Does this Taurus man like me?

I am a scorpio woman who has been hanging out with/ going out to dinner with this guy for about 3 months. At first I thought he was really boring because he didn't talk a lot, and he didn't really try to flirt or make any moves on me so I wasn't sure if he was interested in me, but he would follow traditional date etiquette (open doors, pay for the meal, walk me home). Sometimes we would just hang out and have really deep discussions about our interests, politics, philosophy,the stock market ( he's a business major), and our hobbies. He would always insist that we spend more time with each other afterwards, which was surprising because we're two very different people (he's a privileged, sheltered, white frat boy, and I'm a quirky, eclectic, artsy black girl). He claims that he enjoys my company because I'm refreshing and I don't really judge him for his faults. I thought he was just being friendly. On a friday night, 2 weeks ago, I hung out with him at his apartment. We listened to music, drank moscato, and discussed life and our plans for the future. I got pretty tipsy and decided that it would be in my best interest to spend the night. He insisted that I slip into one of his extra shirts before going to bed, and I did. As soon as I got kinda comfy in his bed he told me he had something to show me. He led me to the window in his living room to show me an incredible view of the city skyline, and then proceeded to kiss me. We went back to his room, he threw on a special playlist, we hopped in bed, proceeded to sing Bound 2 by Kanye West together and cuddle. Then we made out. He managed to finger me to an intense orgasm multiple times. I did not return the favor, and he didn't ask me to. I left at 7am. He tried to persuade me to sleep in with him until 11 am. I slipped into my own clothes, but when I took off his shirt he was a little hurt and insisted that I keep it. Two days later I texted him asked him what happened on Friday night, and he simply said that we " hung out". I told him that felt a lot of lines were blurred and that boundaries needed to be established in order to prevent chaos. He basically doesn't want to categorize the nature of our relationship because he wants it to be open to the highest degree of comfort. Can anyone explain what is going on? I'm very confused. Since then he hasn't been more distant than usual, and he's tried to hang out with me whenever he could "assign energy" towards that.

He hung out with you and he gave you multiple orgasms so yeah he likes you physically/sexually but at the same time he isn't trying to settle down emotionally/mentally with one woman just yet.

You allowed the lines to get blurred and then expect/want him to rectify what you allowed by putting a label on it so you won't feel confused. Unfortunately it won't happen.

I wonder if you took enough time to figure out if he truly likes you for you or is he fetishizing you....

If you hang out with another culture romantically as in dating etc take your time to ensure he's truly into being with another race or experimenting. You have to figure that part out on your own. Not easy.

@tiki33 and @CluelessCancer I've asked about establishing a friends with benefits relationship, and he's basically told me that he doesn't want to put a label on anything, because as he puts it " labels and boundaries are just degrees of comfort", and he wants us to be as comfortable as possible with one another.Additionally, I understand what a racial fetish is and thus far race has yet to be mentioned in any discussion other than those involving
social justice, politics, economics, and reform.

What do you want? Seriously ask yourself what you want and how you envision your life to be in relationship to the person you're dealing with.

What you don't want to do is settle for FWB if your heart truly desires something real. If he's not really offering you anything but some conversation and penis well yeah it's nothing really special about that.

The men who don't set boundaries, don't like to create parameters around their behavior do not like any one particular woman long term. They are the hit it and quit it type of men that do not want to think beyond the moment of now.

Race may possibly be the reason why he's offering so little of himself to you. The whole concept that a lot of black women settle for less because their skin color implies they aren't worth the best may be a factor as to why he's offering you nothing but his Penis. I'm not saying for certain that I'm correct but it's something you should give some thought to.

Ask him questions about his understanding of what it means to date and love a black woman. Does he date women of color for fun or is he truly looking for someone to be with and share with.

Also it's important that he's been in a long term relationship with more than one black woman because it means he doesn't have too many hang ups about being serious with a black woman.

Right now, he's not taking you seriously, he's not offering you anything that any other man could offer you. He's not treating you like you're special to him. He's not treating you like he's serious about you. He's being cordial and somewhat attentive but slightly disinterested in pursuing anything with you. I guess it all boils down to what you feel your worth.

If you don't feel worthy of having what you truly need, want, desire then I can see you actively pursuing a fwb thing with him. It's really all on you.

Don't settle because he seems cordial, nice and attentive up to a certain extent, you do deserve what you want but if what you truly want is what he's offering then go for it.

@tiki23 You may be right on some counts.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
He's been spending time with OP for 3 months. I wouldn't be so quick to call him a white devil just yet.

Lol. My race at this point, has absolutely nothing to do with his attraction, or lack thereof, to me. I've met men who have said things that indicate having a racial fetish, and this guy just doesn't fit the bill. I know that he likes me in a way, I just don't understand to what degree. I feel like each time I try to forget about him he just randomly pops up, and the more I ignore him, the more he wants to talk to me.

He's also been in serious relationships before, but he doesn't really rush into things. I feel like he's calculating the risk.

Being mixed I don't expect people to get where I'm coming from. I've been there, been offered less because there is a subconscious thing going on about the value of ones racial make-up so I'm speaking from experience.

Has he been in serious relationships with black women? Just curious

As I said, I may not be right about the race issue but any woman of color would be blind and stupid as to not question the intent if she's immediately being friend zoned.

White devil is never a term I'd ever use since I'm half white...The Devil can be anybody of any race.

I'll move on from the race issue, I've said what I wanted to say.

JK he seems sexually into you but he has made it clear he is not opening his heart to you (not now maybe not ever).

When a man says "He basically doesn't want to categorize the nature of our relationship because he wants it to be open to the highest degree of comfort." It's just a really nice sugar coated way of rejecting a relationship with you beyond being sexual with you. He's not that into you.

It comes down to common sense, he's not that into you (yet), not enough to take himself off the market and become exclusive.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
and the more I ignore him, the more he wants to talk to me.

Red flag to me. Not being consistent.

you're right