has anyone ever

fallen out of love with their s/o? Do you believe we actually fall out of love or is it that once the initial, euphoric feeling has vanished and we are left facing reality or conflict enters, we feel we have fallen out of love? Is it realistic to believe you will always feel that person is perfect, get instant butterflies, can't focus on work because they are all you think about?? I always thought once you get over that initial stage, and if you are able to make it pass clashes that you will come out stronger with an actual foundation that isn't based on initial feelings of lust, infactuation or whatever else? Why do we tend to give up on people once conflict enters??

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fallen out of love with their s/o? Do you believe we actually fall out of love or is it that once the initial, euphoric feeling has vanished and we are left facing reality or conflict enters, we feel we have fallen out of love? Is it realistic to believe you will always feel that person is perfect, get instant butterflies, can't focus on work because they are all you think about?? I always thought once you get over that initial stage, and if you are able to make it pass clashes that you will come out stronger with an actual foundation that isn't based on initial feelings of lust, infactuation or whatever else? Why do we tend to give up on people once conflict enters??

I know my reply won't be as detailed as other people, one because I'm young, and I only had one actualy relationship (last 3 1/2 years and just ended)

We kind of never got out of the "honeymoon" phase. We still argued and had small conflicts, but once we were together and clear, things we're nice. I always saw her as perfect, even if some things did bother me, at the end of the day I loved her for who she was. I did indeed not focus on things, such as a test or work or anything because of my mind wondering and thinking of her. I didn't really ever have butterflies but my heart would race like mad. Course once we got to know eachother better in a relationship way, it settled, but I still got them and when we cuddled or she layed her head on my chest she would tell me "your heart is racing". I noticed she still blushed every now and then too, something she did when we first started dating and she had a crush on me.

We had conflicts since we dated (we were a lesbian couple) and her mother freaked out once she found out. My parents had no idea so we had to be careful. But even then, we hung out a lot and had a lot of support from friends to make our relationship the best it could be. It was "normal" almost.

Eventually she started to see me different, my actions would "only annoy and anger" her. make her "miserable". I always loved her little quirks like emotional swings or freaking out, because its her, I wouldn't change her. But she eventually didn't meet me half way and wouldn't talk about it. I would ask why she was upset, but to no success, she wouldn't explain why. And if I didn't know why, I couldn't know what to fix. I was just being me. I gave her space when she wanted it and

such but I guess she just "fell out of love"

That was her excuse at the break up. Then again she started dating the day after we broke up, so I felt 3 1/2 years was thrown out the window in her eyes or she planned this out behind my back.

Ehhhhh

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I have never lied on here. no reason too. no one to impress on here. why try to impress you when in real life you cant do anything for me. no offense but i dont know you people. so lying on a website where i dont know anyone personally ....

That came from the thread about lies. And as the above stood out to me, I come over here and find it so relevant that it's the answser to your question.

People don't fall out of love .. they open their eyes to see the real person.

people are usually fake during the initial stages of a relating, for purposes of trying to make the other think you are more than you are. Since most people do this .. then the inevitable is going to happen one day.


One day, when you get comfortable and begin to settle in ..... you let the facade down, and your partner gets to meet you for the first time .. and he might not like the real you, and visa versa