soul mate connection can be a best friend, a sibling, etc.

She most likely felt this comfort level with you. She did nothing to lead you on. She was just feeling the friendship between yall. I honestly believe you read something that wasn't there. She had a boyfriend, was even interested in an ex - this should have told you she wasn't interested in anything romantic with you.

Then, you do a little. She notices, but chooses to ignore because she's probably not sure. You do a little more (the flowers) and it probably started to make her feel umcomfortable because she's suspecting you like her (and you do). Then you send the e-mail and complement her, call her beautiful, and that confirmed it.

She did the cap thing and nipped it in the bud. She didn't need to go to the supervisor for this, but you were coming on strong and it made her feel uncomfortable. I think she liked you as a friend, then you freaked her out.

Yes, there is that connection between cap and virgo, but it can be intense and it can cause some caps to run from it (I have before).

You should have backed off when she told you about her boyfriend.

No, she is NOT testing you. A cap woman does not "test" for the sake of testing. We observe you in different situations. A test is when someone sets up a situation just to see what you will do. Cap women don't do this. We just observe in everyday life and take mental notes of what your character says about you.

Repeat. This is NOT a test.

That all said. Now, you denied the romantic feelings. Okay, that's good. Now, apologize. Back off a bit. Then, re-build the friendship. SLOWLY!!!

Posted by truecap
Okay. I'm a cap girl. For some strange reason, I tend to feel really comfortable with virgo men. Like an instant friendship. Conversation is easy with them and I find myself opening up and telling them things that I probably wouldn't tell someone else. There is a connection there. An understanding. A comfort. A best friend for ages sort of feel. Like a soul mate connection. However a soul mate connection doesn't have to be romantic. A soul mate connection can be a best friend, a sibling, etc.

She most likely felt this comfort level with you. She did nothing to lead you on. She was just feeling the friendship between yall. I honestly believe you read something that wasn't there. She had a boyfriend, was even interested in an ex - this should have told you she wasn't interested in anything romantic with you.

Then, you do a little. She notices, but chooses to ignore because she's probably not sure. You do a little more (the flowers) and it probably started to make her feel umcomfortable because she's suspecting you like her (and you do). Then you send the e-mail and complement her, call her beautiful, and that confirmed it.

She did the cap thing and nipped it in the bud. She didn't need to go to the supervisor for this, but you were coming on strong and it made her feel uncomfortable. I think she liked you as a friend, then you freaked her out.

Yes, there is that connection between cap and virgo, but it can be intense and it can cause some caps to run from it (I have before).

You should have backed off when she told you about her boyfriend.

No, she is NOT testing you. A cap woman does not "test" for the sake of testing. We observe you in different situations. A test is when someone sets up a situation just to see what you will do. Cap women don't do this. We just observe in everyday life and take mental notes of what your character says about you.

Repeat. This is NOT a test.

That all said. Now, you denied the romantic feelings. Okay, that's good. Now, apologize. Back off a bit. Then, re-build the friendship. SLOWLY!!!

Good advice and much needed clarity, thank you! The thing is, i'm not that into her at all, but I was into the idea of the Cap / Virgo thing happening cos it sounded so good on paper. We did / do get along very well but it's not important that she is in my life. I just wanted to understand the situat

Posted by CluelessCancer
You're and idiot and extremely delusional.

I think a consensus is being arrived at. I appreciate you taking the effort to re-affirm your view for my benefit lol. Sometimes that balloon really needs to be popped. I'm glad I got the wake up call now, not later... God, this could have been so much worse!

Yes, it could have been worse. But it's not anything that can't be repaired.

🙂